Welcome to Crossdresser Heaven, a safe and welcoming place for everyone in the crossdresser community.
Join Crossdresser Heaven today to participate in the forums.
I think all of us here ( however we classify ourselves ) share one main thing in common and that is the very human need to feel loved and appreciated for who we are. The fact that we participate in, or live a lifestyle that still isn't widely accepted can isolate us and complicates our ability to find love and acceptance. However, it doesn't change the fact that we our human with basic human needs and I feel this is the main commonality that we all share.
@maureen76 Maureen, of course you’re right, you’re describing every human being ever born. This particular lifestyle, or hobby as I like to call it, will never be widely accepted by society. I don’t expect it to either. I do accept that comes with the territory. I have close friends who absolutely hate everything about anything with the world “trans” in it -and let everyone know whenever given the chance. (probably not going to share it with them😊) I do expect that I’ll feel isolated at times and that if I choose to share my secret with people close to me - it will change the dynamic of our relationship. Maybe good, maybe bad. Which is why my sharing or “coming out” to anyone I’m not married to is not gonna happen. Not on purpose anyway. Before telling anyone just ask yourself one question: “Is revealing my secret going to advance our relationship?” If you know it’s a no - why would you do that to yourself? Or your loved one? Or friend?
CDH is a goldmine of a find for most of us here. We’re all in the same club here to a degree…some more, some less. I consider everyone here a “sister” of mine. I love the fact that I have no agenda or issues with anyone. Most of us here will never meet or see each other. Girls will come and go on here, which is to be expected as everyone’s lives are complicated. But I do see, as I flit around the site more and more - that one could get lulled into a false sense of security here, thinking, ah, everyone here is so very understanding, supportive, etc. CDH is great, but it’s not the world we live in on a daily basis.
I sorta riffed off of Maureen’s main topic here. To steer back, yes, it’s hard for some of us to find love and acceptance given what we do in our spare time. And what some of us want to do full time. Just be careful with it in your day to day journey amongst the general public. They have a right to their points of view too. There’s going to be criticism, misunderstanding and even some hatred. Those who understand and accept you better than the majority ever will are right here on CDH. I’m grateful for that.
GP
@gracepal Hi Grace, That was well said and very thoughtful. I am thinking that perhaps you are right in that we (as a community) shouldn't expect or hope to be treated any other way than we are already---people are people and some will accept and some will not (it is the same with many things)---people are people and have many, many different and often strongly held views. While most all people desire love and acceptance, it is hard to find for everyone--not just us
Hugs Maureen
@gracepal Hi...........Thank You for writing that. I read it as if you were big sister just telling me how it really is. I am grateful for big sisters like you on CDH. karley
@gracepal Grace, I very well written and astute post. I am definitely in the ultra-cautious category. I feel very comfortable and appreciated here on CDH but my feminine side is highly unlikely to leak out into the 'real' world xx.
indeed.
@melissa70 Thanks Melissa---at least one girl here agree---I appreciate it----Hugs, Maureen
