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I have been dressing for a very long time, and I have been going out in public for over 25 years. Last night I had my first very creepy encounter that left me quite shaken, and has prompted me to let you all know to be careful.
I went to Barnes and Noble at about 6.30 pm, just dark, and parked in the lot outside the main entrance. Next to me and facing the other way was a silver SUV, and the parking spaces were kind of inclined so his rear end was about in line with my passenger door. I got out and walked over to the main door of B&N which was across the road and about 150 feet away.
As I approached the door, a man and what I presumed was his son, about 12 years old, was walking toward me from inside, the lights were bright in there, and there was just something about him that I immediately did not like. I become attuned and very sensitive to some people when I am out, so I turned around and walked back towards the car.
He and his son overhauled me and they waled to the SUV parked next to me. As he passed, he turned and stared hard at me with a creepy little smile. As they got to the SUV, he stopped and stared at me again, while the kid got into the passenger seat. I ignored him and got into my car, head down. I sat in there waiting for them to leave, but their car did not move. I was looking down at my phone, but had an odd feeling. I looked up, and the man was at the rear of the SUV, close to my passenger window, semi crouching and gazing into my car.
This got me scared, so I drove away and around the mall parking lot to get away from him. As I drove off, I saw his car start to move, so I figured he was leaving. I took a longer way around, and returned to the same area outside B&N to go back in. Then as I got out to go in the store, the SUV drove up again and parked close behind me. That really rattled me!
I got back in my car, and as I pulled away again, the man was standing at the back of my car! I drove away and around to the back of the mall where I had just seen a cop car driving. Sure enough, the SUV followed me again! I saw the cop parked around the back, so I drove up and parked close to him. The SUV came around the corner, saw me and the cop, and made a quick U turn and drove away. I breathed again!
Be careful out there. I am not sure whether he made me and was curious, or if he just liked the look of me in my leggings and boots, but whatever, it was frightening. He was very persistent, and I cannot imagine what his boy was thinking...
oh my Laura that was scarey and you handled it very well hon.
Wow that does sound crazy scary! Glad you are ok and found a safe place to deter the a-hole from following you. Hugs.
Often when I go out it is just to do short errands. I have been cat called and yelled at from a distance and in very clear and concise language, been told what they would like to do with me. I've been called to from up closer and even followed a few times. I guess my heels, shiny pantyhose and short dresses get attention.
The first time and every time after it happened I realize girls go through this all the time. Maybe that's why many dress down to not just blend in but try to be invisible to aggressive predators.
I'm glad your situation ended as well as could be. Still, being stalked for what ever reason is unnerving.
We face many challenges when we are out and about. The 'bathroom' debate in the US has caused some to think anyone who crossdresses is some kind of sexual predator. Perhaps that was what he was thinking, hence why he wanted to check you out and follow you around. He probably recorded your vehicle number plate, maybe to report you as acting suspiciously. Remember, some people only have bad publicity as their only information source about us.
I think the safest option would have been to seek the company of others in the store and if you were concerned, call the police. You'd seen one nearby so they should not have taken long to arrive and they could have found out what he was up to.
Women face predatory behaviour every day and some experience sexual harassment or assault. That's why many dress down, as was suggested. I think dressing conservatively, so as not to be noticed, is the safest option if we are going somewhere alone.
We have even more reason to play safe.
This has always been something I’ve thought about. I have a CCW and the few times I’ve gone out dressed, I’ve always made a point to carry even if it makes my purse a little heavy.
I am pretty sure he was not trying to act the concerned citizen and report me for acting suspiciously. I was simply walking back to my car in a perfectly normal way. I can pass quite well, especially in the dark. When he was at the rear of his vehicle, it was definitely to ogle me thru the window, and he did not seem too concerned I might see him. I have had men hit on me before, but not in a creepy way, even when they had a few drinks, but this was different. He was a stalker.
Laura : as much as we dislike hearing these disturbing encounters I am so happy that you were safe and happy that you told this story to let everybody know to be on guard and be careful out there . I've always read and heard that it's better to be safe and numbers I personally have never been out but if I ever do I would love to go with somebody else for the security of having them with me. it's important that all of us be aware of your surroundings . Thank you for sharing, we should never forget to leave our guard down. 🌹
Laura. Thank you for sharing your story...it is very important that WE have to be careful out there..
You also have the blessing and the curse of being really beautiful. I know it's not easy for a man to not be attracted to and mesmerized by a beautiful woman. Still, looking, admiring and appreciating is a long way from stalking.
