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As some of you know, I have been going to my Church as Cassie for almost a year now. As I got into Church an older man asked me why as he was pointing at me and my dress. Basically I said I needed to try this and find out where I was going with this. I also said I could tell him where my head was at at this moment but in a few minutes I might be thinking about it alot differently.
It has been almost a year and finally had the discussion about why I was doing the dressing 👗 as a woman.
He was very nice about it and I thanked him for it. It genuinely made me think deeper for myself WHY.
Something I will be thinking about for myself and explaining to the next person that asks.
Cassie
I'm very happy for you Cassie. I hope you gain new insights from your interaction. Count this as a big win!
I did much of my own thinking a few years ago. Questions about what, if anything, comes next. It took a while, but I wouldn't be where I am today if I hadn't asked those questions. It's all part of the journey.
I'm in a really good place now and have no problem talking about who I am. I've lost count of the times I've had that conversation.
Last night I went to dinner with a close friend at one of our favorite Italian restaurants. I was dressed in my usual lazy trans girl chic. Immediately after we were seated, an older couple was seated adjacent to us. Both of them had a clear view of me. Their frequent glances of glaring contempt were obvious. I could hear them talking about me. I couldn't help but grin at them each time they looked. I so badly wanted them to ask....or toss a comment....so I could have that conversation. Unfortunately they never gave me that opportunity.
Yes, an opportunity. The opportunity to build a bridge. Much like you did Cassie.
I really don't give a damn what people think. I'm proudly trans. What you see is what you get.
If someone is willing to listen I'm happy to tell my story. Some of the biggest wins in my journey have been the times when someone listened and had a change of heart.
Trans is beautiful ❤️
Liz
@lizk Thanks Liz. Just discussing it with someone out loud Just helps cement in my mind why I am where I am AND where I am going.
It is my opinion that some in the radical trans movement have made them fearful of having this discussion. For me I feel I want to present as a woman and be treated like one. I don't want to raise a ruckus, just live my life.
Cassie
Cassie don't take this the wrong way, but there is NOTHING radical about living my life openly and proudly.
@lizk Sorry, Liz. What I mean is that I just want to be accepted as Cassie, I don't want to DEMAND that everyone accept me or screem at them that they are disgusting and homophobic. I just want to quietly just be Cassie.
Wouldn't call myself proud to be trans, I just am.
Cassie
No worries Cassie. We're good. Miscommunication happens. You and I are on the same page regarding how we want to live our lives. I'm not making any demands either. I just want to live my life free from interference.
I'm a bit outspoken about who I am because I think the best way to gain more acceptance is by dispelling the misconceptions many people have about our community. Shouting and making demands is generally counterproductive to that.
Liz
@loneleycd There are so many different ways which reaffirm why we crossdress or how accepted we can be while dressed. I am glad that it finally went well for you.
@loneleycd Ive seen the word WHY so many times since I have joined. I used to ponder on that myself over and over. Many have said the best answer is Why Not ? but the best answer I can muster for myself is " Because " basically I just am weather it was genetics, or experiences, I dont think any answer to someone asking Why, could ever explain it. Maybe thats the path forward for those that dont understand , its not a mental or physical sickness, its just me and it is what it is. Cheers RC.
I suppose life is like writing a book and to explain it all there are the five'W's and an 'H' for good measure.
WHO am I
WHAT am I doing
WHY am I doing it
WHERE can I do it
WHEN can I do it
HOW can I do it.
A simplistic overview of many lives. Once the first three are understood by you then the others follow.
We never stop and ask ourselves why we dress en homme, so why do we feel the need to ask why we dress en femme. It is just part of us. While we want to be accepted for who we are, remember that those who have a problem with it are the one's with the problem , not you.
@jjandme JJ,I don't know if I made it clear, but this person didn't ask this question in a negative manner. He prefaced the question by saying he was just curious and genuinely wanted to know. We had a nice conversation while I was explaining that I needed to try this to see where I need to go.
Cassie
