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Relationship status, married, out to wife, she's indifferent, DADT, I think.
Guy dress up routine, very simple, a few care products, "clean and smart" look, never a slob look.
Gurl routine, adding more to my routine, becoming complicated, still lower maintenance, I like it.
So what do I mean...
It's exciting to spend hours doing my toes. It's exciting picking out a pair of panties and wearing liners. It's exciting strapping on a bra. It's exciting picking my purse for the day or outing. It's exciting choosing which shoes to wear. It's exciting dressing with feminine hints and seeing if anyone notices. It's exciting being a CD, growing as a CD, aiming to be a fully out CD some day.
Of course there all the other fears and insecurities. It still all feels worthwhile.
Hi, Lea.
At night, I used to just visit the bathroom, brush my teeth, take off maybe three things, T shirt, jeans and underwear, throw on chair and into bed.
Now, there's a dress or skirt and top, jewellery, shoes, much more underwear, then remove makeup, brush teeth...
Two or three times the work but exponentially more enjoyable 😊.
Allie x
@lea-jhene I'm with you Lea! Guy clothes are just so utilitarian to me...no inspiration at all. It explains why I only shop for guy clothes out of need. Women's clothes on the other hand are just so exciting! I want to try everything! I love the process of getting dressed and savor putting each piece of clothing on. Makeup is a whole other level! I get such satisfaction when I look in the mirror to do a check and see the woman I am looking back at me!
@lauren114 I am just starting to try makeup. It is very interesting all the products out there to fix something or change an appearance. It let's us be who we want to be.
@lea-jhene I can totally relate to going out with hints of femininity and wondering who is actually paying enough attention to notice. As for a while now I will wear my woman’s Guess jeans, a woman’s top or sweater, my cute little ankle boots and of course all my under things, light makeup and perfume. I’ve found that people in general don’t seem to notice or don’t say anything about it but have had a few sales associates comment on my outfits.
@cdashley I love dressing with hints if femininity. I went our shopping this week wearing a cardigan and sandals, showing off my pretty toes. Like you've experienced, most people don't notice.
@lea-jhene I am so right with you on this one. The more I feed my femme side, the more I want. Putting on a bra after a long hiatus felt so comforting and so vital.
Male me puts on whatever is crimpled up on the floor by the side of the bed. A pair of jeans and a T-shirt.
Cerys.... Takes an hour!!!!!. Shower, shave, put a face on, take ages deciding what to wear. choose an outfit, put it on. It's not quite right. Choose another.... repeat a dozen times. Finally dress, time to do the hair. get the hair right and spray into a solid rock. Look in the mirror... Nope, not quite right.... Look for another outfit. Maybe a different skirt... Choose again... repeat many times.... finally put on the outfit you were wearing... re-do the hair. Shoes or boots? Decisions decisions.... decide on boots. Boots on. Look in the mirror... No try shoes...Which ones.... decide to keep with the boots. You've wasted half a day. By the time you get ready it will be tome for bed. One last look in the mirror.... You forget jewellery... Which necklace? long or short. Try a few short ones.... Try a few longer ones... Go for the first short one that you put on. Earrings.... not wite, try another...repeat many times. Settle on the ones that you've been wearing for the past week as they are great but not too OTT. Bracelet.... Too heavy. too thing. Too loose.... Doesn't work with the earring and/or necklace.... Keep digging.... Got it.... One last look in the mirror.... Bullseye!!!! You look amazing. You feel amazing... You go down stairs after an hour or so if creating this amazing person. You ask your wife what she thinks of your amazing creation.... "Looks fine"!!!!!! FINE!!!!!!!! Stunning was the word you were hoping for, but you get fine!!!!!!!
This is the daily routine... Every day, for the past three weeks. I've been doing this on and off for many years.... It doesn't get easier. In fact, now I'm out and about and full open about my crossdressing, it's become worse.... If I was just around the house then I wouldn't be so bothered, but Cerys is seen. She goes places. She has to be perfect!!!!! Male me, crumpled clothes, maybe brush my hair 🙂
Cerys.
@dazzler I find that my dressing unleashes my creative side and my curiosity to learn. And there's the wonderful feeling when I look in the mirror and a creation emerges, beautiful, confident, me. Venturing out is exciting.
I used to justify my dressing to my wife as a fashion hobby when I first shared this side of me. I realize it's not a hobby, but it sure us fun like a hobby.
Being a girl and looking pretty is hard…. But I love it.
Makes me have more honor and respect for my beautiful wifey. Staci
@sf Me too. I appreciate how much time and effort it takes my wife to look good. I'm more patient with her.
This is a big part of why I like to dress, I get both worlds. I am a guy through and throigh, so like to just put on a shirt and shorts and I am good for the day. But, I also like picking an outfit, choosing the right lingerie, filling my bra with boobs, brushing my wig, applying make up, especially lipstick, and then primping and adjusting it all in front of the mirror. I wouldn't want to do all that every day, especially if I had to get ready for work, but it is fun when I get to do it as my own choice.
It is like shoveling snow if I going skiing. I love to shovel snow becasue i know I don't have to. I don't have to dig my car out to get to work. Ig i get tired of it, I jusr go home to the beach.
@lea-jhene I enjoy the option of looking like both sides. Its fun to know you can be you and YOU.
Drab day, I can be out of the shower, dressed and having breakfast in a few minutes.
Full Anna mode - depending on look will take at least an hour in the morning.
Anna xx
Drab shopping: Ok, do I want black, grey, tan or navy - (fill in name of male garment here) this time?
Grace shopping: Surely I need one of every color of - (fill in name of female garment here) this time.
👩🦳🥰❤️😍👊🏻
GP
I'm reminded in the Harry Potter books how wizards would try to dress as muggles but would end up looking ridiculous since they just didn't get the feel of the clothes. When I dressed as a male, I felt the same way, and so never really took great pride in how I looked. Only when I started dressing en femme did I feel that I was dressing as to how I should've always dressed. I still dress as a male at work and every time I always feel trapped.
I'm also predictably the same as so many of you when in guy mode - chuck on whatever is lying around.
When I'm dressing for the pleasure of being myself however, I can find myself having passed an hour or more in the process of getting my girl on. Sometimes I wonder what has happened to the day, as I seem to be lost in the wonder of clothes and makeup... and I wouldn't change it for the world!
One of the nicest things about living as a woman is thinking what outfit to wear when I wake up in the morning. What's the weather set for, am I going out at all today, how warm is the house?
