Ever 2nd guess yourself or have 2nd thoughts

Yes, all the time. It's called being human we are transgender or crossdressers. That seems to carry a lot of negative emotions. It's why we go thru purges. Every time that seem to have the self doubt, shame and guilt beat, it comes back. I recently read an article written by transwoman who who had transitioned (surgeries and all) and as far as I am concerned, looked beautiful and completely passable. She wrote how some days that she looks in the mirror and thinks that she is complete fake.

Brandie, be kind to yourself. Give yourself a hug! Don't let negative voices in your head stop you from what you need to do in life.

Eva

Doubts can be a girl's worst enemy.  I wish I had a solution, a way to avoid them. But I don't. If you want it enough, it shouldn't matter what others think.  And I guarantee you won't be the ONLY  "man in a dress and make up" there.

Brandie, I understand self doubt all too well. I'm not sure how to overcome it, other than be confident in who you are. However, in my opinion, it's cosplay, I think most of the rules go out the window when it comes to cosplay or crossplay. I'm sure you'll look gorgeous in your Supergirl costume. And I'll bet people at a Superman event will love it too. And if you get pulled over while en femme on the way to or from the event, tell them that you're already in costume as Kara (Danvers) Zor-El, and you are going to change into Supergirl at the event! I suspect they either won't care, or will love the whole thing as well. Have fun!
Birel

I think everyone does at times. Lately I’ve been planning my first time out dressed. The other day I went to buy a pair of women’s jeans. I picked a couple pairs up took them into the fitting room  tried them on to decide on the right fit. While I was in there all I could thinking is  “what am I doing?”. I didn’t have an answer other than I really wanted them. At checkout I felt kind of a weird vibe from the cashier. It’s kind of odd for a man to buy a 1 pair of women’s jeans and nothing else I thought. I got in the car and I couldn’t help but think “why am I doing this”. The answer once again was because I wanted them. As I drove home another question entered my head “why was I so hesitant to buy them?”. The answer was fear of being judged. A totally irrational fear but it was fear nonetheless. At the end of the day we only get one shot at enjoying our lives . Why let fear dictate how we live it.

Hi Brandi sounds like all set for this event don't doubt yourself now. Know there will be plenty of people there imagine dressed same Just go out there have fun.

Vicky

Hi Brandie. Once you have made a decision then just own that decision and go forward. What others feel and say is not really important. Be the best super girl you can be and have fun.

Luv Stephanie

Brandie...

I'm disagreeing with others here, but it is open to all opinions....including mine

I may be an oddity, but I have never doubted grace....she is all I ever wanted to be, and I could not live without her. The longer she is here, the stronger she gets...full stop.

Don't doubt yourself...go as Supergirl, as Birel said, this is  cosplay...loads of guys dress as girls on these occasions....imagine going and not dressing and regretting it!!!!...if you think Supergirl, you can and will be Supergirl...live the dream....

Just an opinion by grace xxx

Hey, Supergirl, get your cape and your costume on and you go be the best damn Supergirl ever and do us all proud. Maybe replace the big S on your top with a CDH  and you can tell everyone these are the girls I'm being super for tonight. Go have yourself a great time or you will regret it.

I have never doubted grace

Grace, can you bottle some of that confidence and sell it? I will be the first customer. You could be rich!

Eva

Everyone (well almost everyone) suffers from self-doubt, it's part of who we are but don't let it cripple you Brandie, if you don't go you will waste too much time afterwards thinking "what if I'd had the nerve?".

I know you've been looking forward to this event for some time and it's perfect for you -surrounded by lots of people who want to dress up and be someone else for a few hours - you may meet other kindred souls and if you don't, well too bad, you will have been a woman in public and I'm willing to bet you'll love it!

Hugs

Diana

And do the drive en femme too - what an opportunity!! I'm so envious!

Hi Brandie I have my wonder woman outfit ready to go don't turn me down now lets go do it. Maybe can get more to go and can reform  the justice league hehe

Hugs

Donna

So, just out of curiosity, is the event the Superman Celebration in Metropolis, IL? If so, I've actually driven through Metropolis, and stopped for a pic by the Superman statue, but not during their celebration. It would be a bit of a drive from central IA, but I am intrigued...

Birel

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Sounds good, I will be there Saturday July 31 Might be there friday as well don't know yet.

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Yes thats the place, They have a Superman celebration every year for about 40yrs now. Its a street festival and really fun.