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Apologies to any ladies who shouldn't be discussing preferred drink for one reason or another.
Does your preferred drink change when en femme?
When the SO and I are out for dinner, I almost always choose beer if we're having drinks, or very simple well drinks (whiskey, rum, gin and tonic, coke, soda). Recently, the SO was ordering a glass of wine and so I did too. The beers looked boring and the wine price was reasonable. As I sipped my drink, dressed in 100% male mode sadly, I couldn't help feel a little feminine with a beautiful glass of wine in my hand.
Stereotypical, absolutely. I blame my parents for the upbringing when women weren't supposed to drink beer or spirits.
What about your food tastes? Does your palate look for less meat, more salads and soups, flavorful dishes when en femme?
Does your preferred drink change when en femme?
No, since I don't drink alcohol (for... reasons) and, after my heart operation, the chances of me starting are even less.
@harriette That's a really good change. Taking care of our health is so important.
I've mostly lost my taste for IPAs since going on HRT. On a hot summer day a cold one still tastes good.
I much prefer red wine (Pinot Noir, Merlot, Shiraz, Malbec) and most fine spirits.
Cask strength bourbon is a favorite. Straight up please.
/LK
@lizk That's an interesting side effect of HRT. One would never have guessed that even taste could change.
My understanding is that it's fairly common. HRT affects your head as much as your body.
/LK
@lea-jhene I'm a cocktail drinker. When out as my authentic self, I tend to enjoy a Cosmopolitan. I guess I'm getting my inner Carrie Bradshaw on!
@lauren114 I don't know why, but a Cosmo always felt like a drink for a woman. Yeah, maybe it was Carrie subliminally that got me thinking that way too. And her heels.
@lea-jhene drinking beer from the bottle - never for Joan. Lipstick on a beer glass - maybe. Lipstick on a wine glass - definitely.
@joanarbour That's a really interesting thought. I agree, lipstick on a wine glass is much more fun, sexy than lipstick on a beer glass. My wife leaves her lipstick mark on coffee mugs at home...that really bothers me.
@lea-jhene What a great question - especially as it's one I can answer quite easily!!! Unfortunately, the majority of my hours are spent in drab; at that time my tastes are for beer (NOT lager!) or cider. I then pull on a mini skirt and instantly my taste is for red wine! I've never been able to understand this, bar the dual nature of my personality: Holly is a very, very different person than my boy side... Food? Sorry, but both of us are very, very vegetarian and as such no form of meat is ever going to happen, salads and soups are always on the menu and ALL vegetarian dishes are very, very flavourful (note the correct spelling there...) Holly XXX
@hottestwitch Very intriguing how our subconscious and present mind influences our senses, including taste. I haven't been out for drinks while dressed. I haven't tried a meal out either. I've been tempted more to.
I haven't been out for drinks while dressed.
If you have never been out in public, I wouldn't recommend mixing alcohol into your first experience.
@lea-jhene Intruiging is quite definitely the word! I've never been able to understand just what is going on, but there is a definite shift going on - even to the point whereby I buy some red wine just for Holly - and my wife can't understand why it sits there, unopened for a day or so.
Hariette recommends not mixing alcohol with a first trip out; sorry, but for a lot of us, alcohol was ESSENTIAL in that situation!!! Love you all: Holly XXX
@lea-jhene I have always been a beer lover now a days mostly burbon barrel stout and Barleywine. but it fills me up too much so its mostly burbon or irish whiskey for me. River on the other hand never drinks beer. I love to see my hands with long nails around a martini glass regardless of whats in it. usually a vodka martini. but wine works also but as I got older the sulfer gives me issues I Used to love red wine. still can on occasion. and I get the same joy holding a wine glass. but then why not just put beer or whiskey in a martini or wine glass . Hmm i dunno River seems to have a bit different taste or its just that whiskey belongs in a whiskey glass I dunno creatures of habit .maybe. Great topic Cheers RC 🥂
@river A martini and glass is so feminine sexy. I like the nails visual, such a great idea!
@lea-jhene Dont drink spiriots at all, but enjoy my nightly pre dinner zero alcohol beer, followed by a glass or two of red or white AUSTRALIAN!wine, depending on the type of meal being served.
Caty.
I do not change my choice of cocktails. I'm a vodka person. I tend to be a very responsible drinker, now. When I was young, however, it wasn't always the case.
As for food, my palate does not change either. I love steak, BBQ, and fried chicken. I am much more fastidious than when in male mode.
@lea-jhene No,my choices dont change when I an enfemme.I stopped drinking 25 years ago.No more alcohol for me,sorry to say,I started liking it too much.So now its soft drinks,ice tea ,coffee.Its better for my health that way.
Food taste have not changed,Michelle and Marty {me} still like the same thing.
@lea-jhene I usually get fruity drinks or wine that I can sip slowly. I don’t like getting tipsy when out in public. Not so when am home when friends. My whiskey girl comes out then
Hi Lea,
That's an interesting observation. My early drinking experiences (60s) were in a northern UK working class environment. A man drinking wine in that environment would undoubtably have been been considered an oddity (and quite likely gay).
Fancy that. Being typecast by what you're drinking.
Fast forward to a gay London club some people took me to in the 80's ( me, all innocent and naive). I ordered a first round of beers at the bar, expecting to be told what was on offer.
"Sorry, darling, we don't do beer here. How about some wine?"
Well I never, typecasting in reverse.
Nowadays, I'll drink whatever I fancy, and most wouldn't bat an eyelid whatever a person drank. But you have a great point. I'm guessing there are still those with relic notions of gender and the type of alcohol drunk - and it would appear that includes me. I'm a private dresser, don't go out dressed to bars or anything. But if I did, I almost certainly would drink wine as opposed to a pint of beer.
Food? I don't know, I'd have to think more about that. Maybe I'd just select the least messy option to eat!
Emma x
@emmat Spot on Emma, personally drinking in the day ( time frames are quit similar) with the guys, had to be spirits, beer & drunk. Now as a very fem person ( used the word person intentionally), I will have what ever the wife has, usually wine. But, Bourbon is for for all us us regardless. With my experiences, women are not as innocent as you think. Bourbon baby. 
Ha ha. You say bourbon, I say whisky 😉 And I wouldn't for a minute suggest all women are genteel wine drinkers. Some of my women friends are happier with beer than wine. And some enjoy a nightcap of something stronger.
@emmat where I was in NW England in the 70's and 80's even drinking lager made you a "puff" and I don't think the average working class pubs even served wine
@emmat Type casting in reverse...wow, I wouldn't have expected that. Being a CD leads to interesting adventures as nd new perspectives.
I too would for the least messy food when dressed. I was home dressed the other day, enjoying some fried food, when it crossed my mind that I better not drop oily food on my cute dress. Rarely do I think of that when in guy clothes.
Same for shoes, I never wear my cute shoes to pump gas or anything that might risk ruining them.
@emmat Hiya, Emma: I LOVE that term "Typecasting in reverse": it just shows that no matter how considerate and understanding we think a community may be, entrenched attitudes can still make their way to the surface... One lat thing: River and Kathi; please, please, PLEASE don't carry on drining bourbon - it is foul! To start off, have a go at a bottom level supermarket whisky - far better - and then move up to some decent malt (I'm not going to recommend Irish or Scotch - they can both be superb!) Just remember that slowly sipping the beverage and taking time to appreciate it is far, far better than just getting it down your neck! Holly XXX
Living now as Fiona, I still like the odd cold beer on a hot day. I just don't ever seem to have any in my fridge! When out, I would now drink a glass of white over a pint of beer, since less volume in = less volume to have to come out again. Or one smaller bottled beer only. Especially a factor at theatres and concerts 🙂
@finallyfiona The public bathroom factor! Yes, makes sense, have to be careful about needing to use the restroom when you sit, so reduce the need to.
Early on in my outings I always ordered a white wine with dinner. I thought it important in my process of trying to pass. Now that I am much more comfortable out I always enjoy my nice cold beer.
No matter how I'm presenting or feeling the forecast is always 100% chance of wine. In my Italian upbringing that is just what you drank with meals or anytime. I use to make my own when I was younger.
No, it does not change. If I am out en femme I drink wine, but I always drink wine with dinner but have never been to bar en femme, and almost never go to bars anyway. At home and en femme I will drink beer mid day, buy evenings I almost always drink red wine. On rhe occasions when I make a nice meal for my wife and I and I dress fully en femme for the evening I open a nice bottle of red wine from our small qine.collection.
I’m not really a drinker of alcohol except once in a while I will drop a little in to my coffee, when drab me. But when Lisa comes out you better bring me some wine! I do like my wine.
I don't rerularly drink anymore. I have bottles of fine malts unopened, wine for if friends come round for dinner or need to take some when going to friends. The one drink I will have is a G&T on ice with lemon, I like the flavour and enjoy it. It would only be the one and it was months ago when I had my last but it was savoured and enjoyed.
LOL. Where exactly do you live, Angela ?
Bless, just kidding. I love that you have a selection to offer.
I'm an ale and cider drinker no matter how I'm dressed. One of my friends commented when he first met Cerys and I asked him what he thought said "Do you still drink cider?", when I replied yes, he said "that's alright then" 🙂
I was once invited out by a small group of my female workmates on a "girly" night out. That was a great night and I drank what they were drinking, mainly because the two places we went to didn't sell ale or cider 🙂
Cerys
I don't really drink much. An occasional glass of single malt, but that's about it.
Food-wise changes in Anna mode so that I avoid anything that smudges lipstick or risks getting in long hair.
Anna
I still mostly drink beer, but occasionally I will have a margarita or other mixed drink.
Yes. I rarely drink in male mode, but when Emily goes out with the girls, she enjoys vodka tonics, screwdrivers, and sometimes wine. Always Uber when drinking. She never drinks beer, bad for her figure.. lol
And yes, i do eat differently in Emily mode.. more lean toward chicken and salads, smaller portions.. no desert.
Emily
O'doul's Amber, both in male mode or en femme.
I'm always a beer drinker (Miller Light Tap) otherwise it's a Pepsi for me. It doesn't make any difference if I'm in an evening gown or jeans, it's always the same. BTW, I always order pizza if possible (and eat it twice a day) but never touch a salad. Party on, Marg
Definitely a wine drinker as Cassie, more of a craft beer drinker when in drab.
