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I've known for some time that I need to build up my confidence and kick my dressing up a notch. This is especially important for me, so I can eventually go out en femme with other, local CDH girls. I had never been out in daylight in a skirt or my wig. So, this morning, I got up, shaved everywhere, and dressed. I wore a candy apple red skort, this really light, airy white top with elbow length sleeves, and my wig. And, I walked out to my car, got in, and drove away.
The drive was initially scary, thinking every person that passed me was going to stare and know who I was. But, I survived the drive and pulled in to the park I frequently go to hike/walk. There were some people there, but it wasn't too busy. I have a pair of big sunglasses that I wear out around others, having my eyes concealed like that gives me a little feeling of security for some reason. And I had a mask, that I pulled up over my face whenever I got near anyone too.
So, I got out, and started walking. I told myself to just pretend that I'm not wearing anything unusual or different. And I walked. I encountered a couple other families and a couple individuals on the trails, but no one said anything more than hi.
The wig was kind of hot, but felt great to have that as part of my look. And it was quite a sensation to feel the breeze blow hair in my face. I know most people would consider that annoying. But, just the idea that I had to move the wild hairs back felt really feminine.
I was enjoying the experience so much that I made an extra loop around the lake, and walked one of the longer dirt trails as well. I almost hated to leave the experience behind. So, I thought maybe I would walk in to Starbucks for a coffee. But, when I got there, they were pretty busy, and there were people sitting on the tables outside, and I chickened out. Still, I'm calling this morning a success!
Birel
Well done to you. Maybe next time have a coffee.
I call it a huge success, Birel, good for you, and congrats
Hugs, Regi👸💕
Congratulations Birel. It does make it easier to 'hide' behind the mask and sunglasses. Anytime you are ready to let me know and we can go out for a walk together and also go to Starbucks. It is scary to go into a busy business, I've chickened out a couple of times myself.
. . Sandy
Congrats Birel! Big step :).
Hi Birel Yes you should be proud of yourself thats a great accomplishment you got this girl made a great step forward you cant go back now keep it up plan for next trip so happy and envious of you ..
Stephanie
Hi Birel, Definitely a big step forward and a huge success. You'll make it to Starbucks one day, do it when you are comfortable. Perhaps pick a time when there are fewer customers.
Here is my Starbucks story. I always order on my mobile app while sitting in the car outside of the cafe or while sitting inside. One time, I made my order and was sitting inside waiting for it to be put up on the mobile order pickup rack. My account is in my drab name (which I should probably change some day). Anyway, the barista made my drink and put it in the pickup rack. I went over to get it and she said to me that the drink is for a man (she was assuming that I was a woman). Oops. I wasn't even dressed en femme, perhaps a bit androgynous. I told her that it was for me and she swore that I look like a woman. I left with my drink and feeling pretty good.
Good luck, have fun, All the Best, Hugs, Krista.
Congrats Birel, we’re proud of you. You’ll get to that Starbucks! I remember my first Dunkin Donuts stop, I tried to wait so that I would be the only one, but that never happened and I just decided it was go time so I did and although nervous getting out of the car, it was almost like a sense of calm came over me as I grabbed the store door. I don’t know if it was the true reality that I was at a point of no return or just the rush of feeling like a woman. What I can say now was that it was one of the best experiences of my life and because of that there have been many since.
You’ll get there the key is to not rush it and make sure you’re comfortable, once you do that sweetie you’re ready to go!!
hugs and kisses Candace
Birel 🎀 that was a great first step!! 💖 it will get easier now! 🍭💎
Hi Birel
Wonderful
That has inspired me to go for a drive as Charlotte.
Hugs Charlotte
