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@chrisfp99 Living alone would increase your chances of becoming more fem definitely
@jameie Joananna, I'm sure you're right. If I were living on my own I would definitely dress more, but not full time. However I have a good marriage and family life and I'm not looking for that to change xx.
@chrisfp99 thanks for sharing your story Chrissie. Beings deep in the closet and keeping yourself hidden from your family is a tough place to be. Maybe sometime down the road you will be able to explore like at a costume party (like Halloween) with your wife. Show her your feminine side. Maybe this will break the ice and help you come out at least in part to her????
Good luck. Cassie
- @loneleycd Cassie, I don't see any scenario where I could even drop a hint to my wife. I can live with it xx.
@chrisfp99 Great story Chrissie, just be you and satisfy the Chrissie desire as you see fit. It’s different for each of us. Welcome to CDH by the way!
@chrisfp99 Thanks for describing yourself, Chrissie. I gathered as much about you from your other posts.
"So that's Chrissie, confused, frustrated, repressed"
Frustrated and repressed? I can see that. Confused? Not a chance. You have both feet firmly planted on the floor. Makes it kind of difficult changing clothes, that's all.
Hi Chrissie. Well same story but different outcome, the urge was always there and later in life the the ability to express the true self comes along. I am sure you would be dressing more if the opportunities came along and maybe you could make decisions to find more time. Enjoy the preparations for next year.
@ab123 Angela, I'd love to find more time to explore my feminine side. We'll see. But I have six months to plan next May. It'll be so much fun! xx
Hi Chrissie,
Your story is a great illustration that there are millions of points on the gender scale and I think there are very few of us at the exact same point. For myself, I would love to get rid of my body hair and get regular pedicures but I enjoy my male life and am too old and lazy to fully dress on a regular basis.
- @michellemybell Michelle, you have nailed my mindset. I'm old and too lazy to dress too regularly. I mean I'm very inexperienced and it seems such a daunting thing to do. Particularly makeup, although I'm always up for giving it a go xx.
Like you Chrissie, I repressed my feelings for a long time. In reality, this became a significant source of unhappiness and stress in my life. At the time, I'm not sure I realized this. My life was just my life. As I got older, my situation changed and I was finally able to confront my gender identity head on. As a result, I am a happier person and more satisfied with life. My hope for you is that you have the opportunity to explore yourself more in the future and see where it leaves you.
@lauren114 Lauren, I'm so glad for you that you've found a happy solution. Not that sure exactly where I'm headed xx.
As noted, we are all different and travel different routes in our CD journey. There is no right or wrong here just what works for you.
I have very recently come to a very happy place in my journey. I am male, but I enjoy some time en femme. My wife knows this and is happy and content. I have no desire to dress full-time or transition in any way. I can wear a dress around the house if I want and do it occasionally, but not too often. I have my other little touch...some not so little like shaved legs, chest, and underarms. I occasionally wear some lipstick and underdress often (panties always, bras often) and this keeps me content.
My point is to find your balance. I am a big believer in being open with your spouse if at all possible, or at least to some degree. I honestly can not imagine hiding such a part of ourselves from the one we love. I know how difficult it is to address this, but hiding such a thing seems so much worse to me. I know I am one of the lucky ones with a supportive spouse, but I can not I.agine living my life with a person who would not want me to be me.
@jjandme JJ, I'm certain that I can never share with my wife. Given that I will just have to take the occasional opportunities that come my way. This does make those occasions ridiculously exciting though! I'll be planning next May in a massively extended pink fog. Heck, I waited 35 years for my last opportunity, 11 months seems but a moment xx.
@chrisfp99 Good luck and have fun, I know you will, but be very careful...most often it's a matter of when, not if a spouse finds out.
@jjandme I'm exceedingly careful, but is there a tiny part of me that sort of hopes I get found out?
@chrisfp99 Being found out is one risk but then what about coming out Is that a tiny thought, introducing a new hobby for your retirement.
