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Yesterday was a whirlwind day for me. First came my work in my usual drab clothes. All day, looking forward to my therapist appointment. At last week's visit she told me that I could wear whatever I would be comfortable wearing. After deliberating most of the week, I decided to wear lipstick and femme earrings(at a minimum). I did pack my favorite dress, stockings, and black pumps with the thought that I could change once I got to her office. If, I was feeling brave! Then... It happened! I clocked out at work and the bravery hit me in the face! I drove to a secluded place by my shop and started changing.
First was the earrings. My ears are pierced so out came my studs and in went my dangling earrings. Next was my first lipstick I purchased a couple weeks ago. It turned out perfect! At least in my mind! Lol. Next was to put on my sports bra with the pads still in. Then to slide on the dress, stockings, and heels. All this in my vehicle mind you.
Then the half hour drive to the Drs office. Excited, nervous, watching my speed like a kid on their first drive. I got to her office... No parking open right at the door. I figure at this point that I just need to own it. I got out and walked to the other side of the vehicle and retrieved my duffel. Here comes a young man on a bike, right towards me. He rode right past without even looking twice! Now the walk to her office. The longest, most exciting, nerve wracking 150 foot walk I think I've ever taken! But, I killed it! Not even a wobble in my heels and no more interactions.
I got into her waiting room and had a seat after checking the mirror. When she came out to get me, I thought her jaw was going to hit the floor! The first words out of her mouth..."Oh my gosh, you're beautiful!" She gave me a huge hug and told me how proud of me she is. With my nerves calm and my shaking hands settled, I had the most wonderful session. The hour was over in what seemed like 10 minutes. During that whole hour, you couldn't have taken the smile off my face with a jackhammer! There will be many more sessions dressed. Now, to just get a wig to complete the look.
I do have to put a huge shout-out to my friend Nora. Without her encouragement, I don't think I would've taken such a big step. Thank you my friend and sister!
For anybody on the fence about going public...I hope your experience is half as good as mine. 24 hours later and I'm still smiling every time I think about it.
Take care and hugs to all of you, no matter where you are in your journey.
Bobbie
Sounds like you had a wonderful first time out. It gets easier every time you go. Good for you ☺️
@chloesfriend Amazing story, I am so happy for you, and thankful for you sharing your story.
Congratulations, Bobbie!
Thanks for sharing with us that amazing moment of your journey. 🤗 It’s truly inspiring.
Enjoy being yourself. Magic is happening!
Mia.
@chloesfriend Hi Bobbie. Your story gave me such a rush! Wow. Congratulations. I'm so happy for you!
x
One year & a week ago I was sitting in a MacDonalds dressed to the nines having a ice cream cone. It was my very first time out in public as Abby.
As I sat there eating my cone I was scared, I was excited, I was nervous, and most of all I was thrilled, all at the same time. I have progressed to the point where I now fly efemme.
I really do know the the joy and happiness you feel.
You go girl
👗Abby👠
@abbygirl Good for you Abby! We've chatted but I didn't know your first time story.
I'm THRILLED for you, Bobbie! It only gets better from here!😘
XO Shawna
We just love success experiences such as yours Bobbie. That first feeling of free expression and exhilaration will no doubt lead to more. So happy for you.
My dear Bobbie, what a wonderful and enthralling story you have shared with us, I am so happy for you that your first time stepping out went so well.
May your brightest days be yet to come.
Kind regards, Gwenny.
Congratulations Bobbie! Enjoy your next outing.
Alice
You took a brave step Bobbie… you go girlfriend be proud !
Hi Bobby!
Your experience with your therapist was so very similar to mine. What a wonderful experience to have! So happy for you! 🥰
Lisa
Bobbie -
What a wonderful experience for you.
I've also done therapy sessions when dressed. I change at my therapists office as it is private and per an agreement with my wife I don't dress outside the house. The sessions take o a different note when dressed as opposed to being in drab. She compliments me on how I look which is always lovely to hear.
I hope you have many more opportunities to dress for your sessions.
XOXO
Suzanne
@cdsue Thank you Suzanne. I think that is part of what made the experience so wonderful... My Dr kept complimenting me as well. We also chatted about makeup, wigs, and clothes. It was more like sitting with a close friend than a therapy session.
Hugs,
Bobbie
Congratulations, and thanks for telling your story. Most of us who have been out and about had a similar first time experience of thrill, excitement and fear. Yet, we are here to tell about it.
I have two threads here, one about the thrill of going out and how it changes, and another about how nobody really cares that we are out en femme. Your post examplifies both.
@jjandme I think I've read both of those. Stories like yours helped me push past the worry of what other people will think. Thank you
yes we all remember the thrill and excitement surely outweigh the fear and anxiety when its over. Now with time you will feel au natural as Bobbie and stop thinking I am a guy in a dress.
What an amazing experience Bobbie!! I had the same experience this past December. The walk to the office and sitting in the waiting room was terrifying!!!! My therapist came out with a previous client while I was sitting in the waiting room and walked her to the door. When she came back, she realized who was sitting there and complimented me on my look. It was the greatest hour-long session I ever had. I totally understand your feeling!!!! You go girl!!!!!
Good for you Bobbie!
