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I didn't start fully dressing till my 30's / 40's and even then only went to a limited number of cross dressing events. Then I went into a dormant period of only under dressing or dressing at home. In short, Maureen has lived a "sheltered" life and not been out and about all that much. I am interested in getting out more. but would also like to hear about what many of you girls here consider to have been either your best or worst experience out in the big wide world while all dressed up.
@maureen76 my favorite outings are the ones I go through with and my non favorites are the ones I chicken out on. I’ve never had a makeover and the wife is out of town in two weeks so I’m hoping I can finally make that a good one.
@maureen76 I very much limit Anna's contact with the rest of the world, so far no negative experiences.
Best, a photoshoot in a studio, I've shown a few photos online, there are some from this shoot that I cannot put online. I've got another shoot in 3 weeks, super excited already.
Anna x
@annaredhead Anna---a photo shoot after a makeover must be one of the best experiences for girls like us---sounds delicious and you get the best pictures of yourself possible---Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 It is great fun, especially as the photographer is an old friend and I've posed for her a few times over the years (in drab as well)
Hugs,
Anna
@maureen76 My best experiences are early morning summer walks dressed as a woman. I usually wear panties, bra with forms, tank and short shorts. I also wear lipstick and have never been accosted.
@ria Ria, that sounds wonderful --- being outside---in the early morning when everything is fresh and new ----Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 My best experience was going out to dinner with other girls at a restaurant in the Shops at Caesar's Palace in Las Vegas. I was fairly new to going out and that was the biggest step that I had taken to date. It was a great experience and really helped my confidence to soar to a level I never thought possible.
I am very lucky to say that I have never really had a bad experience. Sure I've been clocked and the like, but I've been able to shake it of pretty quickly each time and continue going about my business. I've found that people are so wrapped up in their own thing that they really don't notice others. This has helped me get out the door and venture to new places.
@lauren114 Good point Lauren---we girls worry so much about being noticed and called out that we forget that most people are so wrapped up in their own world that they don't pay much attention to those around them other than a quick glance ---Hugs Maureen
@lauren114 I have learned that as well, people are to busy to overly care about us or anyone mostly. Stay calm and move forward is my moto ladies.
@maureen76 I have had many “best” experiences going out, ranging from a few unexpected compliments to clearly passing as a FAB. The really bad experience was the end of my marriage because my wife could no longer deal with even the thought of my cross dressing. With the benefit of time, that loss remains regrettable, but on balance I am happy with my life and the level of freedom I can enjoy without adverse reactions from a partner.
@maureen76 I suppose my worst experience was the times I went into a store and was not brave enough to walk around and really shop. Then there was the time I went to family Christmas get together and one brother wanted nothing to do with me.
If I list the best it is getting to be a long list. I am going to all family outings as Cassie, including Thanksgiving and Christmas (even my unaccepting brother is starting to come around). I was even invited to Mother's day lunch with my kids and my Ex. I worked for 14 months at Torrid. I went to my 50th HS class reunion as Cassie.
I know there are many more but this is a good sample.
Cassie
@loneleycd Hi Cassie, you have many more good than bad experiences---that's wonderful---Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 Yes, it seems that most bad experiences are the fear in my head.
Cassie
My best experience was my first professional makeover and photo shoot. I'll say it. I looked GOOD! The confidence and elation I felt that day was magical. And it was just a taste of what was to come. It changed my life.
Suffice to say I would prefer to forget my worst experience.
/LK
@lizk Hi Liz, I've heard many times here from several girls that a professional makeover and photo shoot is the best experience----
@maureen76 Hello Maureen,
WORST ONE Being at a "slightly different" dressing service in Sydney NSW circa early 90's and having a guy gatecrash the building holding a knife. Got out of that one by the width of my bra strap.
BEST.. But being an oldie... there have been so many. Lots of makeovers and en femme bra fittings. also dinners out. See my public articles on this site for more info.,
But for this topic I'll go with.
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/transformal-was-great-but-i-wont-be-going-back/
OK my creaky old back ruined part of the experience, but being "Scarlett on the Stairs" fulfilled a very... long held ambition.
Happy dressing
Caty
@maureen76 Me again... Another "baddie" Making it to Provincetown USA for the TGNE group event, Must have been mid 90's. Hair and make up by Jim Bridges, (one of the top MUA's of the time). Dressed to the nines in black pants suit and 4'heels.
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/photo/at-fantazia-fair-provincetown-ma-early-90s/
Been travelling flat out from Aussie for two weeks, Half way through the first night what seemed like a major health scare came upon me and I fled like a frightened rabbit back to my hotel in Boston.
Never made in to another of this event. (Ran out of potential Boston clients.....)
But I've made up for that disappointment many times over since
Caty.
I have never had a bad experience when out en femme. It just is not an issue, at least for rhe last 10-15 years I have been out in public. Prior to that it was just undressing or a few femme items but otherwise drab. All my outings have been fine and uneventfull as they should be. It is still fun, not as nerve racking as it once was.
@jjandme Hi JJ---uneventful for non cross drssers can sometimes have a negative connotation in the sense of perhaps boring----but you made me think---in cross dressing what we want is "uneventful" outings of course
So far, my experiences have been good, but the VERY best are the ones when I get to go out with friends!
@krisburton Of course, being with friend so much better than just going out alone plus there is added security in numbers---Hugs Maureen
Best experience - Going out dressed.
Worst Experience - Not going out dressed.....
when I was about 18 years old, 1982ish, and going to a tv meeting for the first time, was possibly the worst experience, best experience, going into that meeting.
@leslienix Interesting way to put it--nervous about going but great to be there
@maureen76 The early 80's Maureen, gay people where still having a bad time, tv's and ts people where also a target for the local lynch mob, no internet or multi coloured flags, a very underground scene.
My best experience was my first night out at The Carrabbas Italian Grill “PRE - Keystone Conference” Dinner last March. It was intense since I did my first own complete makeup until until we finished dinner, we had after-dinner conversation and returned to the hotel. Keystone and Esprit, as I detail in my articles, were two wonderful experiences.
Even my Marilyn xperience (LOL) wasn't bad, so I haven't had any setbacks yet. Maybe because I don't go out much in my homeland. Going out alone can be dangerous, so I am extremely cautious. This is a complicated country, there is a big gap between the discourse and the reality. Young people are more open-minded, but there is still a lot of hostility towards the trans community and you hear horror stories told as if they were a joke.
Gisela
@firefly We are a group of parents, family and friends of people from the LGBTIQ community in Panamá. We hold free regular support meetings in Panama City area for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) people, their parents and families, friends, and allies. If you need support, a place to chat, or to get some advice… you’re in the right place! PFLAG Panama is here to provide ongoing support, education and advocacy to all
Sound like nice people, there is hope...
@leslienix Thank you for the information, Leslie. It is good to know. Yes. Sounds like nice people. There is hope.
Gisela
Hang in there!
Ronny!
