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Good morning girls, just wondering if any of our UK ladies know CD safe/accepting cafes in or around Derbyshire.
im seriously considering going out and just wanted somewhere safe I can get a coffee and maybe a piece of cake.
Any suggestions most welcome, Jane ❤️
Jane, you are in England, most anywhere in a busy town centre is fine, I've found. Chesterfield could be a hot spot of biased extremism I suppose, but I note that Chesterfield had a Pride event in July so it can't be that bad.
I go out shopping and sit dressed in cafes in Plymouth most weeks. In two weeks, wifey and I will be spending the day in Exeter, then there's a play we are going to at our Theatre Royal. I don't really think about going out and about, either with my wife or alone, anymore. The more you do it, the less of a worry it becomes.
Becca
Hi Jane,
As the others have said, getting out and about in a lot of the UK is fine nowadays.
That said, I’ve only managed it a handful of times myself, and I’ve always gone out in another town to avoid being recognised, which, with your job would be a good idea.
We’re not a million miles apart as I’m in Burton. I’ve generally headed to Lichfield or Tamworth, and once briefly Derby.
If you want to chat about potential places to go nearby, feel free to drop me a PM
Lucy
@janelouise I look with interest as I am from Derbyshire but not going out yet as Sarah.
i will definitely keep you upto date with my adventures if I decide on somewhere ❤️
Like Becca says, you really don't need to overthink it. I wouldn't think twice about going en femme by day anywhere in urban Derbyshire, or any of the rural parts that see a lot of tourism - that'll be most of the county covered, for a start. By night, I might consider the area and the local attitude a bit more, but still not expect any problems.
I agree with our other U.K. ladies. I have never had an issue wherever I have been. If you are a little nervy about towns then garden centres can be a better option as they tend to have a more 'genteel' clientele.
@Rebeccabaxter @finallyFiona @ab123
thank you all so much, love the advice, I think my hometown is probably ok, but as I work in 3 secondary schools and the kids see me, it just feels a little close to home you might say ♥️
I hadn’t thought about garden centres but that does make so much sense now and certainly on my list now.
You are right I do feel nervy about the whole thing, but I feel I need to get out..
thank you all so much ❤️♥️❤️
@janelouise If I go out dressed I do so well away from home and work to avoid being recognised
@annaredhead thank you Anna, so do you go out on a regular basis, what was it like that first time, was it on your own or did you take a friend for support?
sorry so many questions 😂❤️
@janelouise I rarely go out. I've done so a couple of times after a makeover and walked back to my car on my own and gone for a drive. I felt like the eyes of the world were on me. The reality is that probably nobody cared. Being over 6 foot, taller again in heels and having red hair means I'd be easy to spot. I've not interacted with anybody in full Anna mode.
I've been in a supermarket in makeup and wearing forms, but with a loose hoodie and jeans on. Nobody seemed to notice.
Driving whilst en-femme is good fun
@annaredhead yes I used to love driving dressed, that feeling of freedom but still being able to be seen what a thrill, I once drove to the coast about a one and half hour trip on the motorway. I had the vision of van drivers checking me out as they passed 😂
@janelouise Last time I did so, I was in a short dress and sheer pink tights. It was heavy traffic and I realised a bloke in a van was having a good look at the ginger haired (me) girl's legs. I didn't dare look up. My car is very low slung so he must have had a clear view.
Hi Jane Louise.
A fellow girl I know, who lives in Mansfield, regularly goes out to the MacArthur Glen at junction 28 M1. She says the shop assistants at M&S and Roman are exceptionally kind. She's also been to Matlock Bath and Buxton and said no one battered an eyelid.
She's trying to entice me out at the moment but I'm not quite there yet.
Chloe xx
@chloenorth hi Chloe, thanks for the reply, living in chesterfield, mattocks a bit close to home, especially when a lot of my colleagues live that way too 🤣 😀 🤣 😆 but I hadn’t thought about Buxton, it is far enough to be away an unlikely I’ll meet a work colleague. That may be a winner. I’ll have to check what’s on at the opera house. That could be fun.
❤️ ❤️
Hi Jane, I've only just found your posting but I am in a virtually identical sitiuation, trying to find the right places to go. @lucyb112 and I are meeting up in Burton this weekend but not dressed, just to have a chat. My main difficulty is that I dare not get dressed at home so I am trying to come up with somewhere I can get dressed, then go out as Rosalind.
One other fun 'problem' and @annaredhead post had me lauging, is that I AM a van driver, so do look into cars but I think if I was dressed while driving the van, it could get some very 'interesting' looks.
I will be watching this topic with great interest. Maybe one day all us Derby / Staffs. girls can meet up. 
Rosalind xx
@rosalinddemuire You've given me the idea of taking my truck for a spin in Anna mode. Enjoy the meeting with each other.
Anna xx
@rosalinddemuire Hi Rosalind,
I think that the right place could almost be like a mythical beast, and doesn't exist or maybe its just in our own minds and we need to just accept that any place will do because generally others don't give a monkies. 😀 😀 😀
Its certainly something im starting to believe from conversations with other girls that are out and about. Maybe i just need to bite the bullet, I have a few days in 2 weeks devoted to being Jane so maybe its time to pull on my big girl pants and do it. 😀 🤣 😀
And i definitely agree, us derby staff girls need to get together, i think it would be so much better having the support of others.
oh and driving whilst dressed, definitely something you need to try I love it
Jane 😘 😘
@lucyb112
hopefully it wont be too long till you do, myself, i have a few days starting next Sunday to myself, im already thinking of what my biggest girl pants are and just do it.
At the moment im thinking of heading towards derby, for my first excursion...
😍 😀 🤣
Sounds exciting. I’m thinking of heading to Derby soon.
So is that a few days from Sunday 27th?
@lucyb112
Yep the family will be catching a 10ish train on Sunday 27th (i will drop them off) and I have till they get back on Tuesday evening.....
Its sooo exciting. 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Yes, I haven’t had that luxury this year so far, although there is a window in December.
I would offer to try and join you, but I’m catching a plane next Sunday.
One day xx
Thank you so much for the offer Lucy, its so kind of you...
Well if not this time maybe another time. I have a couple of long weekends booked off as well before the end of the year ill drop you a message maybe they will line up...
😀 😀
Coffee shops are great places to go. Never a problem and the added bonus that they usually have gender neutral toilets. My preference is Costa, but Starbucks have this thing where they take you name and call it when your drink is ready.... Always special hearing your name being called!
Cerys
@dazzler thanks Cerys
I hadn't thought of Costa and Starbucks, thinking about it they are more likely to have policies that are more friendly and more likely to have gender friendly loos too.
Love the idea of having my name called out too 😀 😆 ❤️ ❤️
Yes I’ve used both.
The gender neutral toilets can be pretty useful too, so that’s something to consider wherever you go.
Yes, it’s great having your name called out
I made a promise I would not go out dressed as Coleen to my wife. And have managed to keep that promise so far. The reason, I do not want to rock the boat as it were. My wife is fine with me taking my fem clothing and joining in at a trans meeting at the LGBT hub in Edinburgh. It happens once a month and I just wish it was more often that I could dress with others.
