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I hope this is an appropriate topic here, and apologize if it isn't. As I have aged and some middle aged "spread" has set in I have developed some little man boobs. They were also probably helped along by some medication as well. My relationship with them is complicated. First I didn't have them till they started to develop in my early sixties. Second, no matter how much I diet and exercise they don't seem to diminish much. I am torn, part of me wants them gone and part of me enjoys them and they seem more sensitive as well. I imagine some others here might have similar feelings on this subject. I also wonder what the experience of those doing HRT might be?
I am torn, part of me wants them gone and part of me enjoys them
On the other hand, having something to work with can be an advantage when taping for cleavage. It helps to make your then "real" cleavage look more natural.
Don't knock it until you try it. 😉
@harriette Yes, I have thought about using a push up or shelf bra to form my own little cleavage --- that is a positive about the situation
@maureen76 I first noticed something was going on about 5 years ago when I saw myself in the cctv footage in a hotel lobby. Blimey! I've got boobs I thought. At the time I was not happy with the picture but since then I have come to love them, in fact if anything, they have got quite a bit bigger even though I remain fairly slim otherwise. Now I have become comfortable with being somewhat on the trans spectrum I feel quite at home with them & I am investigating how I can make them even bigger without resorting to surgery or HRT
@robertaf I'm toying with the idea of a Noogleberry pump. There are mixed opinions on these, professionals say they don't work but numerous users say they do. It's hard to decide who to trust. I've ruled out creams, herbs & lotions, they are just snake oil. Pueraria Mirifica & Bovine Ovary supplements supposedly work but neither are available in the UK & I've heard mixed results about them as well.
Another site regular, who wished to remain nameless, gave me some useful information on a supply of topical estradiol gel but I didn't feel like risking self medication & just buying stuff off the internet. It's a jungle out there
I just need to be convinced & that I'm not just wasting money on a pumping system & even worse, kidding myself. If I do go for it I will be sure to keep everyone updated as to the results, just in case anyone else wants to go down that route.
@sashabennett The cost of the pump is not that bad. It's the time that it takes to do it right is the bigger issue for me. I've been taking PM for about a year now. It's hard to tell how well it works. I've seen some improvement in skin texture., particularly on my face. A couple of months ago I also started following "Flat To Femme" program by Lucille Sorella. I've been using her massage oil along with repeated daily massages. It has definitely made some improvement.
@robertaf I've never been good at sticking to things long term so there is that to factor in although I think I might be more inclined to stick with it if it worked. Time is not an issue really, there is plenty of it in the evening & there is always overnight if it isn't too awkward to sleep in. I looked at that program a while back but ruled it out as just another online thing promising the world but not really saying anything that convinced me it was worth trying. I'm convinced that tucking daily has had some effect in decreasing my T levels which has helped with growth. It is an area which hasn't been researched much so there is no evidence to support my suspicions other than the fact that they are now definitely bigger than before I did this on a daily basis.
@sashabennett That's similar to my situation. Do you try to hide or disguise them in male mode--or are you mainly out to friends and family and display them proudly? ---Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 I'm not "out" out to anyone apart from Mrs B. Family & friends are hundreds of miles away from me so there aren't any awkward conversations there. However I don't bother trying to hide anything in everyday life, I wear a padded sports bra on a daily basis which gives me a good B cup & everyone around here is probably used to seeing me like this. So I guess in that respect at least the "girls" are out & proud.
Sasha
@sashabennett Hi Sasha, I'd say if wear a padded sports bra on a regular basis that you are pretty much out---or at least part of you (your girls) are "out and proud"---LOL--- do you tell them you have gynecomastia? Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 TBH I don't tell them anything, I'll let them draw their own conclusions & hang the consequences. As it's the norm these days I doubt anyone even pays them any attention any more
Sasha
I too had the yin and yang of the boobs!
When I was in my early teens the appeared. I was made fun of. I became very self conscious about being seen shirtless. I exercised changed diet to no avail.
My girl side loves them. No need for breast forms. Just a pushup bra for my girls.
I just accepted the fact that they are always a part of me.
I certainly understand you're delema. I hope you can be at peace with yourself.
All the best Maureen
Fran 🥰
@gafran Thanks so much Fran, I appreciate your wishes and hearing about your experience---Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 Hi Maureen, I have DD and C forms. Recently I’ve dressed with my natural moobs. Now I have 3 looks!!
C💋
@carolinecd306 That is an advantage for us girls---we can use our small natural boobs are add cup size with forms!!
@maureen76 I run and am generally lean, but have put on weight and lost my 6 pack since I stopped long distance racing last year.
I'm badly scarred from an injury a few years ago which caused a lot of muscle wastage and dropped my right pecs lower than the left. Even with a lot of exercise and physio I've not been able to correct this. I've not got enough chest for natural cleavage so have to wear forms and the scarring is very obvious in a strappy top.
Anna x
@annaredhead Hi Anna---you are/were in better shape than I ever was---never had a six pack or even a four pack---LOL
Sorry to hear about your injury and the muscle wastage and scaring---that would be tough for anyone---Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 Thanks - it was 9 years ago, I fell awkwardly whilst out running on a dark, wet night, snapped the neck of my humerus and shattered the head, also displacing it, cracking the clavicle and ulna. It was touch and go on keeping my arm and it had to be reconstructed (it's full of plates and screws). I lost all movement in it had a huge amount of physiotherapy and hydotherapy to recover use of it but the muscle across chest and back really deteriorated.
These days it's pretty strong and I can do most things, it just doesn't look pretty.
Anna x
@annaredhead Anna, That is a huge amount of damage ---so sorry-- but it seems you have recovered well all things considered---except for the scars. I shattered my ankle when 10 or so, had surgery to put it back. was in two casts for 3 months and recovered enough that it didn't really bother me for decades. I played many sports and it wasn't until I was 5o that it started hurting and progressively worse over the years since---but that is nothing compared to your injury and puts things in perspective for me
Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 That sounds like a nasty ankle injury, good that it didn't put you off sport.
Hugs, Anna x
@annaredhead Thanks, Anna---used to do softball, tennis, basketball---now I'm down to "golf in a cart"---LOL --- but still above ground---Hugs Maureen
Saves on breast forms I suppose; every cloud and all that.
@rebeccabaxter LOL----Becca, that is a positive way to think about it---and I do enjoy cupping them with my hands and feeling their heft when in female mode
Hi Maureen, I like my little man boobs and enjoy how they make me look and feel girlie in dresses.
@delaware Ity is good to know their are others with man boobies who enjoy the feelings as well--
Hi Maureen,
I have some man boobs. They've been there since at least my late 30s when I saw a video of me in a fun athletics race, wearing a loose t-shirt, 'boobs' bouncing around like no ones business. I was quite embarrassed, not least because the person who'd taken the video was taking the p*** at the same time.
Fast forward, they're still there, and I don't mind. They are not in any sense or size breasts, but snuggle into small cup soft bras in a pleasing way. Now I find I'm getting a little prudish about my nipples showing through a tighter fitting tee or top if I don't have a bra on! There's no pleasing some folk 😉
I've never checked my hormone balances. I don't know if it's a very minor case of gynecomastia or just pseudogynecomastia, or whether I've ki been puffing on the wrong type of tobacco.
I wouldn't mind if I had better defined breasts even if they stayed small. But I'm not bothered too much at this stage of my life.
Emma x
@emmat Hi Emma, thanks for the personal and thoughtful response-- even though it sounds like yours developed earlier in life, it seems we share similar feelings about them---since I am not out of the closet and don't plan on transition, I feel I have to hide them but my girlie side loves them---like you, the older I get the less I care what others think. Hugs Maureen
Hi Maureen,
Until just a few months back, due to old age and a love of good food and wine, I was happily developing some nice little "moobies", but then a pesky (but non fatal) health problem emerged and I've lost over 5kgs/10lbs in about two months and my "moobies" with it. (Along with the beer belly "overhang")
I'm back to the same weight I was forty years ago and wearing size 16bras. How I got up to a 22 band which still fit me quite well I will never know.
Should have the health trubs out of the way in the next few months and then hopefully, "onwards, upwards and outwards"
CAty.
@ryanpaul Hi Caty, sorry to hear about your health problems. even if you lost your It does seem like the silver lining was slimming down so you can look prettier in girl mode even if you lost your little boobies. Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 Ah yes Maureen, looking slimmer would be nice... But at my age and with a large collection of size 18 and 20 outfits, (refer to my public photos), a/. I have no intention of replacing them all and b/. really dont want to spend the cash to do so.
Not to mention if I do get backing up to "playing weight", anything I buy now would not fit me.
Just for fun, a day or two ago I tried on some of my "tighter" dresses and ensembles. They still fit if only a touch loose on my poor old bod.
Caty.
@ryanpaul yes--thinner is always nicer but as we age it becomes harder to achieve--Hugs Maureen
I would have thought you would welcome the addition of some breast. I believe that many males as they age get some form of boob as things sag a bit just like the ladies. It does give you something to help create a more fulsome bust so can only see advantages.
@ab123 Hi Angela---I do like and adore them in girl mode, however, since I am not out of the closet and live 90% of life in male mode, they pose a difficulty. If I was out and planning on more of a transition they would be totally wonderful. Hugs Maureen
I also have moobs and love them, I started noticing them a few years ago. I'm sure age and medication combined to cause it. I was at Torrid last month and while there had a bra fitting and was told I'm a 44B. I must admit it is nice having my own, of coursed I wish they were bigger but maybe over time that will happen. Wearing a bra does feel good not having to worry about forms, although I do use breast enhancers on occasion. I don't wear a bra outside the house and do get a little bounce sometimes and as some say my headlights are on high beam most of the time.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue Suzzane, they sound wonderful. I think mine are a little under a B. Do you still spend most of your time in male mode or are you mostly out and proud, Because if in male mode, do you attempt to hide or minimize them? Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 Maureen - thanks, I was told I 'm a B but I think they may be a little under, depending on the bra I either fill the cup or there is a bit of room - either way it is nice to have them. I'm in male mode and don't go out although I wish I could. I have an agreement with my wife to keep my dressing in the house which I don't think is going to change. When in male mode I don't try to minimize or hide them, I'm pretty proud of what I've got, I don't flaunt them but don't hide them either.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue It sounds like you are very proud of your "girls"---maybe someday I can reach that level of acceptance while in male mode---Hugs Maureen
Hi Maureen, I've had boobs for most of my life and have had a love/hate affair with them. I'm an intersex person and my very feminine breasts helped me to get a correct diagnosis of my condition. That being said, I struggled as a child and young man knowing that my body was different. Only after I accepted my intersex situation and embraced it did I celebrate and make peace with my breasts. Before that time I was embarrassed and hid them and they mystified me. Clothes didn't fit and they got in the way both physically and emotionally (like at swimming pools trampolines and military showers). Later in my life after I understood my body better, I was much more at ease with them. They were just matter of fact a part of me and my day. I now wear only women's clothes (usually juniors or smalls) and accept my breasts as just a part of me and my life. There have been times when I celebrated them by wearing a low cut or strapless dress or strapped them down as I did strenuous work. And lately, as I aged I somewhat sadly observed them melting and sliding down my chest and creep closer and closer to my navel. Push up bras are a godsend for me now. I have had a feeling that I experienced part of what women go through as they grow and age. At first I found my breasts to be distracting and in the way and then they were just me and then they were something of a past life. I learned to live with them comfortably and I could control them and they did not control me. I could let them announce me as I entered a room or I could camouflage them and go about my business quietly. It's been an interesting experience and I talk about some of this as I give presentations around the country on living an intersex life. I hope that this is helpful. Marg
@margprodue Yes, Marg---that was very helpful---I appreciate the honest and heartfelt comments --- It seems you have had them all your life and even though it was a real struggle when younger ( I can really understand that ) yo have come to accept and enjoy them the older you got. I've had less time to adjust, but I already feel a little bit more comfortable with them---Thanks Maureen
Welcome to your senior years. I am in reasonanly good shape, and yet I have a bit of boobage as well as a tummy. Run, swim, workout as I do and still they persist. It just bend forward and scoop them into my bra just like any woman and go sbout my day. If I stopped beer and wine, ate less and worked out more, no doubt rhey would deminish, but at out age, tight and swelvt bodies are a rarity.
On a positive note, I like the way I look.when dressed. I certainly do not have a perfect body, especially not a perfect female shape, but when I compare myself to.many women may age, I can honestly say I look netter than a significant number of them. As a male, I never had a great body self-image, but when dressed I feel pretty damn good.
@jjandme Hi JJ, It is harder and harder to lose weight when we get older---I used to be able to eat and drink what I wanted and kept the weight off simply by exercise----much harder to do now especially since my exercise if limited because of the condition of my ankles (one serious break and multiple sprains lead to arthritis)---good points about our man boobies being a plus when we dress---I have thought about push up or shelf bras---have you tried them, just out of curioiisy?---Hugs Maureen
Yes, both. Push ip bras don't do much for me, I just don't have enoufh to push, but shelf bras can ne quite nice. I have just enough boob that it fills the quarter cups and gives me a little clevage. The reality of it, thoufh is it just works better if I use breast forms for a more natural and porportioned look. My real boons and moderately sized forms fill.out a 38C bra nicely.
Hi Maureen.What a great topic.I have had man boobs for a long time(42b almost c with push-up).I have always tried to hide them until last few months as my confidence has grown .Wished I had bigger.Hugs Joanna
@avongirl Good point Joanna---we hide them because as men we are "ashamed" of them---but the more "woman like we become" the more we like them and even wish they were bigger ----Hugs Maureen
There is an advantage to rhe fact that many men, toung and old have man boobs these days. It means we can wear a bra and breast forms out and about while other deessed drab. It people notice, they just assume they are man boobs from being a bit chubby. While I am generally reasonably fit and trim, if I am wearing my forms under a loose shirt I just look like I have man boobs. A tight shirt or my larger forms are totally different in which case I have a nice set of boobs to show off.
@jjandme That is an interesting way to look at it---the idea that having man boobs is pretty accepted by the public for old men like myself---therefore it is not worth worrying about even when we enhance our girls with forms---Thanks JJ---Hugs Maureen
It is all about perspective. Make lemonade out of lemons.
Thanks, to all who posted and responded to this thread. It is nice to know there are others here who also deal with natural male boobs, I wasn't sure how common that would be. I am feeling more and more comfortable about them.
Hugs Maureen
