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I hope all you fathers out there had a great Father's day, I know mine was pretty good.
My Father's day actually started on Saturday night. My oldest daughter was going to be working on Father's day so she took me out to eat, myself, her husband and 2 kids. She called me just as I was getting out of the shower. I took the time to put on a bra and forms, nice top, shorts and violet trainers. Didn't take the time to put on makeup because I was in a rush. We had a nice meal at a local Mexican restaurant.
On Sunday morning I wore the dress I wore 2 years ago at my class reunion. 1.5 inch wedge sandals and dangly heart earrings. I went to Church this way. At the end of Mass they asked all the fathers to stand for a special blessing, I stood but was a little nervous and self conscious. After we all went downstairs for coffee, bars and conversation. I sat at a table with a young family new to our Parrish. I don't think they found out I was Trans, they didn't ask and I didn't volunteer that information.
That afternoon my17 year old granddaughter asked me to take her to a movie, which I was happy to go with her.. A little while later my #2 daughter took us out to a upscale burger joint. It was myself, my daughter, my granddaughter and my Ex.
All day spent with family dressed as Cassie. IT WAS A GOOD DAY.
I HOPE YOURS WAS AS WELL.
Cassie
lovely outings.
I.spent the day in a short Grey skirt, bra panty , lovely multi-color white & lavender long sleeve blouse, blond short wig, dangle earings, painted toes and nails. My SO and I went out for buffet at a.nice hotel, walking distance from our flat
MY son didn't show, but texted happy dad day, and that's good enough, we were out in femme and being.the inner self that demands attention, she will not be denied !
Hugs all you gals, ladies and closet beginners, you can do it COME ON OUT!
YOU WILL BE HAPPY and feels pretty if you do
@loneleycd Cassie - that sounds like truly a day of affirmation and living your truth. Happy Fathers Day. You seem very courageous.
I spent Fathers Day with most of my family at the beach. Only my SO knows, so no dressing. (although secretly I would lovde to have been wearing a cute one-piece bathing suit....;)
@loneleycd Glad you had a great day Cassie. Father’s Day for me was very quiet really. My son was away for work and my wife kinda forgot. As she asked if i minded to clean the upstairs bathroom which i normally do while we are cleaning. Then she asked if I would do the accent wall in the living room with the wall covering she purchased. Which of course I agreed to. Now yes I dressed first thing in the morning for my tea/ coffee run for wife (one of my little outings I do) and stayed dressed while doing bathroom and the wall covering which made me bring up the fact that I was working on honey do list on Father’s Day. Omg , she felt so bad and told me to stop as she apologized over and over again which I replied “ we are almost done and I’m in a dress so don’t worry about Father’s Day. After that I made lunch for us and dinner later that afternoon. It didn’t bother me at all as I enjoyed my day as Ashley fully dressed , makeup and perfume and also slipped out to pick up pantyhose on sale
How lovely was all that Cassie? I too spent the day with my family but I'm so in the closet that dressing never crossed my mind. I so want to show them some of my pics but I know that way disaster lies 😢 xx.
@chrisfp99 I’m right there with you girl. I just want them to see me in my dress so bad but I know disaster awaits for me if I do that!
I feel for you Chrissie. All of us here at CDH are at different points in our journeys in our cd lives AND we have different goals.
I know for myself I would likely be DEEPLY in the closet too except when my Ex found out she told our 3 grown kids and threatened to tell my brothers. So when I came out and told everyone it was something I needed to do AND I am so glad I did. So far everyone has been either tolerant or accepting, even at my Church.
The anguish of keeping this side of yourself secret from your family is hard. It maybe that is the best for you, or maybe you should get out ahead of the possibility of the day they accidentally find out. I hope you find the best place for you and your family (these relationships are the best and strongest).
I hope you find your space, maybe therapy? That has helped many here. For a long time CDH itself has been my therapy, helped by a real life therapist.
Good luck to you
Cassie
Cassie, thank you for such a sweet and caring response. Would you say in retrospect that being discovered was ultimately the best result for you? I've reconciled myself to the approach I've chosen. Firstly, coming out to my wife would result in instant divorce. Trust me. I'm not prepared to put my daughters and wider family through that (even though I think my daughters would maybe accept Chrissie quite well). I'm absolutely convinced that if I had any Chrissie stuff at home my wife would come across it at some point. And anyway, unlike a lot of girls here, a quick snatched couple of hours here and there dressed wouldn't do it for me. Too much stress. What if she came home early? What if one of my daughters popped round?
So my current approach is all I have left, which is to wait until my family go abroad, typically once a year. I don't fly. With a number of days to myself I'll buy a few outfits, wigs, makeup, heels, jewellery etc. and immerse myself completely in my femininity. I experienced this in June 2023, but unfortunately not last month (see other posts 😂). I'll also go for a full professional makeover. Then I'll have to purge everything before they return. If nothing else this approach makes the experience highly intense!
I don't need therapy. I'm completely comfortable with who I am, but I guess that would change if I were ever discovered. I definitely agree with you that CDH is the only therapy I need. Sorry to repeat myself to you girls who have seen my story before, but it's quite cathartic getting it all off my chest. All hugely frustrating but it is what it is. Meanwhile I will continue to live my life mainly vicariously through the stories of you lovely girls.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
@chrisfp99 Chrissie, you are one of the kindest, most caring people in CDH. I appreciate everything you contribute here.
Chanel, you are so sweet hun. I do what I can and find it validating if I feel I can contribute xx.
I am so happy that you have found a balance that works for you. The only thing I warn EVERYONE is to be prepared for a time when something happens and you are found out. Maybe it never happens, but as I have read here it happens to often.
Cassie
@chrisfp99 same thing with me wish my family were more accepting but I just know that they ain’t.
Cassie -
What a wonderful series of events for you, sounds like you had a lovely time with your family.
My Father's Day was a quiet day at home. My wife made breakfast for me, gave me cards from her and our fur baby as well as a new beer can chicken holder for the grill (she thinks she donated my last one to Goodwill) as well as fingerpicks for my guitar. I didn't dress that day which is okay.
XOXO
Suzanne
