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She was like this one other time but not as angry and it just went away in a couple days but I don't know about this time 
Hiya Michelle 😍
sorry to hear that you have been miserable about this for such a long time. I cannot in anyway say what it is that your wife is upset or being prickly about, it could be the hair colour, it could be something else that was/is going on in her life around the same time. There really is only one way to find out, communication...like with everything communication is the only way out of this hole I would say.
I am trying to put myself into your situation , I have only recently found out about my husbands dressing and am in the honeymoon phase, we are doing the shopping thing, I am buying her things and its fun, we have been buying various wigs and I have to admit I do have my own favourite, the blonde one.....and it seems that I am getting used to her being a blonde.
I have a few questions really, one is are you as a man brunette? if so, perhaps she has been able to accept that you like to dress this way, but that might be a comfort thing for her being near to your natural colour? OR, my other thought, is like with me liking the blonde side of my husband, and getting used to her being around, I am wondering if in a few months she suddenly wanted to go another colour, if this might upset me, i cant say if it would or not, however it might just be that I have got used to , as much as I can the female version of my husband as a blonde and then maybe if he decided he wanted to go to a redhead I might feel its just too much as too many changes all over again. Perhaps its triggered something in her, and she may feel that she may have to go back to getting to know you all over again.
I know its just a hair colour, but i just wondered these things, I do think though, although I am a female and as an adult if I wanted to change my hair colour then I am more than able to do so, I would definitely talk to my husband before hand and explain I wanted to give it a go, and listen to him if he had concerns. I may still do it if he didn't want me to, don't get me wrong, but I think if i did then it would be on me to accept that it might upset him and cause a bit of an issue if I went against him opinion anyway.
I don't think there is anything wrong with what you did, nor how she reacted, but I really hope that you can talk about it to each other, work out what exactly it is that is upsetting or upset her. You also said after that incident, you didn't talk with her about shopping or dressing for a few weeks, then when you did she was mean.....just to add another thing that may/may not be the case, there is a chance that by you not talking to her about your female side for a while after, PLUS trying the blonde even though she didn't want that, she may have felt pushed out, after all you were doing things or she thought as a team , exploring the female side together (and all we wives want, particularly after finding all this out) is to feel included, like we have an opinion and are equal, she may have felt that all of this meant you were pushing her away and didn't need her input anymore, and this might be the issue all along.
Please talk to her, and also update us, it would be great to hear how this hopefully was resolved.
PS: If your wife ever wanted to come join CDH, I would love to chat with her one day, there is a SO area where she can chat and gain support from other SO's as well as of course chatting to all the other wonderful CD's too. It has been invaluable to me so far.
Lots of hugs - Laura xx
We cannot know what is going through her mind. To me she seems to be very supportive but she seems to be buying things and perhaps has control over you, going blond was not in her control so is that what tipped her?
There is a common thread where partners are okay in some form or another but if a crossdresser moves forward without thinking there can be an adverse reaction. It may not be much to you but to a partner it is biblical.
I hope you can resolve your issue and go back to how it was.
Talk to her, no matter what the outcome is you can't continue to go on waiting to find out what's bothering her.
Lacy
you need to talk to her, ask if it's about going blonde
Your wife says no to going blonde, and you went blonde.
My wife is fully supportive. I spend the majority of my time as Cerys. She has a few rules. No name, no nails, no second ear piercings.... No wigs. I have long hair so not a big issue.
If I ever brush on any of these, she gets very prickly. She has her reasons for these rules, but I'm never clear on why she had them. No wigs, yet I have my hair styled in a female style.... Can't work that out 🙂
The answer is... If your supportive wife has rules STICK TO THEM!!!!! 😉
Cerys
My wife is very supportive, same as yours buying me things, going out and all, but sometimes when she feels that I'm getting to girly she tends to get upset. I have to respect that she married my male side and Emily hasn't been around as long.
You probably looked very good and she was hesitant to say so. She most likely wants to encourage you, but not too far.
My wife is fully accepting and so helpful. Yet if I feel especially nice in an outfit and present it to her for her opinion she always says "That looks pretty". She never says "You look pretty". Once I asked about it and said "The outfit looks pretty or I look pretty?" Her response was "both". But still she never says that I do.
It's probably a defensive thing. She wants to say something nice and encouraging but not say too much for fear things will escalate too far.
Talk to her. Communicate. Be open and honest and ASK her about it. Uncover HER feelings.
