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In my non cross dressing world I tend to have a restless type A personality and always concentrated on "doing things' and "getting things done". Perhaps this is part of the reason I am on Blood Pressure medication. LOL One thing I notice when I dress is that I am more relaxed and in the moment. Much less driven. Mindful of the way the clothes feel, my movement, and just slowing life down. No hurry and no rush. Time slows down just a little. I sometimes think that these changes are more than the clothes but perhaps my wanting to emulate a perception of how the average woman deals with the world in a different way. I know that some women have type A personalities as well, but there don't seem to be nearly as many as there are with men.
@maureen76 Maureen, I wish I had sufficient dressing opportunities to confirm this, but we read frequently of the relaxation and peace that a lot of girls experience. I yearn for that feeling xx.
@chrisfp99 Perhaps you will get more opportunities to dress in the future---HUgs Maureen
Maureen honey, I'm with you. When I am honest and dressed as I should be, there is no anxiety or fretting. I continue to move closer to the real me every day. This morning I did my first full makeup and wore it almost all day. This afternoon for the FIRST time, I put on nail polish in a high gloss yet conservative pink. I never dreamed my nails would feel so much more smooth!! It's like - I don't know how in the world I will force myself to go with plain nails. Tonight in bed as I look over the top of my blessed lace-adorned bosom, all the cares in the world have been replaced with joy in my soul. I close my eyes in happiness and cannot believe life can be so wonderful.
Dani
@danikiss22 Hi Dani, what a wonderful story. You are living the dream and the dream is easing your anxiety to boot---sounds great! Hugs Maureen
@maureen76 I am not a type A but I do know the relaxing slower pace when I dress. I go there when things get too hectic and/or stressful. As I age I dressing just helps me through the day.
I've noticed something like this as well. As a male, I'm a metal/goth/punk hybrid that loves listening to harsh noise and always wears black with a sour look on my face. Since I started cross-dressing seriously, I noticed that my tastes and attitude changes dramatically. Suddenly I'm wearing colors and I'm more upbeat and I'm listening to Taylor Swift. I feel this is because when I dress as a woman, I'm way more comfortable looking that way. It just feels right, and my mood lightens up and I can allow myself to have fun. I'm not hating on my dark side, but wallowing in it was grinding me down. In a very real way, cross-dressing has allowed me to like myself again.
It is perhaps an expectation that those that crossdress over indulge in the maleness suppressing the feminine. Once dressed the female is let out and the true character is allowed and come to the fore, hence these feelings of calm.
I’m very similar a practical person solving problems and on the go and not really switching off from work. My wife has tried to get me to do mindfulness and I simply can’t switch off but the moment I’m alone and slipping into my female clothes the world gets shut out and nothing else matters. I become mindful and feel everything from my stocking clad toes in my heels to the straps of my slip over my shoulders it’s surprising how powerful cross dressing can be x
@lauragrainger hi Laura, I try to practice Mindfulness in dealing with Anxiety---it is a powerful tool in that regard. It is interesting that you compare the feeling you get while cross dressing as similar to what one tries to achieve when practicing Mindfulness---I totally agree with you---the two do produce similar feelings in me
