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I'm still very new to this, and I've been waiting for my partner to approach it on his own terms and at his pace, but I know it's something of a tradition for him to cross for st. paddy's day, and I was hopeful he would loop me in on that, which he did! I have been so absolutely excited about it, I dug out this special sparkly Victoria's Secret branded makeup bag that I was saving for a 'special occasion' (and I can't think of anything more special than him) and filled it up with a new designer mascara, a little compact mirror, those toe separators for pedis in sparkly green hearts for the holiday, little jewelry bags so he can keep his jewelry together without getting makeup on them, and two pieces (a necklace and a really cool crystal druzey bracelet) of jewelry that were too big for me, and a cute little choker (one of his fave styles) that I made by hand myself, heart shaped shamrock leaf for a pendant (and matching one for myself of course) and I was so stoked I almost spoiled the surprise the night before lol. I also brought a Sailor Jupiter costume bc a) her color is green so perfect for the holiday and b) so I could say "I don't cross dress, but I can cos play!" And that almost made him cry, and I made him trade with me to show him how amazing a skater dress looks on everyone (note to all of yourselves, crossers or spouses; skater dresses compliment EVERYone) and he even let me do his makeup (I was SO NERVOUS that he wouldn't like it) and he loved it and it and it meant so much to me. We took a million pictures (including polaroids!) and traded outfits a few times and changed his wig and laughed about both of us in heels. A hundred hugs and lipstick kisses and teaching him how to blot and where to contour and seeing him absolutely GLOW and smile and BEAM was so amazing, and towards the end I was remarking about HOW much fun it was and he told me "it's more fun with you than alone" and my heart has never overflowed so much. I ordered these matching nighties, but they got wicked delayed, so now we can go again even cuter for his birthday or mine (the end of this and next month respectively) and I'm running out of words for how much I'm looking forward to it c:
I can't believe there was ever a time I was afraid of this, it's even more ridiculous to me that I was crying upset about it. Now it's just another way to love my partner and another thing to love about him, and something that realy reaffirms US and our relationship. It's something that I love and enjoy and get to be excited about and think about and plan for and gather gifts for, this has made me so happy. I'm so glad he let me do his makeup, I feel so honored, I'm glad I got to take so many amazing pictures that reaffirmed him (some simple editing; smoothing filters, touching up, blurring background), and I'm glad we took some together, they're definitely my favorite.
I just wanted to share this with both sides; the spouses that might be stuggling; why not try to be a little more open? What could go wrong? You just say no when it becomes too much (I never had to) you could end up having fun! And to the crossers; have hope; we're out here. There are partners that will not only accept, but also EMBRACE and enjoy this; we exist, have hope c:
Caitlin,
You are an absolute Goddess!! Your SO is a very lucky girl. I hope you both enjoy many, many more days together that make both your hearts overflow!
Lara
Hi Caitlin,
As Lara says you are a wonderful SO! Sounds like you enjoyed St. Patrick’s day as much as your mate. Wishing you a fab early birthday next month.
Alice
Hi Caitlin,
What a wonderful story! Thanks for sharing. You made me renew my hope that this kind of dynamics are possible 🙂
Jessica
Thank you for sharing, Caitlin!
I too, am married to a supportive spouse, and we communicate nearly every day about crossdressing. For us, over the years, we found communications to be vital in keeping crossdressing a healthy part of our marriage.
We go out in public together as two ladies, double fun.
Also, over the years, my wife has been very willing to lend support to other spouses who are struggling to understand why their man wants to wear female clothing.
Your spouse is the luckiest person in the galaxy to have you, you are wonderful. We all wish we had what you two have.
Your partner is indeed VERY lucky! I'm sure that he is aware of this! Many would love to be in his situation. My wife is supportive, but has limits./ She doesn't "enjoy" my crossdressing, but she does see the benefit when she's borrowing my dresses to go to formal/posh work functions. I love seeing her in my clothes!
I had no idea who Sailor Jupiter was, so I googled her.... Now I want the outfit!!!!!!
Don't be afraid to slow things down a little. It's all too easy to get caught up in the rush. Should you hit a bump in the road, it hurts much more when you are going full speed. I know this from the many times it has happened to us.
Enjoy the excitement. Enjoy exploring. Enjoy each other.
Cerys
Caitlin -
It was such a joy to read your post. Your SO is a lucky lady to have such a loving and understanding spouse. My wife is supportive of my dressing to a point as she hasn't fully embraced Suzanne. Her major limit is taking my dressing out of the house which I am fine with, she also won't let me shave off my goatee. I think she is afraid that if I do I'll want to go further than she is ready to, which I understand. I am very happy being able to dress at homer and there are times I am able to dress in her presence for the day. Patience is the virtue that has gotten us to where we are.
Continue to enjoy your time with your SO, you are both very lucky to have each other.
XOXO
Suzanne
Love this so much it made my heart swell! My wife is also an enthusiastic supporter and your point is right on target: it's another opportunity to have fun and be creative together! She hasn't bought me a Sailor Moon costume yet, but she knows she could!
Thank you for sharing your story of how you came to find the joy in it. I think it's a powerful story of hope for so many whose partners are less than supportive.
And yes, skater skirts and dresses rule. My fave style!
You are wonderful, enjoy it, enjoy it a lot. Think that you are also lucky to live experiences with the person you love that few women are capable of experiencing. And I think that we are quite innocent and loyal, they are experiences that we feel with joy, positivity, and a relaxation that is difficult to have on the male side.
I love you Caitlin