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Have been out dressed up once in the dead of night, really liked it but really want to go out one evening dressed up with like minded people to feel safe. Are there any events where that can be done please.
Maryanne
Many areas have support and social groups for just that purpose. I recommend that you google your area for such groups.
MacKenzie Alexandra
Mary Anne I know how difficult it is to go out alone and understand your concerns. I travel a LOT and usually look for clubs that are gay friendly and give those a try. I have never encountered any issues, the worst thing is getting hit on. 🙄. I agree with MacKinzie that you can usually find a support group with a little work as well. Good luck and go have fun!
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C
The first time I ever went out I was just partially dressed. I was dressed as a guy but was wearing pantyhose with shorts. I was with my crazy girl friend and was scared to death. No one seemed to notice what I was wearing. We had a good time and wearing pantyhose out with shorts became a regular thing for me.
As the next spring was approaching I was excited about wearing pantyhose out again but thought my look could use some improvement. I bought some short girl's shorts. They showed more leg. I liked that. Something was missing though. My legs didn't pop like I wanted them to. I thought girl's legs and feet always looked extra good in platform wedge sandals. I had to have a pair of those.
I went to a shoe store and saw several pairs I really wanted. I couldn't decide which ones I liked the most so I bought them all. That did it. In my shiny pantyhose, short shorts and platform wedges my legs were awesome. Now I had to get the nerve to wear that out.
That took a while and involved little steps. I bought some tops and shirts that made me look more fem. I grew and styled my hair to give me a more feminine appearance. I didn't want to look like a girl but didn't want to look too boyish either. I went out a little at a time. Each time staying out longer and getting around more and more people. I wasn't any less scared or nervous. I was just getting braver, and the thrill, rush and excitement was getting greater.
I was in a department store and got up the nerve to go look at some pantyhose. They had several pairs of a style and brand I really liked. If I was not dressed the way I was I would have bought them all. Why not just buy them all now? What would people think of a boyish looking girl or a girlish looking boy buying pantyhose while wearing pantyhose with short shorts and sexy platform wedges.
I gathered up all the pantyhose in my size and color and went on the cashier line. I was waiting for remarks, comments, insults, mocking or anything negative. I got to the cashier, paid and left. That was not only not bad but a total non event. Needless to say I began doing a lot of my pantyhose, shoes and shorts shopping dressed like that. I seemed to be able to pull off and effective androgynous look. I was that, "is that a buy or a girl" person.
I used to get remarks or compliments once in a while. "Honey, I love your shoes". "I wish I had legs like yours sweetie". "How are those stockings? Are they what you're wearing?". "Just wanted to let you know sweetie, you have a run in your stockings". I was getting noticed occasionally but I wondered if they knew I was a guy kind of dressed a bit like a girl. Still every encounter really frightened me.
One day while waiting to buy pantyhose, a girl behind me on line noticed my outfit and what I was buying. She liked my pantyhose and shoes. She thought I looked sexy and I had an interesting look, but wondered why I didn't just fully dress as a girl.
She got me into dressing fully fem. The first time I went out was for a college Halloween party. I was nervous about that too but strangely not as I usually was. It was a great and fun night. I've been out countless times since. I have never not been very nervous or all out scared when doing it.
I used to only dress at home and was getting very bored. Then one day my wife said to me you need to go grocery shopping today as she was leaving for work. I already had a skirt and top on she said dont go like that. I thought about it for a while and said to myself what the heck, I am going. I changed into a nice short white denim skirt, sleeveless blouse, open toed shoes as my nails are always painted, new wig and makeup and off I went to the grocery store, it was about 1pm by then. when I cashed out the girl at the register said to me what a nice outfit you have on mam. That was a little confidence booster for me so I continued to the mall and went to JC Pennys and bought a new blouse and skirt. When I was arriving at home my wife was pulling into the driveway at the same time so now she knew I went shopping all dressed. Her only comment was I cant believe you went out like that. I hope you went to a store that is not close by us. you are crazy. Since that time I now go out to the stores at least once a week all dressed. I have seen a few people that I know and just steered clear. Nobody has ever made a rude comment or any stares that I have seen. I have even found a cocktail lounge that I stop at after shopping sometimes. they all seem to call me mam. I love it.