Do you feel overdressed?

This is always the rub for us cross dressers isn’t it? We long to be as girly as we possibly can, but as society has become far less formal and far more relaxed, women tend to dress down quite a bit and clothes look basically the same as men’s except for a couple of feminine flairs or necessary allowances for curves.

Now where is the fun in that? I wear jeans all the time! 😂

I think it depends what is important to you. Is passing or blending your goal ? Or is getting a lot of attention by wearing high heels and a short dress or some very tight pants. I think it depends on the venue and event. If its shopping, look at what other women are wearing. Next time your in the mall, count how many women you see wearing a dress. If you go to a park at night in a sexy dress be ready for the attention and possibly a bad situation. Just my opinion.
Terri

We had a beautifly warm day here, this week, a couple of them in fact, and I did see quite a few ladies out in dresses and skirts, so I'm hopeful
Hugs, Regi👩💕

I know what you mean. Twice now I've had a stroll through our local mall wearing my spring dress and 2" wedges. All the women walking around the mall were wearing jeans, tennis shoes and plain tops. The only women wearing dresses or skirts in the mall were some store employees. Yes I was over dressed for a typical customer but not overly so. It did feel wonderful to present myself as a woman and frightening at the same time.
Sandy

I would see it as redressing the balance...

It's very sad to see fewer GGs in dresses - so I would be very happy to stand out.

Love Laura

When I step out I don't want it to be in jeans, sneakers and a hoodie top, I can do that right now. I will want to be identifiably in female attire otherwise what's the point? I don't mean a micro mini and thigh boots with 5" heels but definitely a dress or skirt/blouse/jacket combo and I would not feel overdressed in that - just happy.

Hugs

Diana

Stephanie, I hear you! I agree, and I think it works. I want to be seen as a woman, and if I wear androgynous clothes, even if they are from the women's section, they might not be noticable as a woman. That is just fine on those days that I might be concerned about being seen as male. The clothes are the same as what some young men are wearing these days!

In addition, women support women, and almost always they will support a trans woman. I'm learning to look for something to compliment any woman I see because that's what she usually does when she sees me. I want to be prepared. That's when I know my intention (to be seen as a woman) is acknowledged. Love it!

I'm with you on this one Stephanie. I do not even see it as hiding in plain sight, as you so aptly put it. I'm not hiding, I'm out there.

In my youth women and girls wore dresses and skirts pretty much all the time and that is what I loved. Times changed and modern girls are almost always clad in jeans or leggings.

However there are still plenty of girls that wear a dress or skirt. The availability in the shops proves that. I am never short of choices for my wardrobe. 

I have dresses of all styles for all seasons and skirts too. I never feel uncomfortable and   blend in with everyone else. 

Like Stephanie I wear what I like.

Go for it. You sound like dresses and skirts make you happy and I bet you put nice looks together. As others on here have said if you act like a confident woman you should be perceived as such. Perhaps you can lead a trend back to more dressy looks on gg’s

I guess it all depends on what one strive for. For a start I don't like to stand out and when I dress it's because of the feeling more then to show off.

My issue is that if jeans and t-shirt is the norm I don't see the point of wearing womens clothes, I wear pants way to much already.

If I put on some casual skirt I feel people may take a glance but that's about it.

If I put on what I really want which is tight skirt, 5" heels and stuff like that I feel like I'm wearing a bulletin board on me or something and everyone looking hard at me.
I guess my issue is that while I have built up comfort to some level I'm leaving my comfort zone when dressing up like that.

/kt

They started a program at work where I get paid if I get a certain number of steps in a day (they pay in points which can be redeemed for gift card).  In the summer of 2018 I realized I wasn't getting in the steps over the weekend.  I decided to walk around my neighborhood.  After one weekend, I decided if I'm going to get paid for taking a walk, I'm going to enjoy it and do it en femme.  Most of the people don't know me either way anyway.  I started walking around in a tank top, miniskirt, and pink sneakers.  As the fall came, my skirts and sleeves got longer, and I started wearing a coat.  But I realized I'd need some leggings when the weather got cold.  So I did that for a couple of months.  Then I bought an ankle length coat.  With it closed, you couldn't tell I was wearing a skirt and tights and not leggings, so I started walking in a skirt covered by the coat.  I went back to pantyhose in the spring, and bare legs again in the summer of 2019, pantyhose in the fall, tights again in the winter.

When the pandemic hit, I realized I would need to take the walk almost every day (bad weather days I could walk on my treadmill, or I'd get the steps in by shoveling snow off my driveway).  So I started walking every day.  And always in a skirt (or occasionally a dress), usually in sneakers (pink, white or black; occasionally in flats; on a few rare occasions in boots).  I often see the same people, many who smile, wave or say hi to me as we pass.  They only know Alison, and I doubt they suspect I'm a male.  I think it has just become my modus operandi.  One day the postman actually stopped to talk to me saying that he's seen me walking and that he started walking for his health too.

Last Halloween I wore a white pullover sweater, a poodle skirt with some petticoats, a white cardigan, and white sneakers and went for an almost 90 minute walk.  (It was cold that day so I had a thermal layer under my pullover, and two pairs of stockings.)  Not too many people were out, but I got the attention of people in the cars, honking, flashing their lights, smiling or shouting approval as they drove past.

This weekend I went out wearing pantyhose, took a few photos as I usually do, and realized it was a bit too chilly.  I went inside, put a pair of leggings over the pantyhose, and went out wearing the skirt over the leggings, a look I occasionally see women do.

Easter Sunday I actually did see another woman with a guy and she was wearing a skirt; otherwise the women are always wearing pants or jeans.

Also, for the past year I have been going to the supermarket in a skirt or dress (I got complimented on my skirt once by another woman), and have gone shopping other places as well.  (I even got into a car accident last summer while en femme; fortunately I only had minor bruises, but had to deal with the police and ambulance en femme.)

So yes, I almost always go out in a skirt.  No, others aren't wearing a skirt or dress (with a very few exceptions).  So I do dress differently but not in-your-face outlandishly differently.  I expect many are now used to it, since I don't seem to get strange looks from people.  That would make me say that I don't feel as if I'm overdressed.

KellyTerry,When I ,as Michelle,go shopping ,I can do jeans and a top <must not forget my purse>,but if I am dress shopping or just want to feel pretty,you will find me in a skirt and blouse or in a dress and heels.At this point in my life I dress to be comfortable with myself.While dress shopping at Macys and Dillards,I have had many real women compliment me on my attire and it feels great that just maybe I have struck a chord in the ladies memory that says "Its time for me ,a real lady to dress more feminine".Kelly ,please dress as you will and enjoy your femininety.Sincerely ,Michelle.

I don't feel that I get horribly overdressed for the most part.  I were longer skirts for neighborhood walks with flats or sandals, depending on the weather.  Cotton/denim make up the skirt material mostly.  But even in just ladies jeans, they are clean and pressed, not slouchy or washed and worn straight out of the dryer.  I am the kind of girl who refuses to pay good money for jeans that are already 'stressed' or have their hems not stitched like so many women do today.

At the mall I would say I am not the best dressed, but I am definitely not in my pajama pants and flip flops either.  I dress to blend really, but it a presentable blend.  Now, going out with close friends or FWB's, I will crank it up a notch because it is, to me anyway, a chance to show mow much I can polish up for certain people or occasions.  I just soooo wish I could manage heels again, in my twenties I could even run in them.  Maybe that's why I can't anymore.

PaulaF

Plumb, darling...

You said “Oh, that woman’s wearing a skirt, how unusual, in this weather.”
Maybe, they would be saying... “Wow, what a fab skirt!”... loving the colours in your wardrobe and that suits me very well indeed! I dress for me too. Polly’s sense of fashion is when one goes out in public one always dresses for some small impact. Whether it is in fashion, style, respect for womanhood... one must make the effort! Otherwise, why do we bother?
I’m Polly and I’m a woman!

Love Polly