I left my knickers on the bedroom floor!

Based on what you have shared I think you went far enough for now. Her well being and health is the most important. But be careful not to go to far for now you don’t want to create more stress for her. However be prepared to share the rest later. I wish the best for your wife and you, hopefully she makes a full recovery.

Hugs April

I do hope that your wife's treatment is a permanent cure. In the great scheme of things wearing knickers seems trivial, especially compared to your wife's illness. Hopefully she will accept that your love and care for her far outweighs the knickers. Best, Marlene.

Happened to me long ago. Left a beautiful green bra on the hook on the back of bathroom door.  Wife came home , found, called me, I said it was mine.  Silence, nothing more said.  When I came home found the bra on top of my laundry basket.  After a few days, was discreetly lost.  She never said  another word,  think she was relieved there was not another real woman.

Sorry to hear of  the medical issue, my SO had a lesser bout and came out of it.  Personally I won’t ever think about you future cross dressing, concentrate  totally on supporting her, she so needs you.  Best wishes

I hope everything goes well.

Hello Randi,

I went through this with my late wife. She let me dress within strict limits and I always prioritised her well being, that is vital whatever the outcome and that is what you seem to  be doing. It is vital you feel you have done the right thing. All you can do is care for her to best of your ability and cherish each precious day. Loss of a spouse is a terrible experience I would not wish on my worst enemy, however you will happier and cope better if you are able to take that outlook.

Since her passing I am now live as a woman in my private time at home which the vast majority of my time as I retired. I go out very little however as I feel I must avoid hurt to family and friends and all  that entails. I therefore maintain a strict separation between my public male life and my private female life. I found great peace from spending time as a woman.

That said I very much hope and pray that the outcome for your wife is good. If not I believe you are entitled to do what gives you peace while avoiding hurt to others. It sounds if your conscience can be clear whatever the outcome, and that is vital.

Janet

First of all good luck to your wife, I hope all treatments go well, and good luck to you for being there for her and helping her through.

I think it is a good thing your secrets out, it makes life so much easier and you got a reasonable response from her for the time being. Right now you both have a lot to get through, so just let the issue lie until your lives her stable again. Enjoy what time you have to dress, but worry about further discussion, at least for a while.

I am sorry to hear about your wife’s illness and do wish her a full and speedy recovery. Don’t be hard on yourself for imagining how you might respond in the unhappy event of the worst. Thats just your mind running through the possibilities, nothing more. When face by such prospects, its normal that the thought might occur to you.

I’m sorry to hear about your wife and I hope she gets better! Had a scare leaving a pair in the washer once. Totally forgot about them. Got to them before wife found. Whew. She would not be understanding-especially if she realized they were hers that she threw away months prior!

I agree with April and would not go any farther in discussing your dressing with your wife. She has enough on her mind as it is. I wish the best for you both.

If asked, I will almost always suggest that we not keep secrets. There are too many stories similar to this where there is a discovery and things blow up irrevocably. If we think that we can hide our secret indefinitely, realize that the odds are against that.

Randi -

I am sorry to hear of your wife's health issues and wish her a speedy recovery.  Being there to love and support her is very important.

Others have given you good advice and I don't really have anything to add.  You know her and your situation better than anyone.  Follow your heart and you should be okay.

XOXO
Suzanne

Hi Randi,

Thoughts are with you and your wife as she faces her health challenges.  Clearly the health issues come first.  We all understand  crossdressing considerations in any context of a relationship present a lot of guilt - likely exacerbated in times like this.

Know your cross dressing desires are not intended to hurt anyone or undermine your relationship - keep doing your best to balance your femme side without introducing too many complications to your present circumstances…agree the honesty in how you responded was for the best.

You are not alone, especially here - most of us married/closeted have had similar “uh oh I left it out” moments of panic.  We’re all here to help cope!

Kimberly Anne