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Considering my own story, and hearing the stories of so many other girls, I am wondering how common it was to start with one item associate with women's clothing/makeup and then quickly transition to dressing fully?
@maureen76 that was certainly my experience, but then it was definitely letting the cork out of the bottle. (she says whist other browser tab open is for swing dress sender).
I started with nightwear then hosiery, then it snowballed.
The biggest turning point was my first T-dress, after which makeup, then wig, then forms, then going smooth followed very quickly.
The clothes evolved over a few months, the T-dress to going full Anna mode arrived very quickly
@annaredhead yes--Anna---this seems common for us girls---we get attached to one female item and before long----as you said---it snowballs
I remember the first item(s) I wore, a pair of my mum's nylons in the early to mid sixties. I must have been old enough to leave by myself for an hour or so, I think about 10 probably.
I had been fascinated by the fine, sheer look of nylons for some time, mostly on middle aged women as the girls my age to teenage wore socks or, in some cases, tights.
One afternoon, while on my own, I borrowed a pair and tried them on, not even bothering with suspenders or girdle. To this day I remember the feeling and the sound they made as I walked around, holding them up by hand. I still love that, there's nothing quite like taking a new pair from the pack and pulling them up freshly waxed, or shaved, legs and fastening the suspender. Of course, they're not cheap so some care is needed otherwise £12 nylons can quickly become draught excluders (now, does anyone remember old stockings, stuffed with whatever filling, used at the bottom of a door to stop draughts?).
I can't remember how long it was before I tried on the full underwear and dress or skirt, probably within a year or so I imagine.
Thanks for the topic, Maureen, it's brought back some lovely memories.
Allie x
@alexina I remember my first well. I was 14 (so mid 1980s) parents and brother were out, sister at university, so a quick raid of my sister's room. being limited to what she'd left - bra filled with my socks, knickers, dress and a pair of ribbed green tights (well it was the 1980s). I had a fabulous hour until I heard my dad's car. At 14, I was the same build as my sister but taller.
Other than wearing tights (I was brave enough to buy my own) the next time was in my early 20s and I found a fabulous shop in London near Euston Station. I was working in London, would wear nighties and hosiery in my hotel room, continued this when I lived alone. Never went smooth or wore makeup back then, which I regret now. I stopped and purged when I got married, then had the odd item stashed away for when I had the house to myself until about 18 months ago.
The last 18 months has seen Anna emerge from my mind's eye to spending whole days en-femme.
Hugs,
Anna
@annaredhead That is a wonderful story of your early days before Anna emerged from her cocoon 18 months ago --now you are a beautiful butterfly
@alexina TY Allie----I thought many of us could relate to the subject---we always remember our first time and how wonderful the experience was---that's why we keep dressing
I've said this before...I think....I can remember things from 60 years ago as if they happened yesterday. I just can't remember what happened yesterday🙄.
Allie x
@maureen76 I was similar to Anna and Allie, for me as a teenager it was mum's tights, I was swept away by the smooth feel they gave to my legs and the added cool feeling as you walked around in them. From there I risked trying panties and a bra stuffed with pairs of socks
Gina
@blondie747 and from those beginnings--- you were on your way into the feminine world we all enjoy so much
I never troubled my Mum's or sister's wardrobes or drawers when I was younger. But it's still only taken me 2½ years from trying on my first bra, to going full-time Fiona. I was already there with liking to be smooth though. It feels not so much like a cork coming out of a bottle or a dam breaking open, but more like a natural lake that overtopped its valley and then eroded the edge so that there's a constant flow now 🙂
@annaredhead Certainly does, just done my arms and legs with the epilator today and in my lovely short floaty summer dress - heavenly! 😊
@finallyfiona I've yet to do arms, still not sure that would go unnoticed at work. I'm sure one of my team spotted my legs the other day, still waiting to see if she asks.
@maureen76 For me, it was almost like a light switch.
I had bought a cool looking type of harem pants at a nurses uniform store. I saw them on a mannequin in front of a store and ventured in. My memory of my next purchases fade after this.
Not long after, though, I remember a conversation with my wife as we went out. She seemed curious about what I was wearing and I said that I wanted to, more or less, experiment with wearing different clothes. That led to a very short "talk", no real resistance, and so I have only bought women's clothes since then. Pretty much overnight.
It was tights (pantyhose) that did it for me, though some years passed before I was dressing "properly".
I was four years old. and had just been watching a sitcom called "Just Jimmy", in which the central character disguised himself as a woman with hilarious consequences. After the programme I sneaked up to my parents' room, found a pair of my mum's tights, and proceeded to clumsily pull them on. Unfortunately I was caught in the act by my mum, but the "CD gene" was awakened. Some years later I was dressing whenever the opportunity presented itself, and tights have always been an essential part of it.
@jacquelinelarkspur wow Jackie---caught at 4, but it didn't stop you --- I was slightly encouraged at 5 and couldn't stop from that point on
@maureen76 For me it was pantyhose. Seeing my mom and sister ( especially my sister as she worn them all the time with mini dresses and skirts.) Them hanging over the curtain rod drying, even the packages them came in. That caught my eye and it took off from there. Panties and bras , slips , full and half with a cami. I remember messing with clear nail polish and lipstick shortly after when home alone. It was actually years later before I wore women’s clothes with my fav under things.
Unusual, but it started with aprons and all the underneath stuff just came naturally.
Remember fully dressed to the nines and the tenth was the apron, Brandi was just enthralled!!!!
Hugs,
Brandi
@brandicd11 I am curious.
How American is the idea of aprons? I know that they were prevalent in Victorian England, but how common were they in other households around the world or were they just popularized by American TV?
Hi Harriett,
Been around a long time aprons.
When I was child I heard that 70% of grand mothers in a poll thought of an apron as part of there daily normal outfit (US).
It seems to me that the media has phased out aprons, along with fast foods the mess is a lot less.
When I see photos of lady CDS, it does seem to reflect the 1950's era more. Also, the 1930's and 1940's decades always show pictures of women wearing aprons.
I believe aprons really run thru these decades but as things change the more they stay the same.
Something personally clicked with me in aprons, the more frilly the better and sissified it makes Brandi feel.
Hugs and bow ties,
Brandi
@brandicd11 I didn't think about fast food or modern foods affecting aprons, but if housewives start working, their cooking habits surely will change.
Correct - as more women work and have successful careers, the less is needed in these areas of need.
Demand falls off for items, the next big thing to produce replaces that item.
For Brandi that is sad to see and not wear.
Brandi XOXO
Something personally clicked with me in aprons, the more frilly the better and sissified it makes Brandi feel.
I just reread this. I don't see many aprons in the stores that I visit, but since I do much of our cooking, I will look for a frilly one. :apron
Hi Harriette,
Thrift stores are an excellent place to check and of course E-Bay
Hugs,
Brandi
Today, I bought my first apron. I don't think that I have ever worn one, ever
It isn't a frilly one, but, more importantly, it was on sale. 🤑
Small beginnings...
I have at least half a dozen chefs aprons. I think they may be called pinnies in England, maybe not? In Scotland, they're called, Peenies.
Allie x
@brandicd11 That is unusual, but I have heard of aprons being the starting point before but it is rare
Maureen,
I can remember being 3 or 4 years old and the allure of aprons held my interest and the feelings just went from there.
I know my mom saw me wearing her aprons but never really said anything - probably though it was a phase.
Hugs,
Brandi XOXO
@maureen76 Maureen,
I believe u are correct. From my memory at that age aprons only held my interest. Not for another 8-7 years did I start exploring my mom's dresser and discover the charming thrills of bras, panties, girdles, slips, pantiyhose, etc.
Hugs,
Brandi XOXO
For me, it took me decades to go from one item to going out mostly fully dressed one day.
Why so long... the time was due to 1) needing to understand and admit to myself that I'm a CD and there's nothing wrong being one, 2) taking small steps to test how others would react in public, 3) overcoming the fear that I might run into someone I know, and 4) finding the right outfit (giggles).
In hindsight, I should have done it sooner. Everything that stopped me, slowed me down, has always been just in my head. That's the benefit of hindsight.
@lea-jhene great post Lea ---with advice we can all use---often the things that hold us back are mainly in our head --- you may have taken a while to fully dress, but the important thing is that you do now
I also progtrssed slowly. I started in panties, but only on rare occasions. After quite time...a few years???, I wore an occasional bra. Then through stockings and other lingerie to dresses. Even then, the full en femme with wigs, make up, et al was still a few more years later.
@jjandme JJ---they say slow and steady wins the race--- you are full fem now and beautiful ---I think panties are a common starting point
Having been deeply closeted most of my life on account of my first wife, when it became clear that my now wife was not only supportive but enthusiastic, I stepped into it fully and quickly. No more wasting time, no more hiding. My wardrobe exploded then, and while it's slowed down a bit now I do still find there's always something new to add! Embracing my whole self has completely banished depression and anxiety from my life in a way I never imagined possible. Never going back!
@justnikki that is a great story Nikki---so many of us find a relief from stress and anxiety while dressing
