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Eleven months ago, my wife and I had “the talk.” I was already underdressing with her permission so I asked her if I could start Crossdressing before I ever started. Her only limitations were extremely reasonable and quite acceptable. One, was that I couldn’t crossdress on a day that we were going to be intimate later. That has eased up because I have worn my women’s skinnies, women’s cut shirts, and the only thing I had to do was change out my big hoop earrings for something less feminine.
But the only other limitation was that she did not want to go out with me while I was dressed. That wasn’t a biggie either. But now, 11 months later, she went out to a drag show with me.
We didn’t know until the day before that we were going to have a sitter for our special needs kid. So, when we found out that we could both go out, I had to rethink my outfit and not dress too over the top. I chose a cute blazer/skirt combo.
We met @Philma Bierstein and her wife there. My wife and I came in separate cars because she was picking up her bestie for the show too. While waiting for my wife, I bumped into Molly who was the girl that I danced with for hours at the Rainbow Rave (sometimes quite raunchy). She was there alone so I told her she could join our group. After all, when I was alone at the rave, her group took me in. I did tell her my wife was coming and she didn’t know the extent of our night at the rave. Luckily, Molly didn’t blurt out about the dirty dancing or anything about us dancing together.
My wife isn’t used to late nights and left around midnight. Molly was getting cold because of the lace dress (and it really was chilly) so I put my arm around her and gave her some body heat as we watched the show and danced a bit. Eventually, I gave her my blazer which kinda threw off my outfit a bit. But no worries. It was worth it.
Even when my wife was still there, I ran into Cassie who was in a group of girls that took me in at the Show Me Pride Drag Show. She was hugging all over me, we took selfies, and I stopped by her several times for a few words during the night and my wife never even noticed because we were kinda behind her. I was a little concerned that she might get a little territorial because Cassie is hot. But, like I said, she really didn’t notice.
Interestingly, the next day, she said, “Your friend Molly is weird.” I just said, “Yeah, but she’s nice to have brought me into her group when I was alone.” Maybe, my wife was just pooing on her because she was a cute girl 20 years younger than us. I did know. But nothing else was really said. The day after that, I asked my wife if she would want to go out with me again sometime and she agreed. So, apparently her restrictions are easing up as she has gotten used to seeing me in women’s clothes and in full femme before I go out. Who knows? Perhaps, she might be wanting to go out with me to keep the girls off me a bit.
It was a great time. My wife had fun and wasn’t too worried about my “girlfriends.” Maybe, she’s motivated to go out with me because she wants to keep the girls at bay. Regardless of her motivation, it was a big step for her to go out with me dressed and I am grateful for the chance.
Here are some pictures from the night with Philma, Mollie, Cassie, and the drag queens (several are becoming good friends).
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/members/trailgirl/mediapress/a-night-out-with-my-wife/
So FUN!! And SUPER cool that your wife was willing to go out with you dressed. That is such a big step and hopefully eases her mind a bit. You all looked GREAT!
*kisses* tara 🙂
Lucky girl.
Hugs, Liara
That is a great step forward for you and your wife. When this works between couples it can bring them closer together and I'm glad it is going that way for you and your wife.
Amy
Sounds like a great night, I’m hoping my wife will get to this point too. Congrats!
— Abbie 🥰
Dirty dancing with Molly... you lucky girl. She is HOT HOT HOT!!!
Wow, Mika. Your story sounds somewhat similar to mine.
My wife has known about my little "hobby" since shortly after we got married. For most of our marriage, while raising our kids, I rarely was able to actively enjoy it. But over the past five years, that has dramatically changed. She's not happy about it, but is somewhat accepting, She also had some restrictions. First, I was never to leave the house, dressed like that. At least, not without her. She said that she wanted to be with me to "protect" me.
Well, that's changed. Now, I routinely go out to CD/TG events. I attend parties, I meet with friends. I go shopping & clubbing. She & I have even had Girls Days Out. We had makeovers, got mani-pedis, had lunch, went shopping, etc. Her main concern was other people discovering my "shameful little secret". She worried about the neighbors seeing me. Well, this past weekend, while dog-sitting our son's dog & she was at work. I had to take the dog out to do his business around noon. I wasn't about to go drab just to do that, so I took him for a walk, en femme. I told my wife & she was cool with it. In fact, when she got home, she asked me to take some trash around to the side of the house-- in plain view of the neighbors.
She also does not like to be intimate, if I've dressed earlier that day. That is different than a few years ago when we've actually made love while I was full en femme-- lingerie, heels, everything. She would tell you it was some of the best we've ever had, but as of the past year, she wants no part of it.
My wife seems to have become more accepting-- even a bit encouraging. Maybe it's time for another Girls Day Out & to offer her another chance to be intimate with Dawn.
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So lovely! Good for you...and keep communicating.
Thank you so much, Tara. I figured, in the back of my mind, that she would go out with Mika someday. I just let her bring it up when she felt like it.
Hugs!
Thanks, Liara. Yes, lucky indeed. I know most girls here aren’t as lucky and my heart goes out to all of them.
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Thanks, Amy. Yeah, I knew she was getting more used to Mika when she started bringing clothes home for me. The best thing is that she even knows my style and got stuff I like. It has definitely enriched our relationship.
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Thanks, Abbie. The most important thing to remember is baby steps. I eased her into seeing me in women’s clothes gradually after we had the talk. Now, I wear women’s clothes every day. And I suppose she saw me enough times getting ready to go out that she got used to that as well. But yeah, it took 11 months to get to this point.
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LOL! And here’s the funniest thing. When we were dancing really dirty at the Rainbow Rave, a few months ago, I was tucked. She backed into me while we were dancing this past weekend. Since I was wearing the pleated skirt, I didn’t tuck. Surprise, Molly!
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Thank you for sharing that, Dawn. I can definitely see some similarities in our stories. My wife has suggested that we get our nails done together. I don’t know if she intends that I be drab or dressed since I always sport fabulous nails in my everyday half drab work appearance.
I would love for my wife to flip on the intimacy thing. But since we did do stuff recently when I was dressed earlier in the day, who knows. Granted, I didn’t do makeup or a wig that day. Baby steps.
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HI Mika sounds like a interesting night. Hopefully all is working after. and no static. Know when was marrried several years ago x wife was the jealous type. When we use to go out dance with unknown woman and guys. She would do the same but knew we always leave together. Loved your friends pumpkin dress and your outfit was nice too. Oh the tuck and untuck sounds like someone testing the water somewhat.
Donna
