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Hey girls, I just wanted to relate the last few days. On Christmas day my Ex's cousin's hurts passed away. My Ex so wanted to go to the funeral but it was a 4 and a half hour drive from central Iowa to central Missouri. She didn't want to go by herself, so I volunteered to accompany her. They had a visitation on Sunday evening and funeral on Monday morning.
I went to my usual Church Sunday morning at 8:30. I wore one of my favorite dresses, pantihose and black flats, which I wore all day. We left the house about 10 drove to Marshall Missouri to get a motel room, then drove the extra 30 minutes to the Church. There was a long line at the visitation out of the door. It took us almost a whole hour to get to meet/visit the family. I was instructed not to embarras my Ex so when asked I told people I was just along to help with the driving. This worked until the last person in the line, the deceased's daughter. When she mentioned that they were accepting of different lifestyles I pretty much told her the whole story.
The next day the funeral was at 10, I wore a black skirt, black tights, black flats and a black with cream colored pok-a-dots top. This is what I wore all day. I think I did a good job of staying in the background trying not to make any of the day be about me. I did try to add a little to the conversation around me, but since none of them knew me nor I knew them it was just a couple hours being out and with a crowd of people.
I do think I passed or people were not sure any didn't want to make a scene.
Just wanted to share this to show that for some of you this is a possibility IF THAT IS WERE YOU WANT TO GO.
Cassie
Thankfully it worked out OK being so close to people who don't know you, especially in Missouri. Sure, it depends on the individuals, but under the circumstances, it could be that nobody wanted to make a scene, either. Staying in the background shouldn't aggravate anyone much.
Last New Year's Eve, my wife and I took advantage of the free public transit to go out. Somebody who was drinking on the bus saw my Mary Jane shoes and this got him upset. My wife was not happy. This year I wanted to show her that he was an oddity, so not only did I wear the same shoes, but I wore a now oversized bright red sweater over medium sized breasts forms and no coat (climate change). No problems at all, this year, but I will have to stretch one of these shoes so that it doesn't irritate one of my toes
We can dress to blend in, if we want to stay unnoticed. Learn by doing.
I have found thatt while many people do like alternate lifestyles themselves they are mostly willing to let others live their lives. Most of the time somebody has a problem there seems to be alchol involved or some group setting like a gaggle of teenagers trying to be cool in front of their peers. Personally, I have never had an issue, and the few comments I get are positive.
Glad you was able to help out while being yourself.
Allison
You did it all with respect and dignity Cassie.