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So as those of you know from my recent post my wife accidentally found out about my dressing and the results were beyond my wildest expectations. One of the things we discussed was for both of us to continue to ask questions when we think of them as well as just saying can we talk. Well anyway on Friday night I initiated a can we talk conversation (simply wonderful again)!
We talked for 2 hours! The reason for my conversation was to take her thru my complete evolution of my crossdressing from when it started to the reasons of its continuation. I told her about events in my early life that made the dressing a safe place for me. I explained as I got older and responsibilities grew and pressures from family and work made me want to feel even safer hence continuing to dress.
I explained now in my life how dressing at home is safety , comfort and many others it was just that no desire or need for anything else ( which she said she was relieved and happy to hear) I explained that I have been out dressed to coffee shops, gas stations etc. and the affirmation of being Ginger that have received from people has become very important to me. I told her that it was hard to explain without being sexist but being able to be vulnerable as women made me feel special. (As you can see I emptied my bucket)
She was wonderful simply wonderful. She said she understands fully and really really appreciated me sharing in detail about my journey. She said “ I’m not going anywhere and as long as you want me I plan on spending another 35 years with you. I cried she held me and said I’ll never have to worry and she loves talking for it helps her to understand and learn more. My God what did I ever do to deserve this woman!!
We talked more over coffee yesterday I talked about the number of times I purged, the secretly order more and approximately how many thing I threw away and she got angry which scared me. I said I’m so sorry about talking about the clothes and she said I quote. I could care less about the clothes, you threw away the money silly you should have kept the clothes. We laughed and here’s the kicker, yesterday at her stern demands I was told in no certain terms that I was to spend the day online buying new clothes (8 new dresses on the way, shoes,lingerie, etc) and this morning she said you better not forget to buy yourself all new makeup as well. Suffice to say I had the best time shopping knowing I no longer have to do it in hiding any longer!!
Any way I’m truly blessed and for those many of you who told me from the beginning that honesty was the best approach could not have been more right, thank you so much!
Unfortunetly the one downside was my wife told me the clothes are coming out of my monthly clothing budget, and I said oh well and she chuckled!
Thanks again everyone!
Hugs,
Ginger👄
Excellent news. It is so much easier once one's SO is on board. Good times to come.
Becca
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You are indeed a very lucky person!
Ginger, this is such a wonderful story, even if it came by accident. Or possibly even more so. Of course you have left a shed load of us closetted girls deeply jealous 😂. It's not going to happen for me 😢. You go girl xx.
Ginger -
How wonderful for you to have such a loving and supportive wife.
One thing my wife and i do is going for mani-pedi's together. It makes for a fun afternoon doing something girly together even if the two of you are the only ones to know. I've gotten color a few times which is fun picking colors out for each other.
XOXO
Suzanne
I am so happy for you Ginger! I truly understand your delight at how things have gone, as my spouse now understands and accepts me as the woman I've always been. We must remember how fortunate we truly are and try to be an encouragement to all our sisters here on CDH.
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
This is heart-warming! What a treasure! I have surveyed over 175 crossdressers and compared it to results of others. About 25% of wives are supportive, another 50% tolerant, and the other 25% intolerant. Unfortunately, my wife was in the intolerant 25% and divorced me after over 40 years of marriage. Count your blessings!!!
You have fond that Unicorn we are all seeking. Keep sharing , communication and enjoying this journey together! So happy ...and envious of you
Way to go Ginger.....YES.Please keep talking with your wife.You have a keeper there,treasure her .She needs roses and a beautiful card expressing your love and understanding.Now,on a lighter note,which room in your house gets converted to a walk in closet for the both of you?Dual vanities,dual makeup mirrors and please dont forget more shoe racks.? O the possibilities are endless.LOL hahahaha.
That’s amazing! Communication is everything. I’d be so lucky to have your “unfortunate downside”.
So great, glad all is well.
That's fabulous @ginger1968
I hope you find yourself as happy as I have been since I shared with my partner 🙂 X