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Relationship with Family after coming out as a CD

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(@leotardman)
Eminent Member     VERO BEACH, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 10 months ago

I was wondering how everyone's relationship changed with your Mom or other family when they came out? My Mom discovered my CD when I was about 13yo when she came home early and saw me doing a Jane Fonda workout in one of her leotards. For about three years nothing was said till I was busted again and it put a strain on a close relationship we had. Finally, one day she said something, I forget what specifically. However, I pointed out that A. She goes to the gym and had been on local television in very revealing outfits leotards, and bikinis! B. She was and and still is today a submission mat wrestler and wrestled in bikinis and less and I'm supposed to be okay with that?? She paused and said that I was 100% and she was being a hypocrite. The next day I got to workout with her while dressed in a leotard. I have to say in the long run by coming out it has brought us closer together much more than a mother son or mother daughter relationship.

 

Geoff AKA Lady G The Leotard Queen

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Lady
(@leainvancouver)
Joined: 1 year ago

Prominent Member     Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 379

@leotardman That’s a wonderful story Geoff. If only every family could take an honest look at their own hypocrisy and allow others to do what they feel is right as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone. 

it took me a lot if personal growth and shedding of conditioning to even allow myself to express myself so I can understand when families get so caught up in what other people think. You were right to challenge your mother as you did.

My mother is long gone but I suspect she might have known all along.  I had more feminine chops than she had, having Asperger’s. I arrived at the conclusion that I inherited the feminine gifts that my mother either dismissed or didn’t have access to.

I’ve been gradually coming out to my family and so far I’ve been met with understanding. It’s always a pleasure  It’s a different world from the 1960’s I grew up in.  

My kids are generally accepting of me but I think they always viewed me as a bit of a wild card. 😉

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(@Anonymous 47410)
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Joined: 6 years ago

From what my mother told me, I was three years old, when she found me in her makeup, trying to apply it to myself. 

From that point on, she was supportive of my CD activities. 

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(@heels234)
Prominent Member     Mesa, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

My sister knows I am a crossdresser and she loves it,always jokes with me about  how high some of my heels are.My younger brother{the youngest of us 3 children} does not know and would not understand.He is in for a surprise if and when,he comes to my house.No sweat,no problem.

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(@justnikki)
Prominent Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I was invisible to my family most of my life, so they don't get to know me now even if they were interested in doing so. My mom is advanced in age and struggling with the early signs of dementia and coming out to her would just be confusing. Dad passed during the pandemic, but I never could have told him, he would never accept or understand. That said, MY family (wife, daughter, close friends) knows, accepts, and supports me and that's enough.

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