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Encouragement

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Lady
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(@maureen76)
Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

It is one thing for spouses, relatives, and friends to "accept" our dressing on one level or another but entirely different for those in our life to encourage and enjoy our dressing. This is a very rare thing, and I am wondering if any of you have experienced this in your life on a regular basis?

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1806

@maureen76 Yes, my wife is incredibly kind and supportive.

We do pamper sessions together, shop together and she has taken part in photoshoots with me.

We choose items together that would work for each other, she will also borrow some of my clothes.

She is fine with me being dressed at home and has been out with me in the car a few times, also out in public once.

Hugs,

Anna xx

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Duchess
(@mkat3874)
Joined: 4 months ago

Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 192

@maureen76 

I can't say enough of how appreciative I am of my wife. She has been my biggest supporter from our earliest days even at times when I was at war with myself. It was she who encouraged me to finally embrace this part of me and step out into the real world.  Now we go out together as girlfriends and have the closest relationship ever.  

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Lady
(@maureen76)
Joined: 7 months ago

Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Posts: 962

@mkat3874 Michelle, that is wonderful---and I'm so glad for the both of you

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

@maureen76 My GF of 10yrs is nothing but supportive. She'll buy me items, help me with zippers, opine on outfits, and we're going out tonight (me dolled up) entirely at her suggestion.

I truly hope each and everyone here gets to experience that.

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Although I have no partner, friends and family are accepting  but have also advised on fashion and also been out with me countless times which, in effect, takes it to another level with no encouragement needed.

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Duchess
(@reallylauren)
Noble Member     Victoria, British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 3 years ago

My spouse is supportive and accepts who I am, an intersex female who transitioned to living as a woman three years ago.  Where I work there are still those who are aware that I transitioned, and I have received nothing but support and encouragement. We will talk about hair, makeup, clothing, and I have also received gifts from them such as makeup items, purses, cards and flowers.

Hugs,

Ms. Lauren M

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Lady
(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

My wife is fully supporting, though she does have a few rules. 

When shopping, she often picks things out for me. She often talks me into buying stuff that I think is perhaps to expensive. 

I went to the hairdresser on Friday to have a new, shorter style. My wife came with me to help me and my hairdresser decided what to do. (I now have hair that is permanently cut in a female style. I can no longer tie it back for male mode) 

Today, she encouraged me to book an appointment with a make up advisor to think about refreshing the make up routine I've been using for the last year or so. (It's on Wednesday, I can't wait).

My wife is encouraging. She will tell me if what in wearing is wrong. She will tell me when I look great. She is happy to bet off and about with me in Cerys mode. 

Basically, she's a good un!

Cerys

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Duchess
(@loneleycd)
Joined: 5 years ago

Famed Member     Roland, Iowa, United States of America
Posts: 2150

@dazzler Good luck with your makeup advisor, let us know how it goes. 

Cass

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Lady
(@maureen76)
Joined: 7 months ago

Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Posts: 962

@dazzler That's great to hear!

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(@caroline2k)
Noble Member     Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

My partner is (as I have no doubt mentioned ad nauseam) very supportive and encouraging. She too will buy me girly things when we are out shopping if she thinks they will suit me and through her my dressing style has developed. 

She loves having the girl me around because I am much nicer, more caring and stress-free than the grumpy masculine version, and we can talk makeup and clothes and stuff

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Lady
(@maureen76)
Joined: 7 months ago

Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Posts: 962

@caroline2k Caroline, that is great to hear and gives me some hope

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

My wife is supportive and helps me in many ways. It has taken her awhile to get to this point of acceptance. She helps me with make up, styling my wigs, buying clothes and so much more. She does have some restrictions which I don't have an issue with like not going out of the house dressed, although there are some things that are allowed. I have worn my ankle boots out of the house with her knowledge as well as worn earrings other than studs or small hoops. We go for mani-pedi's every couple months and help each other select the color polish we get - mine is only for my toes at the moment. From time to time she will invite Suzanne to spend the day. Suzanne just spent Christmas and New Years visiting, on Christmas we even wore matching dresses in 2 different colors (hers was green, mine was red). I let her set the tone for my dressing and she has become more accepting over time - as she said the other day "it isn't hurting her". As to going out dressed she said she is concerned about what others would think and I can appreciate that.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@maureen76)
Joined: 7 months ago

Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Posts: 962

@cdsue a great story of acceptance and compromise---glad to hear it

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Lady
(@cherylt)
Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 6 months ago

Yes, my wife is in that category. She not only accepts but encourages. I used to just dress on days when we were just sitting around the house if the weather was terrible. I didn't need a wig for me, but she tells me "you need hair". I have none so I suppose she was right and since then I always wear one of my wigs. She will come in while I'm dressing and ask what I'm wearing and maybe say, "why don't you wear ..... you look good in that and haven't worn it in a while". 

So yes, she's both accepting and encouraging. I am very lucky.

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Lady
(@maureen76)
Joined: 7 months ago

Noble Member     Bay Area, California, United States of America
Posts: 962

@cherylt So glad to hear that---it sounds wonderful

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(@katiep)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     Nottinghamshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 142

@cherylt Wow a mirror image of your life Cheryl. My wife will also suggest makeup, jewellery and how wear certain styles. She will even be so bold when I'm browsing online to say diplomatically "I  don't think would suit Katie" and then say why, everytime she has been right. Very very lucky.

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Lady
(@ashleigh)
Noble Member     Ocala, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

While my wife is not and most likely will never be supportive, I have had friends in the past that have been very supportive and encouraging. A couple young ladies who worked for me when I owned my gyms were extremely helpful. They would give me tips on makeup and such. One even discreetly let me know I had lipstick on my teeth one day. I wish I still had people in my life like that.

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