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So I have lately been struggling keeping this whole crossdressing/gender issue thing a secret, it’s eating me alive. I feel I needed to talk to someone about it. So I decided to think outside the box and talk to my boss.
For context, I’m a lifeguard. I work at a gym. My boss is great, only like a few years older than myself. I thought she would be the perfect person to talk to.
I was very uneasy and often had to take deep breaths just to get the words out of my mouth. Eventually I just sucked it up and I told her that “I’ve been having gender issues” she seemed unfazed. She reassured me that everything was alright. As we were talking she asked me what I liked to wear, my favorite style etc. I told her I loved skirts and dresses and she again seemed unfazed. She was support supportive and that alone made me happy, she said if I needed her, to contact her. But, it gets better.
I decided to take the gamble and I decided to ask my boss if I can potentially dress at work. She said absolutely. None of this feels real. I can’t believe I managed to gather the strength to do this. I’m just so happy I almost burst into tears and hugged her. Obviously I have to wear what the female lifeguards wear if I choose to come in dressed. So that means I have to wear the usual unisex shirt with leggings or shorts, my boss even suggested I wear a bathing suit underneath in case I ever had to make a rescue. Not only did she give me the okay to dress femininely at work, but she also complimented my eyelashes which I thought was funny, she said “girls would kill to have eyelashes like yours.” She also proceeded to tell me the CEO of the place I work at is a lesbian herself. So that means that I know I’ll be okay. My boss said if I decide to change my attire, she’d back me up 100%.
Theres also usually a water aerobics class that lasts a few hours and I told the teacher of the class of my idea to change to feminine attire. She was also extremely supportive and told me her daughter was a lesbian too. The amount of support I got from both my boss and coworker were incredible. I remember shaking and feeling extremely uneasy during both exchanges. But both couldn’t have gone better.
I have already ordered two pairs of leggings, shorts, and two bathing suits. I’m just stunned at the support I got today. I still feel so overjoyed and happy. Well, guess it’s time to give it a shot!
Hi Holly. Congratulations on being so brave and the great response you received. Now get your girl on and be happy!
Well done Holly! And well done Holly's boss too.
Connie
xxx
That is very brave. Good for you. And what a great boss.
Well done Holly! That's fantastic.
Love and hugs, Stephanie 💖
It is lovely to hear wonderful experiences like yours. It shows that things are moving forward at a pace and acceptance is easier to find. let's face it, in your role who cares what the rescuer is wearing. So happy for you.
Holly,
That is wonderful news! Good for you for having that kind of courage. And thank you for sharing your success!
Hugs, Jill
Awesome. That was bold of you for sure, but if it results in your happiness that's fantastic.
Any concerns of what others/public might say?
Honestly, yeah, big time, I’m super afraid of what people will think of me. I’m glad I have the option to do this, but now I just need to conquer my own mental hurdles. I’ll be honest when I say I’m terrified of what people will think.
Wow, so happy for you.
Hugs, Liara
Holly, that’s incredible news! I’m so happy for you. 🥰
Not to mention the fact that what you did took incredible courage.
Congratulations 🎉
Much love,
Raquel