Question on talking to a fellow CD

Hi Cassie the easiest way was to ask her if she comes there often and ask about the shows on the weekends and go from there you got this girl easy as pie ..he he ..

Stephanie Bass

I guess the best way would be to casually introduce you self as a CD and go form there. With that said, I would actually probably start to stammer and stutter like I did when I was a teenager asking a girl out, LOL.

Hugs, Liara

Hi, I'm Cassie. may I join you?

Diane

I have met several sisters when out en femme - these tend to fall into 3 categories:

1. The excited supersister. As soon as you see her, her eyes light up - no need for explanations, you're already bezzie mates. With this type you can be like "Hi, Darling, how are you? Oh, my - you look gorgeous!! I love your (insert most fabulous aspects here) - can I get you a drink, and other no holds barred gushiness. From the reciprocation, you gauge whether you need to tone it down a bit for comfort, or let the world know how amazing the sisterhood is.

2. The reluctant shrinking violet. This type looks a bit lonely, and gazes around, hopefully. Generally, the clothes are a little poorly thought out and the makeup skills are next to non-existent - but she is trying, and she is there, and she is my sister. My introduction will be along the lines of "Oh, hi! Are you a sister? What's your name, honey?", and I will see if she opens up, using a compliment to get the feelings flowing. If she doesn't want the company of an outrageous hussy like me, I will know, and not be an over-sensitive drama queen - usually this type warm to you as the evening goes on, and they see you mingling with all sorts of other people, and are not specifically picking on them!

3. The ignorant beyatch. Sorry, girls, but there are members of our sisterhood who think their look is super-convincing, and they don't want an obvious bloke in a frock outing them with air-head conversation. I find this ignorant - in the literal sense of the word, as this type will pretty much act like you're not even there and look around as if looking out for someone else, building a wall of "Do not approach me".

Huh! Who wants to talk to someone else when they could be talking to Laura?

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giggles, indeed Laura, but giggles aside, a very insightful post, at least for me. Thanks

Marti xxx

I'd guess that a compliment would be the best ice-breaker. "Hey, I love your shoes!".

Avoid "Hey, nice tuck!" unless you're 100% sure............

Connie

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Laura, you got me thinking about my own category now. I guess I'm a shrinking violet. I both want to be invisible, yet crave the conversation and human interaction at the same time.

Stephanie, ironically, the bar in question just opened up a couple weeks ago, so that line might be an amusing conversation starter. 🙂

Cassie, I hope to join you there later this week. Ironically, I think I saw a fellow sister walking through Walmart last night... but if she was a CD, she was so good at it that I couldn't be 100% sure. I didn't have the opportunity to talk to her, she looked like she was on a mission as she passed by. I'm not sure if I would have had the courage to say anything anyway, but, "Those are fabulous boots, where did you get them?" comes to mind. Come to think of it, I wonder if having a local gay/drag bar will help bring more of us out?

Birel

Hi Cassie,

Just go the direct root hi my name is Cassie is it ok if i sit down, then just say I've never been to this bar before how about you do you come here often, then just see how the conversation goes, she can only say sorry I'm off or she will start talking to you,

Hugs Roz X

I am very sure she would have enjoyed you approaching her with the said lines given above. She wouldnt have been there if she didnt want to meet others like us. A simple hi and a compliment would break the ice since she may have been as nervous as you. I would have been delighted if I were her .

I've always thought that an opening line could be "Hello sister". If the person wants to talk she will respond and if not you will know in a few seconds where the situation stands. I think you should have approached her and it could have turned into a fun interesting night making a new friend.

I would have gone over and said I am on my own too. Is it ok if I sit with you and chat?

The best ice breaker would be to smile as soon as eye contact is made.  Compliment her on her ensemble or just part of it, like her blouse or necklace or purse.

It is important, if you are endrab, to let  her know you are a sister and not an admirer trying to make a score.

Once you have given her that compliment, let her react.  Body language will be the first 'tell' as to whether she wants to chat or is unsure, both of herself and meeting new people unexpectedly.

By all means though, if you can, at least try and make a connection.

PaulaF

I hope so Birel!!!

. . Cassie

I would compliment something about her appearance and try to get a feel for how receptive she is about conversing.