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What was your wife's reaction when you first started shaving your legs? Had you come out to her about your crossdressing before? Or did you hint at it before she know about your crossdressing? Did you blame it on something like swimming or cycling?
For me, my wife for most of our 17 year marriage has known that I don't like my body hair. I've never completely shaved my legs but shaved/naired my upper legs, thighs, rear and back. She'll touch me at night in bed and be like "Oh your back is smooth, you shaved??" Not in a mean way but she'll make comments about liking my masculine body hair, although many times she'll make comments about my back hair getting long and making a grossed out face. I felt like if I shaved she'd question my masculinity but if I had long hair she'd be kinda turned off. This was definitely something embarrassing to bring up to her although we did eventually talk and she could understand how I felt about both of those statements. She then bought me Nair when I'd ask but I still made it seem like I wouldn't go crazy. I felt like it'd never be something she'd welcome but also wouldn't totally disapprove of.
So this past week or two, my wife had mentioned my dry legs and said to use lotion on them and I mentioned that I wouldn't want to put lotion on them with my hairy legs. Keep in mind that with me almost 40 years old and wearing skinny jeans my leg hair has seemed to naturally thin out the last couple of years. Definitely not as dark or thick as it was 10 years ago. And my wife has noticed and never said that she disliked it thinning out. So a few days ago I was shaving my bald head, doing a little trimming in the groin area with a guard on. I decided to thin out my leg hair on most of my legs and even clean shaved in portions, afterwards applying lotion.
That night I was laying with my wife in bed before going to sleep talking as we do most nights. She reached over and grabbed my leg and was like "oh your legs are kind of stubbly in parts. Did you shave???" Sounded mean at first. She kind of caught herself after she repeated the question again and I was a little timid and embarrassed in answering, I replied "Well yeah I tried to thin my leg hair to put lotion on my legs like you suggested." She then touched a little bit more and I told her that I clean shaved a few parts like my feet (something she's known I've done before and not really ever had a problem with).
She then basically questioned a little bit more but not in a mean way. I told her that I didn't want to embarrass her or the kids but since it was Winter I felt that it wouldn't hurt to try and that I liked the way that they felt thinned out and even shaved in spots. She was pretty understanding and just said "I'm sorry if I embarrassed you by acting that way at first. I don't want you to feel that way." She then went on to tell me how she just didn't want my prickly legs against her. I think that the impression that she had though is that this wouldn'treally go any further. We went to sleep not cuddled but as she was falling asleep (not sure if she heard) I tried to clear the air by telling her that to avoid having stubbly legs that I almost clean shaved them all that day and that I had thought about nairing them.
We woke up all cuddled up with our legs touching that morning. She reached down and felt my legs briefly. She didn't bring it up but mentioned that she enjoyed sleeping next to me to keep warm. Then that morning as we were at church service, she lovingly leaned over put her arm on me and whispered in my ear "I love you so much" and then squeezed my thigh. She isn't typically super affectionate and doesn't like PDA so this really struck me, especially with the squeeze of my leg. Almost a slight signal about my shaven legs.
Sunday night I stayed up late working on a project for work, she asked if I minded her going to bed before me and that when I came to bed to cuddle with her to keep her warm. I told her I planned to take a shower before bed. That night I took a long shower and shaved my entire legs and got them super smooth. Put some lotion on them, let it soak in a bit then got in bed. I cuddled up next to her, our smooth legs entwined and it felt amazing! It was hard to sleep that night because I kept wanting to be awake to see if she noticed and what her reaction was. Several times in the night she would take her foot or shin and rub it up and down my smooth leg. Just like the panties, I thought "She knows right?" I mean I can tell with my foot rubbing her shin if her legs are stubbly, hairy or the like.
The next night she was away for a few hours with only our teenagers in the house, so I took a bath. I'm sure if my teens heard me drawing a bath they were shocked! I've seen my wife do this plenty of times but I got in soaked in the warm water, shaved any grown stubble down, put coconut oil and lotion on them afterwards. I wanted them to be perfectly smooth at night again to test out her thoughts or actions in the night.
I have to admit getting into bed scared me. This was now the fourth night getting into bed with partly or fully shaven legs. I was definitely wondering what she would do. We got into bed talked for a little bit. Our legs against each other, her moving her foot up my leg every so often feeling my smooth and moisturized legs. I surprisingly fell asleep talking to her. I woke up 45 minutes later. I think she had been asleep too but we both kind of stirred said a few things and readjusted our bodies. I lifted my leg up on a body pillow she has making sure that my knee and upper thigh were close to where her hand was resting. Within a few minutes she put her fingers on my knee, thigh and even shin, rubbing softly with her fingers for 20 or 30 seconds. Then she moved a little closer and said goodnight again. So I know she was awake and positive that she consciously felt my smooth legs with her fingers. The way she touched them almost felt like she liked or welcomed the smooth feel!
I sure hope I am reading all of her signals right and that hopefully this is something she enjoys the feel of! But again maybe this is another aspect of a DADT relationship. I have to admit that I am still scared to show off my 'New' Legs to my wife. Eek!
Any of you ladies have a similar experience with shaving your legs? It seems like many of you just came right out and boldly asked your wives but are there any here that took these baby steps with some confusing gray areas that I have had?
-Natalie
My wife knows I trim my hair but she hates it and hates April when I shave my legs smooth or my armpits which I only do if I am going to a multi day crossdressing event. When I dress at home she prefers I don’t shave my legs or arms, but she knows I trim the hair still to a shorter length and has commented can you not go so short next time, she is attracted to my manly features and says she doesn’t want me looking feminine in male mode so for me it is kind of a balancing to find a happy medium for when I dress I like to look as feminine as possible. I also love my wife and want her to be happy too as she accepts my crossdressing and supports by me not having to hide it when I do dress, but she wants to know when I do so there are no surprises. She has gone with me as April out in public 3 times. So there is some support, but then she says you wear way too much makeup and really look like a man when dressed( well sure I am a big man with a deep voice a, but I love to dress and feel pretty and or sexy) Lol I have it better than so many so it ebbs and flows.
Natalie -
I keep everything below the neck shaved. Before I cam out to my wife (actually before I started dressing again) I kept my groin area shaved. After a year of dressing I wanted to shave my legs so I mentioned it to my wife. She gave a non-commital answer, so I shaved them. It felt good feeling the smoothness of them and amazing when I out on stockings or pantyhose. I let them grow out during sandal season as it is easier than having to worry about getting questioned (from the grandkids, kids, neighbors and friends) as to why they are shaved. Unlike your wife mine doesn't rub my legs but it would be nice if she did.
XOXO
Suzanne
I started shaving my legs years before I came out to my wife but like you mentioned my leg hair was very light and already gone from most of my legs from wearing tight jeans and work pants. So one day I shaved them clean from top to bottom. She did notice and was a little raken back but in no time at all she was ok with it. When others noticed she would even defend me by saying oh he hardly has any leg hair. So now for years I keep them smooth 365 days a year. Since coming out to her I keep everything smooth , chest, legs arms underarms and of course my nother region. I use lotion daily after every shower and being a huge fan of pantyhose they feel amazing silky smooth when wearing them. I’m sure your wife will be ok with it in time hun. I’ve had many people notice and make comments about my smooth legs and I really don’t give a shit what people think about it.
My wife does not like me to shave my legs. She is ok with shaving my chest and she shaves my back for me which is nice.
my wife discovered that I shaved everywhere while dating. I'm quit hairy and one day she came over and it was all gone. She rubbed everywhere and asked why. I just said I liked how it felt. A few weeks later when I told her about my crossdressing she was like that makes more sense. She isn't a huge fan of me being hairless but her words were you shave what u want and I'll shave what I want.
I came out to my wife before she was my wife.
I started shaving my legs when I was 17.
I have been shaving my legs for well over 30 years... most of our marriage. I actually did it because I was racing bicycles at the time, and my dressing was still just occasional panties and a bra, which my wife has always been aware of.
For those who haven't shaved their legs, I highly recommend it. The tactile sensation is amazing, especially when you first do it. The sensation of pulling up thigh high stockings on freshly shaved legs is about as good as it gets. My wife has always been fine with me shaving and though I stopped for a short time after I crashed in a race and broke my collar bone, I soon went back to shaving even when not racing. I asked my wife if she preferred me shaved or not, since, frankly shaving is a PITA and she opted for shaved. I have since kept my chest and arms hairless, and just recently stated removing underarm hair. Personally I think it looks way better, and much, much less body odour as well.
I live in southern California, so I wear shorts near 360 days a year so my shaved legs are always on display and it has never been an issue. In all those years only three or four people has asked or commented.
I began shaving my legs years ago and I just decided to do it one day and that was that. The wife saw but I never had much hair there so it was no big deal to her. Nylon stockings and pantyhose feel so wonderful!
Wife doesn't like my chest shaved smooth so I clip it close. I'm going to shave it smooth to glue some forms on when I have the opportunity in about a month. Will be fun!
Since I first shaved my legs I've progressed to clipping my crotch, and forearms leaving the hair about a quarter inch long. Shaving my armpits smooth was the last thing to do. I just have to remember not to raise my arms and show my pits around certain people. Shaving is a chore and I don't do it every day but at least once a week.
One more night of sleeping and her touching my legs with her hands and feet. It's also been two days since I shaved so there's a little soft stubbles. The family will be away for a couple hours early this evening where I will get to take a bath again (just saying that feels so girly!) and I will get to shave them smooth and oil them up.
My wife and I have been going to bed late this week and we haven't been intimate. I am hoping tonight that changes and she gets the chance to feel and possibly see my legs (hopefully in the dark just a bit) and hopefully this whole topic will be out in the open.
Or who knows maybe we are intimate and she doesn't say anything. Either way, I think I will have my answer. (ie. She knows and doesn't want to talk about it OR She knows and we will talk about it and if it's something she enjoys or not)
Wish my luck ladies!
-Natalie
I wish you the power of “Lady Luck” you clearly have some feminine desires you want to experience and express. Your wife has some inclination in my view I hope you have the opportunity which I believe you do as you comment how you both communicate each night, you need and I believe want to express some of your thoughts, feelings and desires to your wife, but are hesitant in what if I get the bad result. You can slowly take a some more small steps, but you clearly love your wife and she does love you, I hope you both find the moment and time to have the intimate conversations that you desire to have. I truly wish you and your wife the best. You are who you are and can’t help how you feel inside. Best of luck “Lady Luck” with your sweetheart.
Thank You April!
Hi Natalie,
Although I am a relative newbie to cross dressing, I have hated my body hair from the day it sprouted. I have done various trimming, and shaving over the years. I just decided to try shaving my legs completely one winter day around 20 years ago. It didn’t go over too well. My wife thought it was “ too much!” I stepped it back a bit, and went with baby steps, and now shave them completely every day all winter. Years of work pants did thin the hair too. I only let the hair on my shins grow for shorts season. It’s gotten finer and gets blonde from being in the sun, so it doesn’t contrast much with my shaved knees, and thighs. It does seem to keep people from asking me uncomfortable questions during the summer though.
I love my friends, but most of them are conservative, and just wouldn’t get it.
I think your wife is on the way to becoming okay with it. It took mine a while, but she has stroked my shaven, moisturized legs several times. That feels priceless!
💕Lara
LOL I think the skinny jeans would make masculinity more questions than shaving your legs!
I think this more comes down to personal preference when it comes to body hair on their partners.
I've always been completely hairless bodywise... I literally can't even get to "stubbly" feel... it just doesn't happen. All my life, my partners have always commented how much they love my smooth skin. But, it's naturally that way, and that's the way it is when they first meet me, so whether they have a preference for body hair or not I have no idea really, but they do always comment the same thing... I love how smooth you are.
