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Hello,
I don't know if I am alone with this feeling but to me it would be better if someone came to my room and discovered me crossdressing in any situation (I do like to tie myself up alot.), rather then me going out.
Is it normal or do you ladies feel different?
I am just so scared that i can't get myself out of my room.
Lindsey,
I think may would prefer to be discovered than to come out on their own. However, that can cause problems as it's not done in a loving and controlled way and may be too much of a shock for the person discovering you.
You did't say what your home situation is, but if sharing a home then this sort of meeting could even be more uncomfortable afterward.
Take baby steps to get yourself out of the room. I would imagine you've already been out around the inside of your house when no one was around. If you have a porch or deck you could go out there when it is dark or non one is around your neighborhood. Just be cautious, hun.
Safe Dressing!
Cloe
Lindsay......hi girl. What you are experiencing is an anxiety attack. Cloe' is right......take it slow and don't push yourself beyond the point where you feel anxious. The more practice you do on this the better you will get at relieving the stresses your experiencing. Most people are to wrapped up in their own lives to notice you unless you don't look to be "one of the crowd". I have a feeling that your anxiety over trying different things might be linked to some trauma you experienced in your past.
I study phsycology and would be willing to chat with you, on private line and see if we can figure it out....if you like. I guarantee privacy in our prospective chats. Hope to hear more from you and how you are coping.
Lady Veronica
I have feelings of doubt and guilt. I also become very shy in front of my wife whilst dressing. I am fine once dressed.
I want the world to know about me but I want to keep it secret equally as much.
I try very hard to let strangers know I am wearing pantyhose all the time, but maybe not hard enough.
Its hard for us all.
Dear Lindsey; You're not alone in feeling this way. It's common for us "gurls" who are still secretive about dressing in fem. Are you wanting to reveal Lindsey but not ready to step out in public? If you have any supportive friends, I'm sure they would be willing to come to your house and you can have an in-house "coming out". I hope you find this advice helpful. I wish you good fortune in your journey.
I used to be scared of going out and being seen.
Then I had the talk with my wife, and said that I'd really like to go out dressed.
She said "Why don't you?", and I couldn't find d an answer, apart from being scared, and people telling her.
She said I should go out if that's what I wanted to do.
So I went.
Scared as I was, but realising that to be out and remain scared would be to spoil the opportunity and experience.
There would be no comeback - maybe some ridicule, but only from people who don't get it.
I smiled and enjoyed the experience, and no-one ridiculed me. The only person I saw smiled, said Hello, and commented on how beautiful the day was.
That made me smile inside, and look forward to my next time out, and the next, and...
:
Love Laura
Just a thought on this:
Being discovered makes it really uncomfortable and awkward for the other person.
So the uneasy feeling is increased in you both - it's probably not a good idea to let yourself be discovered, unless you are genuinely happy about it, and can make the discoverer happy with it too.
Hope this makes sense.
Love Laura