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I came out to my wife about 2 years ago, and while she is very accepting, I have never felt like I could crossdress while she is at home. It just felt really weird to me. Recently we had a few changes to our living situation, which meant I will not be able to dress as much.
A few days ago I told her I would like to find a way for me to become Valerie more often. She then mentioned she could give me some time to myself when I need it and dress on the guess room. At first I didn’t know how I felt about that, the idea of dressing while she is home still made me feel a bit weird.
Today I got the urge to dress, so I decided to ask her if she was cool with me taking the guess room for a few hours. She smiled and said “of course!”, then we decided that tomorrow would make more sense. I’m so happy I get to shave my legs and wear a cute dress for a few hours!!
@valerieluv88 I dress at home in front of my wife. It was awkward at first but she is supportive of it and it has become part of a normal day at home.
Hugs,
Anna xx
Hi Valerie
Your wife sounds amazing. Her level of acceptance is such that she's actively coming up with solutions which enable you to dress. That's a wonderful thing.
From what you've written, it sounds like it might be mainly your own reluctance that's preventing you from dressing in front of her. I can completely relate to that. Until this summer I had a mental block which prevented me from dressing in front of my Mum when she visits; I was justifying that by telling myself that she would be uncomfortable, but in fact it was the other way around. So I gritted my teeth and did it. The sky didn't fall in, Mum really wasn't bothered and after a few minutes my own nervousness evaporated. It was all good.
Maybe, once you've become more comfortable about dressing in a separate room while your wife's home, you might get to the point where (if she's okay with it) you might consider joining her?
The important thing is to do things at a pace which suits both of you. It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship 🙂
Hugs
Ellie x
@ellyd22 Thank you for sharing your story! I think you are 100% right, it is a mental block, I’m pretty sure I’m the one who’s uncomfortable with the idea.
@valerieluv88 Take the opportunities when you can! Glad that she's open minded about it, too! 🙂
Valerie,
Take advantage of an opportunity when it arrives.
Alice
Valerie -
That is wonderful for you, enjoy your time. How nice that you'll be able to have smooth legs, nothing feels better.
When I first same out to my wife she didn't want ot see me dressed but would give me personal time. She'd go out for a few hours and I'd have the house to myself. It was nice that she did that for me. Over time she became more accepting and on Easter one year she really surprised me. She said people don't get dressed up for the holidays anymore and said why don't you go get dresses up. I asked if she was sure and she said she was. I got dressed in a pretty dress (needless to say bra, panties and pantyhose) along with heels, clip on earrings, faux pearl necklace and lipstick (I didn't do make up at the time) and spent the day with her like that. It felt very natural. Since then she has invited Suzanne over a number of times.
I hope that over time she will become more comfortable with your dressing and invite you to spend the day with her.
XOXO
Suzanne
Great news Valerie, it is so great that your wife is accepting within limits. As you get more comfortable in dressing with her knowing, acceptance will improve. I too went through these steps. If you feel the courage, do express to your wife the feelings you get and try not to be too emotional. Shaved legs is a great feeling and you may never go back to letting your hair grow. Enjoy and good luck.
That's nice Valerie, small steps that could lead places.
