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A year ago, I was doing a lot, too much. I was a Board Member of a nom-profit, active volunteer in my local sports community, and taking on a lot at work. I felt privileged to be doing all that. And scared of someone seeing me out dressed and possibly kicked out .
Things changed and I found it was time for me to step away from several of those things. My time freed up, my mind was less stressed, and suddenly I wasn't afraid of being caught dressed.
It was like a great burden lifted off, no longer having to be the role model, peer model, and inspire r to others. I no longer fear the embarrassment of getting caught dressed. I felt like me.
It was like all the roles and responsibilities made me feel more stressed and more pressured to conform. I don't feel that anymore. I don't care what others might think. This is a part of me, and I cone as a full package, like me or not.
@lea-jhene When I retired I felt the same way. I had more time to be me and enjoy life. Fewer worries about what others think. Then Covid and the lockdown and the dam burst. I was living almost full time and loving it. I worry about one person and she is all I need, that's my lovely wife. No one else's thought matter.
@lea-jhene Good for you. If you live your life how you really want to, you'll find you might become a role model anyway. You'll be an inspiration for other crossdressers and that will be so valuable.
This is a part of me, and I come as a full package, like me or not.
Very well put, Lea!
What's the worst that can happen? I'll tell you, it starts with, "I wish I had..." The thoughts and comments of others don't amount to a geographic elevation constructed from pulses when you are true to yourself.
Thanks for sharing this, Lea 😊.
Allie x
Lea -
Thank you for sharing that part of your journey. It isn't an easy life we live at times. I'm very happy for you that you are able to enjoy your dressing without the burden you had before.
XOXO
Suzanne
There is nothing quite as liberating than realixing it just doesn't matter if you are out en femme and someone recognixes you. Life goes on. As I have said many times, if someone has a problem with it, it is their problem, not yours. There is nothing wrong with dressing en femme then there is dressing Goth, or dyeing your hair purple. It is not for everybody, but to each their own.
@jjandme Wisely said! It's sad that so many of us don't realize that Bob Marley's lyric is spot on.
None but ourselves can free our minds
Years ago I was told by a boss that “Everything in life comes down to your attitude.” It turns out it really was that simple.
Very well said Lea, for all your time you have given to others, it is time for you. I am happy for you to thoroughly embrace your feminine side. When I retired, I change my principals in placing me first instead of others. Now I do what I want, when I want and with who I want and this includes Denise. While, I am presenting Denise in public on occasion, I am certainly more brave and less worried of what others think. My wife, while comfortable with me dressed in the house, is not comfortable to go with me in public. I respect her wishes, therefore limiting my public outings. As someone told me once, take small steps.
@isabella22 Thank you!! Your post inspires me that one day I will get to placing myself ahead of others.
Small steps, very true. "One small step in heels (or flats, wedges, anything fem), one giant leap for us kind".
