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It has been 5 years since my wife knew about my crossdressing issues ...and since then she has been supportive but very cautious about my 3 grownupkids knowing anything and we still live all together and that limited my time crossdressing..which created lot of small issues between both of us due to the fear of exposing my secret in which this bothered her so much ....yet I could not resolve the issue with my 2 daughters and son ...to her it is a nightmare....yet I tried to convince her to open the box and tell the kids yet she refused completely saying in our social life it will be a catastrophic result to our community where this is still a taboo.....
@willy A parent’s primary job is to help kids successfully leave the nest. That doesn’t mean kicking them out, but rather giving them the support and encouragement needed for them to live independently. Personal inconvenience aside, ultimately, someday you’ll be gone and they will have to make it on their own.
According to your pictures, you have been able to go out in your community, a bit, but having all of your adult children at home will definitely crimp your ability to dress. Some times we just have to accept where we are and do the best that we can.
I'm in a similar position Josline. My two grownup sons do not live with us anymore, but they do live nearby and drop in with frequency, often unexpectedly. I discussed this at length with my supportive wife, and we agreed that there is no need for them to know now. It is our business. If they should find out or "catch" me en femme I am prepared to tell them in a very matter of fact, non dramatic fashion. We both feel that a non dramatic approach is the best way to go especially with adult children. You will no doubt have to ration out your dressing time, but that wont always be so and perhaps not much longer.
Josline, To tell or not tell the adult children, it is a dilemma. In your case especially, since the children still live in the house.
As for me, my grown children do not live at home but occasionally stop in for a visit - which I love. They do not know that I am CD but they do know that I have a fem side, gals shoes, jewelry, pedicures etc. They probably suspect, they are not stupid, but I have not formally told them. Wifey is not in favor of telling the kids, and they probably don't really need to know anyway. Eventually full disclosure may be the best thing, but for now wifey and me are choosing not to tell them.
I hope you can get your dilemma resolved so that all are as happy as possible. Have fun, Stacy...
Yes me and my wife are so terrified of my children knowing because in our middle east region it is a forbidden issue which leave catastrophic results from children part ..I can't even hint that I have a female side .....even my wife despite her approval she does not like to see me wear women cloths ...but she accept it ...so most of the time when my kids go to work I can wear my things ...
When I came out to my wife , she accepted me but is not supportive. She asked only 3 rules. Number two is I will never tell our adult children. I feel what she asked was fair .
