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Well, I didn't start dressing until later in life when I realized that I was intersex and had a woman's body type that everyone but me seemed to recognize. Women's clothes fit me the best and I wear them everyday. Once I accepted my intersex condition and switched over, everything fit and seemed perfect. No special fetish or excitement here, I just get dressed everyday as most other women of the world do. It's actually sort of utilitarian for me. I do like to glam up and go out but that's mostly weekends and events, otherwise I'm just sort of blended in. It's different for some of us intersex folks. Thanks Maureen, for this interesting question. Marg
@margprodue Hi Marg,interesting----your story a little different than many here in that you started later in life---we truly are a diverse group in so many ways--glad you like the question ---Hugs Maureen
Like so many of us have said, as a teenager, the look and feel of female undergarments had a "very erotic effect on me"
And that's what started a 60 plus years "CD career". OK when I got married, I thought it would "All go away" but of course it never did. What turned into a very... loveless marriage soon resulted in Catherine Louise Ryan becoming my "erotic outlet" and I "made love" to the image in the mirror.
This went on for nearly 30 years and after divorce, I not long had a new and loving SO. I did a "90%" purge and was like a "reformed drug addict" Did not need or touch my "CD addiction "
But of course it "all came back". Eventually my new love found some of Caty's stuff and now, a couple of decades later we have settled into the classic DADT set up.
"She knows but does not want to know".
I sleep in my own bed in my own room up the other end of the house and sleep femme every night. Except on hot "OZ" summer days, I underdress in panties and cami, sometimes a bralette. Hot days I just wear panties. (Under my shorts, I hasten to add.....LOL) T shirt on top
"Crossdressing being a winter sport" is when I get into the thermal camis, panties and heavy duty tights or panty hose on warmer days.
Caty.
@ryanpaul Hi Caty, that is quite a story---Sorry to hear about the DADT for your current marriage---I liked what you said here = "Catherine Louise Ryan becoming my "erotic outlet" and I "made love" to the image in the mirror." ---- I can identify with that and remember thinking about my dressing in the same way when it became my primary outlet---Hugs, Maureen
@maureen76 I'm beginning to think a DADT poll would be interesting
Catherine Louise Ryan becoming my "erotic outlet" and I "made love" to the image in the mirror.
What a unique viewpoint. Thank you for sharing.
Lisa Ann
Thank you for this topic. The replies are very interesting and varied as you would expect. We all have our reasons for dressing and being here.
For me I started at a young age out of curiosity and jealousy (having 3 sisters and spending a lot of time in the girls department doing school shopping) but after putting on my mothers things I loved the feeling of having them on. There was an erotic aspect to dressing that can't be denied, however, it just felt right. Over the years I buried those feelings very deeply. There were occasions between my marriages that I dressed but for extremely short periods of time. There are a few reasons for that I won't go into but fear and discovery are two of them as I'm sure most can relate to.
A few years ago dressing came up in a conversation with my wife and Pandoras box was opened. Since that time Suzanne has come into her own to a point. My wife is a bit more accepting than DADT but not to the point of dressing whenever I want (which would be all the time or at least most of the time). It works for us and that is the important thing.
As to motivation - as I said curiosity and jealousy were my initial reasons but over the last few years it is because it feels right. I have a feminine side that I can express by dressing which allows me to deal with stress and accept my softer, gentler self.
XOXO
Suzanne
An excellent take Maureen. It would certainly make trips to Hobby Lobby a heckuva lot more interesting. My only fear if it ever went mainstream there’d be so many more ladies around that I might get bored and move on to a different hobby.
NOT!!!🥰
@gracepal Suzanne---You express what I currently feel when you said the following ="over the last few years it is because it feels right. I have a feminine side that I can express by dressing which allows me to deal with stress and accept my softer, gentler self. " ----My dressing is all that as well
OK, I'll play, just to remain current. You'll have read my story before but at least it's different from most girls. I had no inkling as a kid. No furtive trying on my mother's things. Normal teenager, school, sports, girls, plus played bass in a quite popular rock band. Good for social interactions if you know what I mean.
Then sometime in my early twenties I suddenly experienced the most overwhelming desire to try some lipstick. To this day I have absolutely no idea where that came from, but I can remember the moment as if it were yesterday. Anyway I followed through, then of course came more makeup, then clothes. I guess the motivation was largely erotic.
My motivation hasn't really changed. My opportunities are currently non-existent 😢.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
@chrisfp99 Hi Chrissie, I remember your story well because it was unusual for the late start and the entry item being lipstick. That's what I like about this place in that the stories and reasons are different. I'm sure you've thought a lot about what might have precipitated the sudden desire to wear lipstick, yet I guess in the long run it might remain a mystery and perhaps doesn't matter anyway. Sorry to hear that your current opportunities are non-existent, you do make a pretty woman. from the pics, I see that your lipstick always stands out in your makeup---no mystery there---LOL---Hugs, Maureen
@maureen76 Thanks for the compliment. Yes the whole thing is a complete mystery to me. But in the end does it matter? I don't have any guilt and just try to go with the flow. Although not much is flowing at the moment xx.
@chrisfp99 It's interesting that it all began with a simple tube of lipstick. I believe you are unique in your beginnings, where most of us discovered the erotic fascination of feminine undies.
Lisa Ann
@lisadouglas Lisa, it is quite bizarre. Although I can assure you the feminine undies followed sooner rather than later 😂 xx.
@chrisfp99 of course---lipstick as the "gate way drug" leading to panty addiction and beyond
Hi girls,
Oh my! Somehow I missed this post and now I will have to read what all of you said about the topic. But first let me tell you my experience. I knew when I was three that I was supposed to be a girl. I was always attracted to anything feminine and very envious of the pretty things girls could wear, and so, as I grew older, and opportunities were provided, would dress in what I considered to be "my clothes". There was never any eroticism involved, it was what felt entirely normal. Last year I found out that I am an intersex female, so how I always felt finally made sense after so many years.
I have transitioned and now live as the woman I know I was born as. So "dressing"is just wearing my clothes on an everyday basis.
I will say that all of my clothes are very feminine and I am quite picky about how I look and what I will wear each day.
Hugs girls,
Ms. Lauren M
@reallylauren just curious---Is there a genetic test to determine if you are inter-sex?
@maureen76 Hi Maureen,
In my case, I had always known I was physically different than other boys, as my male private parts were vastly smaller. Further differences became apparent at puberty, my hips got wider, my bum and thighs got larger, my male private parts remained tiny, and I got boobs. I also never developed an Adams apple and my voice never really deepened.I don't have any hair on my legs and very little on my underarms. I also used to get severe cramps in my groin area which resulted in numerous hospital examinations, doctors poked and prodded and talked to my parents but I was never told anything.
I grew up with these conditions and didn't really think about it but always avoided wearing a swimsuit and always wore a t shirt. My parents were aware of my differences but it was never discussed.
I have been a participant in an ongoing study called the Canadian Longitudinal Study on Aging. When I came out as transgender they took great interest in comparing the test data before and after. One of the nurses told me she was not surprised at all. After the last test I had nine vials of my blood taken, far more than previous. I asked what they test and she said, "This time, everything."
A year later I came down with a condition common to women and went to the hospital ER. After some more tests and waiting for several hours I was led into a cubical and met with a lady doctor who had been studying what she called "extensive medical records." She said it was apparent that I had been poked and prodded by many doctors, and I have unique anatomy. She asked me if anyone had ever mentioned intersexuality and I said "no". I told her that whenever I asked doctors what was wrong, they always said it "...wasn't important."She laughed and said it actually was rather important. Evidently my blood had been tested quite thoroughly and the results showed I have higher estrogen levels and my chromosomes are xxy. She said "You have something relatively common to women because of your unique anatomy, a urinary tract infection. Lauren, you came in identifying as a transgender woman, but I'm here to tell you that you are more. She placed her hand on my knee and said, "Lauren, you are intersex, you are a woman!"
It's interesting that Marg talks about women's clothing just fitting better. All my life men's wear never fit me properly. Sleeves were always way too long and pants didn't fit right. Now, I wear a lady's size 16/18 and the sleeves all fit perfectly and my pants look and feel great! My body knew it was female all along!
A lengthy way to answer your question, I believe you have to have a thorough test of your blood including DNA profiling and see what the results are.
Hugs,
Ms. Lauren M
