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Well here we go…I grew up in hell. Literally. My friend’s parents and my teachers raised me. My Bio mother was a druggie and alcoholic. My adopted father was amazing, but he left when I was younger, and I don’t blame him. Sadly he’s passed. I’ve had some failed marriages. Something was always missing, and I never honestly fully trusted them. Honestly, while I was married, I lived most of my life alone. Occupation of x souses and me being in the military was why.
If you ever had that moment in your life where past experiences suddenly made sense to you…then you experienced what I did when I met my CD heterosexual boyfriend. It’s like finding a missing piece to a puzzle!
I grew up in the Bible Belt (primarily) where nothing was tolerated. Yet, every year at our school from middle school up, we had cross dressing events/fund raisers. In fact they still do!! Every year book, has photos of friends cross dressing on stage in our school auditorium!
You have to understand, I am not the typical person, I don’t fit into any “social group”. I’ve been told this all my life, and it’s true. My perspective on things has never lined up with anyone, until I met my boyfriend. It’s almost uncanny at times.
I am very open minded, as he would tell you. I listen, think and consider every prospective. Which is what I did when we discussed this site. Truthfully, I was dead set against it, because while I trust him 110% I don’t trust other people and their intentions. I would walk through fire to protect him (not that he needs it; he’s perfectly capable of protecting himself) it’s just my nature.
The other main concern I had is like him, I am not ready for the sacrifice of my friends and family. I know I will loose some when they do find out my boyfriend CD. I know it’s simple ignorance, but I didn’t find my family until later in life, and so that is precious to me just as it is for him. The one difference is, my workplace would be 100% accepting. Which is cool.
I am a cross I guess between girly and a tomboy. My CD boyfriend has more women’s clothes and makeup than I do! Lol 😂 which I ❤️🔥
Thank you for reading my intro, I appreciate the warm welcomes from the community to myself and my CD boyfriend. 💕
Hi, Angelica, here's another warm welcome then.
First, thank you so much for your open and honest introduction, it sounds like you deserve the happiness that you've found with your boyfriend.
Second, you need have no fears of your respective families finding out anything from this community, this is a safe place. We have a code of conduct that we all adhere to.
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/community-code-of-conduct/
The site management team keep a close eye on prospective members and act swiftly to remove any that violate the code.
I hope this reassures you of the high standards we maintain to keep our members safe.
Now that's done, I'll tell you a bit about me and what I've found in the short six months that I've been a member. Like many here, I'm a long time crossdresser, that had occasional bouts of shame and guilt (entirely unnecessary, as you'll discover when you spend some time here) and what we call purging, throwing away all our lovely things in the mistaken belief that we're done with it for good this time. Yeah, we all know how that works out for us!
I kept my secret for over 50 years, only telling my wife a few years ago and she's been brilliant with me. In the last year or so I started to wonder if there may be some sort of online support or forum where I could find out more about this part of me. I did a search and was horrified by what I saw. Was this really what I was? Unsavoury doesn't even begin! Then, when I was about to give up and retreat into my shell, I found this community and, after a brief look around, decided to join. One of the best things I've ever done!
The girls here are genuinely warm and friendly, accepting and supportive, I've made real friends and, with their encouragement and support, I'll be going out into the world fully en femme in a couple of months, for the first time ever.
As you look through the forums and profiles, you'll see a lot of us saying that this community can and does change lives so much for the better. We are a diverse bunch, some of us very rarely get opportunities to dress as we would wish while others have fully transitioned, and there's every stage in between.
We do have a section specially for SO'S but I know that there have been others like yourself who want to learn more about their partner's "hobby".
Feel free to ask questions, we'll do our best to help.
Oh, and have fun while you learn!
Allie x
Hi Angelica, welcome to CDH.
And may I add my thanks for your honest and open intro. Your comments and observations will have resonated with many of our members, for various reasons.
Allie has expressed things perfectly, and I can do no better than to endorse all she said. This is the safest and most supportive place on the net for we crossdressers to talk about what we do and why we do it. Rest assured that you are among friends here.
Please do feel free to join in on the forums and in the chat. You'll have probably noticed that most of us go by female names. There are very few active female members here, so you may need to remind us about yourself from time to time!
@angelicamonarch What a roller-coaster you have been on. It bothers me when I think how much of our personality was molded by things outside of our control. I often wonder who I would be if from day 1 all decisions were made without worrying what others would think. I hope you find that coming here was the right decision for you. For myself its been a god sent and such a safe space to be yourself. Welcome to the family. have a great day. RC
Hi Angelica,
Welcome to CDH!
Alice
Angelica -
Thank you for a lovely and detailed intro. Welcome to CDH. You will find this a great community to be able to share your thoughts. I hope your CD partner has, or will, join as well. Be sure to check out the forums and articles. There is a forum specifically for significant others that you should look at as well.
XOXO
Suzanne
I agree with all the above answers it is very safe here and all are so friendly.
Hi Angelica, thank you for such an honest and open introduction.
Sometimes life takes some nasty twists and turns and wander aimlessly until you get that epiphany when you find the real self, the true you and the happiness that follows.
But still there may have to be some sacrifices to maintain and progress this new life but doesn't there come a point where it is you that is the most important person now and,regardless of what others might think or how they react it is your turn to be happy.
I hope you and your boyfriend have a long and happy relationship.
Hi Angelica and girl its wonderful you found and joined us here as you have a lot of knowledge here to read about .. You can join in anytime and ask many questions of all of us here we all love to chat and help answer any questions that are asked here.. Have fun girl and enjoy everything here we have to offer in the lines of support we can give ..
Stephanie Bass
