Deals with wife?

Nothing crazy but I have made agreements and concessions with my wife. Things like if I am honest and don't hide things she is more open to letting me be me. Also I have agreed to clean while dressed home alone. No going out locally is another agreement. If im dressing around her no wig and little makeup. 

No, not really. I have told her if I ever make her uncomfortable or take things too far she can tell me...so far she never has. She once said I probably shouldn't go out in piblic, and I agree, I probably shouldn't buy I do. She prefers I keep it private, so I do (mostly). I do go out on my own, and only underdress if we are out together.

She has never discouraged me from dressing. She knows I like it and has no objection to it.

I am blessed that my wife supports and is ok with me transforming into Wendy.

When I first introduced Wendy, one thing my wife asked was I keep it inside the house, not to venture out.  Later on we had a heated discussion about the amount of $$$ I was spending on Wendy.

For the most part I've kept Wendy in the house, and I feel that is more than fair as I can transform into Wendy when my wife is at home.   Like someone said, I too sometimes venture out without her knowledge.

As for the spending, it took me a while but I see her point of view and have curtailed my spending big time.   I've learned to enjoy what is in my closet than always buying new.

My wife does not do compromises so it’s a no go there.  My ex did all the time and I’d always barter her buying me makeup or shoes.  We were the same size of clothes until I got my breast forms.

I told my wife I would buy her a dress if I bought one. Panties, I could go on and on. New wig, I would buy her one.......she gave me divorce papers. she did me the greatest favor ever. As I sit here in my shorty pj's and cami. With makeup on of course. My nightly routine now.

In short, I give my wife anything she wants, within reason LOL. Since Jackie's existence is all about me, I fully accept that it is in no way fun for her. The fact that she accepts that part of me is a testament to how much she loves me. I make sure she knows that I love her even more back.

I take her to movies she wants to see, as much as possible, without her asking. I also tend to choose restaurants she enjoys regardless of whether I like them or not. I do most household chores while dressed, including the dishes, cooking and maintaining the pool and yard. I feel like this allows her to visually see a benefit that Jackie brings into our relationship. I have always done these chores, so it is not something I do as a deal. It is something that developed from doing tasks that were overwhelming.

I was a natural procrastinator, waiting until the last minute to do things like taxes. My wife is a bit of a clean freak and would ask me to clean the ceiling fans. My own motto was out of sight, out of mind, and no one can see the ceiling fans. I made the comment that I hated cleaning ceiling fans, but Jackie loved doing that kind of stuff. She told me, I don't care who cleans the fans as long as it gets done. Needless to say, Jackie cleans the fans, does taxes, paints walls, hangs pictures and does just about anything my wife asks her to do.

I honestly think that was the start of my wife accepting this odd feminine side of her husband.

I tried to Make compromises or deals with my first wife. She was complete intolerant of anything that had to do with my cross dressing. But eventually we developed an unspoken don’t ask don’t tell arrangement until she took the tell part and told everyone that I was a CD. But before that I tried to make a deal where I wouldn’t bring any of my women’s clothes or accessories into our house if I could just keep a very small discreet panty drawer. I was wearing them every day anyway. She went along with it for maybe a year. Until I came home one day and the drawer was empty and all the panties is the drawer were tossed. Fortunately I had many more stashed elsewhere. 
fast forward 25 years and I now have the same deal with my second (and last ) wife. She is fine with my panty drawer and has even purchased some of its contents. As for my part of the deal I keep my now small girly collection outside of the house and out of sight. It certainly limits my ability to dress up but we’re both happy with the arrangement 

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My partner is quite accepting and even likes aspects of my cross-dressing sexually. She has made it very clear that a transition would be unacceptable for her and that’s fine because that’s the last thing I want to do anyways.

Getting on the site was another issue because she had a lot of concerns and those concerns are quite valid. She was afraid that this would be some kind of a “hook up“ site and I had to explain to her that it was not. At the same time, I have been entirely transparent with her and told her she can read or look at any of the messages I sent anyone or content that I post.  She hasn’t wanted to and I doubt she will.  

We have never had any conflicts about her trying to control me. I’m quite free to do whatever I want generally speaking. I do actively work to balance things because she likes the masculine part of me just as much and I know she’s not always in the mood for the whole dress up thing and pictures and stuff. That’s OK it always works out.

After two failed marriages and a handful of failed relationships that were largely due to my cross dressing, finding a woman who is agreeable to this is a very rare gift. I will definitely go the extra mile to respect her wishes and boundaries. I am doubtful I will ever meet anyone again who would be as accepting as she has. I also love and respect her deeply

It works for both of us and that’s what’s important.

I made a deal with my wife.  She was doing a lot of online clothes shopping for outfits she really wasn’t going to have a chance to wear.  She’s ok with my dressing and has picked some nice dresses for me.  I said, every time you buy an outfit, you need to get me one.  I figured that would slow the shopping down simply because of the cost….  She agreed.  Well, now I have more outfits than I really need.  

I haven't made any deals with the devil, I mean wife (lol).

It's just not fair to have to make deals. 

Current status... living life, suppressed, but living it when I can. I feel too tired to have an all out battle with my wife. DADT works I guess. 

My introduction to crossdressing came through my wife, so the first few things I wore were some of her loose fitting dresses or dresses that tied in the back. As time went by, I began to want something of my own that would fit me better. I was scared to ask in person, so one day I just sent her a text with a dress that I liked. Her immediate response(thinking it was for her) was "yes, please" a few moments later she texted back "wait, who's this for?"  When I told her "me" she immediately responded with a no. I felt dumb for even bringing it up. She seemed to enjoy my dressing as long as she was in charge of it.  Later that day, she sent another text...."fine, if I can have one too, because I really liked it".....I was so excited and almost shaking as put 2 different sizes of the same dress in my "cart"   I remember the day they showed up and I got the text "our dresses are here!" I was so happy to have something of my own and it was an easy deal to make. 

My wife has never once asked me if she can buy a dress, she just does, so I do not see any reasin why I can't buy one if I want. She have bever complained about anything I buy, but I am careful not to get carried away buying things. I have bought her similar dresses to mine  a few tunes, and have let her wear mine as wekk, so no issues there.

It just seems likr cimmon sense to me. We both have enough respect for each ither to know that the other will not do anything outrageous. If qe do want to do or buy something significant then we duscuss it to me, it just seems how couples should operate, but I know that is not often the case. A friwnd if mine always has to "negociate" a weekens ski teip wuth his wife. He he wants to go he has to promise her a weekend spa trip or some such thing. If I want to go skiing, I tell my wife I am going skiing, and conversely, if she wants a spa weekend she just schedules a spa weekend.

I suppose our agreement fits the category.

She asked one thing. No implants or hormones and I agreed. She said some years ago that if I wanted to have laser treatments to remove facial hair to go for it. I didn't due to the cost at the time and now wish I had.