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ok, so more like a mini adventure, but you get the picture.... still a first!
My wife was summoned to a work meeting which for some inexplicable reason couldn’t be held via zoom 🙄.... But, silver lining time 😀💕, I take her to the station and then get a whole day home alone 🥳 with time to get dressed up with a bit of makeup for my counselling session. Shower, shave, play with my epilator 😮, dive into the Sephora bag that’s been unopened for 3 months... 🤔
Lovely chat with the Gender GP; she asks what my next step will be, ‘I’m going out later, for the first time!’ she is super encouraging and compliments me on my makeup 💄 😉
I try a couple of other outfits, and settle on the ankle boots, merino tights, black lace trim mini, Ultimo shorts, gorgeous Chantelle full cup bra with fillets, and my red cowl neck top (note to self, need some long sleeved tops, as arms look too masc...). Redo lipgloss. Put on glasses 🤓 Sneak down to the car park. Drive to the super market. Try to imagine that I’m super confident stepping out of the car and clip-clopping to the front door. I love walking in these ankle boots 😀💕
One guy does a bit of a double take, but otherwise tres tranquil, and totally awesome 😎. I understand how you girls get such a boost doing this regularly 🥰
So, thanks to you all for the nonstop love and encouragement. I feel like in my mania I’ve skipped over a few steps, and I’m already imagining the future (the home situation not withstanding...)
Seraphina 💚🧹
If you were to look for "sleeves" on the 'Net I bet, with a little diligence you would find lots which would cover or change the look of your arms. I am old and have skin the consistency of toilet paper which will tear whenever I brush my arm against something which is even slightly rough and the skin will tear very easily. So I have at least 5 different pair of sleeves, if you look hard enough you could find some which could give your arms a different look.
Jessica
OK Seraphina that sounds awesome and a great outing. Today I did some thing similar!
I went out dressed in skinny Levi fem jeans, white wrap shirt, bra and 1.5 inch ankle boots. No strange looks and relaxed.
Averyl
Thanks Averyl, skinny jeans are next on my shopping list 💕
Thanks Jessica xx
Hi Seraphina,
I bet you looked awesome, and the mini is bound to attract a few looks. It's a bit late in the season for long-sleeve cowl necks; how to feel about turtleneck tops? I have both, and prefer the latter.
Bettylou
Thanks Bettylou 😀💕
I posted a couple of pictures in my gallery
Seraphina xx
I agree Betty Lou
The fine knit roll neck works for me. Very fetching and a classic refined and sexy look. 💓. Mix that with a suede mini and you have smashed it. 🌹
lots of kindness
Averyl
Hi Seraphina,
What an awesome outing! You sure had the confidence of a veteran. Good luck on your next outing.
Alice
Delighted for you girl!! Thanks for sharing x
Congratulations. First of all, any first time outside is a big adventure. And on your own, doubly so. Lots of emotions, lots of fear, it takes courage to take that step outside, no matter how small it seems.
Try to imagine that I’m super confident stepping out of the car and clip-clopping to the front door.
And that is the key. If you appear confident, people will usually go about their business and not notice you, allowing yourself to hide in plain sight. Your body movements will appear smoother than if you are constantly looking around to see who is looking at you. Do it often enough, and you won't have to imagine your confident, you will be confident.
This often brings up the Rodgers and Hammerstein song "Whistle a Happy Tune" from the old movie "The King and I."
Whenever I feel afraid
I hold my head erect
And whistle a happy tune
So no one will suspect
I'm afraid.While shivering in my shoes
I strike a careless pose
And whistle a happy tune
And no one ever knows
I'm afraid.The result of this deception
Is very strange to tell
For when I fool the people I fear
I fool myself as well!
Hi Seraophina,
that first outing is a memory you will always hold dear. Congratulation on your first outing and a big one to the local grocery store. I am afraid to dress in town. Love that you got out.
So Proud of you
Love and Hugs Paula
Thanks Paula! I know almost no one here so quite low risk I guess! But yeah, soooooo much fun 😀💕
Thanks for the kind words Alison!
And for your friendship request xx 💕
Aww! Congratulations on your first outing, honey - and thanks for sharing the experience.
The exquisite surprise that most people seem either relaxed or not bothered by a guy in a dress is such a confidence boost - I still hold my first few times out with such fondness, and it never really gets old.
Here's to many more successful outings, and the inner strength and love that they bring.
Love Laura
