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Lady
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(@susiewilts)
Active Member     Near Bath, Wiltshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 months ago

Hi all

I'm Susie, another middle aged lady who has finally managed to accept the feminine side of their nature. It's only taken just over 30 years, enough 'purged' clothing to stock a Primark and a change in society to one that is comparatively more accepting than the one of my youth.

I consider myself fortunate, my wife knows about this side of me and is accepting and supportive, whilst I describe myself as a crossdresser, I believe in modern terms, I would be more gender neutral, swinging between the two sides of my minds makeup, I am (finally) comfortable in who I am and truly blessed that my wife is also comfortable with all of me.

I'm not widely out, my feminine side isn't assertive fulltime, I'm comfortable with the duality of myself, its odd, but there are very definite differences in me depending on what part of me is in the driving seat, consequently I have no plans or desire to transition to full time. My body is relatively neutral, other than a brief experiment with a beard for a year or two, I keep my body shaved now after realising nobody's gives a rats arse if your legs are shaved anymore and I'm fairly certain they never did.

My first 'eureka' moment came unexpectedly one evening, my wife was away for a few days and I had the place to myself (familiar story for many). I was sat on the sofa watching a film, dressed in leggings, simple 'sports' type knickers and a bra underneath and a fleece over my top, wig on, but no makeup. I'd been dressed that way since I got up, I'd been pottering around the house doing the normal dull stuff without even thinking about what I was wearing. I then realised I was sat, with a cuppa, just curled up watching a film, totally content. Nothing sexual to it at all, hadn't even thought about it until that point, but realised that just feeling my feminine side and expressing it for me was what i'd been doing. It sounds daft, but for me it was a revelation into a deeper me that had somehow managed to sneak out and finally plucked up the courage to say hi to me.

 

There's been signs id missed along the way obviously, probably the biggest being actually purchasing plain sports underwear and leggings and not clicking that it was functionally female, rather than the normal sexy female stuff I had previously been buying.

I've realised I'm rambling, this is supposed to be a brief intro and I've turned into my notebook!

 

So Hi - I'm Susie, happy to be me and happy to be here.

x

 

 

 

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Baroness
(@alexina)
Joined: 3 months ago

Prominent Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 325

@susiewilts Hi, Susie, I love your intro! I know exactly what you mean, I had a very similar experience a few weeks ago. Wife, who is accepting and supportive within her own limits, was away for the weekend. I found myself sitting after dinner, wearing my mid length,long sleeved, collar neck dress, quality tights and fluffy mules and just like you, let out a big happy sigh, not sexual at all. Sensual yes but mostly comfortable not just in my Allie clothes but in my own skin. Also like you, it's only taken me far too many years to reach this. Better late than never though 😊.

So, you are most welcome here, join in the fun!

Allie 

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Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 10 months ago

Illustrious Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 2649

@susiewilts 

Hi Susie

Welcome to CDH :}

As you can see, we have quite a UK contingent ... and I'm yet another of those UK girls, here to greet you!

This is a very warm and supportive community. We also love to chat, so a long rambling intro is perfect for us. And what a great intro it is 🙂

I had one of those Eureka moments not long after I came out to my Mum and sister. I was visiting them for my birthday, and we were all sitting watching a film together, when it occurred to me that everything I was wearing was female. Okay it was jeans, a t shirt and a long cardi (and, of course underdressed), so I wasn't exactly vamping it up ... but I'd gotten so used to dressing like that that it was no longer registering with me.

I dress full time at home, but suddenly here I was doing it in front of others. And, like you, I hadn't even thought about it.

Anyway ... back to the welcome! There's lots to explore here. Have fun looking around, and if you need help with anything just ask 🙂

Hugs

Ellie x

 

 

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(@jacquelinelarkspur)
Joined: 4 months ago

Famed Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 1054

@susiewilts 

Hi Susie, welcome to CDH.

It's lovely to see another UK girl joining the site. I'm up north, in Tyne & Wear.

And what a brilliant intro! I know you'll feel at home here in next to no time. Feel free to share your story and ask questions anytime. We're happy to have you!

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Duchess
(@jwhite)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     Fort Collins, Colorado, United States of America
Posts: 127

@susiewilts Thanks for sharing your perfect opening. Many of us are in the same situation.

XXX

Jamie

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Lady
(@helenafield)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Bath, Somerset, United Kingdom
Posts: 205

@susiewilts Welcome to CdH from another UK girl living in Somerset.Secret mature crossdresser who has little opportunity to dress but love wearing panties or thong and short skirt, purged many times but keep coming back.

Enjoy the site

Love Helena 

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Ambassador
(@lucyb112)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 674

@susiewilts  Hi Susie, 

Welcome to CDH from yet another of the growing contingent of UK girls.

What a great intro ! 
As there is such a diverse set of experiences here, a lot of us will identify with different parts of what you’ve written.

One thing that is relatively common is that it often takes us a long while to accept ourselves, as you have said, but it’s great when we finally do.

We’re a friendly bunch here, so feel free to join in the fun whenever you want

Lucy 

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 12 months ago

Famed Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1945

Welcome to CDH, Suzie!

Posted by: @susiewilts

Hi all

It's only taken just over 30 years, enough 'purged' clothing to stock a Primark

If you have purged enough clothes to stock a store, aren't you beyond the newbie stage? You've got the buying part down pat. 😁

 

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Lady
(@susiewilts)
Joined: 2 months ago

Active Member     Near Bath, Wiltshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 4

@harriette ahh that’s true - newbie only to the site 😘 

definitely not new to being Susie, that side of me has been around in some way for as long as I can remember. 

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Duchess
(@river)
Joined: 3 months ago

Honorable Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Posts: 243

@susiewilts Great Intro . Welcome to the crew. Ramble on we all do 😉 Its what were all here for . Cheers RC

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
Prominent Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Joined: 1 year ago

Welcome Susie from another UK girl. There's plenty of us here! Sounds like you are in a pretty comfortable place with your crossdressing. And a supportive wife is pretty much the holy grail. Some of us here are not so lucky. Anyway you'll find the girls here are at all sorts of different stages on their journey. They are all supportive and friendly, and will happily respond to any questions you may have, so make yourself at home!

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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Baroness Annual
(@finallyfiona)
Noble Member     Bedfordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 months ago

Welcome aboard the good ship CDH Susie 🙂  Another UK girl here too.  What a wonderful intro and don't worry at all about rambling, everyone here is so supportive and validating, you can feel free to speak even your innermost girly thoughts.  I agree with the legs thing by the way, I've also been there a while, through waxing.  Looking forward to reading more from you in the forums 🤗 

Hugs,
Fiona xxx

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Famed Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Welcome Susie and a nice introduction. As you see from the replies there are not only plenty of U.K. girls here but many that share your feelings and experiences so you should feel at home. 

Enjoy your time here and hope you become involved in everything here.

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Duchess
(@catherine0918)
Reputable Member     Henderson, Nevada, United States of America
Joined: 11 months ago

Hi Susie!

Welcome to CDH!

Agreed, very nice introduction, and as others have stated, many girls here share your experiences and feelings so feel at home.

I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.

Again, welcome to CDH!

Catherine

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Lady
(@melaniejames)
Reputable Member     Manchester, Lancashire, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 months ago

Hi Susie and welcome.

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Noble Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Welcome to CDH Susie!

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Lady
(@denises924)
Reputable Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 3 months ago

Hi Susie~
Welcome to CDH. There are so many sweet girls here, you will have a wonderful time.

Denise
❤️

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Susie,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Hi Susie nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here .. Well girl as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. With a wealth of knowledge and experience here to tap into you got it made girlfriend .. Look around and explore this wonderful site with lots of reading to do of the forums and posts with a few profiles thrown in for fun.. And so wonderful that your wife is supportive of the extra help around the house and having a girlfriend as well as a husband to  have fun with shopping and just hanging out as girlfriends do ha ha .. So if she and you would be interested there is a group just for wife's here to join just for them selves to be able to chat with other women Called For Wife's and Significant others as i know there great as my wife is a member..

Stephanie Bass

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(@rozalyne)
Noble Member     Shrewsbury, Shropshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Susie,

Welcome to CDH it's nice to meet you we are like one big happy family on here so don't be shy come on in and join the family,

I'm a mature crossdresser I've been dressing most of my life since i was about 8 or 9 years old when i tried my older sister's lingerie on, I'm still in the closet to my wife and family,

I'm a UK girl too I'm up in Shropshire, I'm sure there are lots of girls near to where you live who will be happy to meet up with you for a coffee and a chat I'm sure you will find lots of friends on here so if you have any questions just ask and the girls will get back to you X

Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗

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Lady
Topic starter
(@susiewilts)
Active Member     Near Bath, Wiltshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 months ago

A huge thank you for the warm welcome to all of you, it means a lot. X

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