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At a Starbucks I frequent as Sally, there is a barista I’ve become friends with. After serving me on several different occasions, she finally introduced herself. The day it happened I had already received my coffee from someone else and was at the cream station when my friend approached me. This required she go out of her way to approach me. She told me her name, which I already knew because of her name tag, but when she said it, I took it as a sign that she wanted to get to know me a little better. Of course, I told her my name; we shook hands, and then she told me she loved my outfit. This wasn’t the first time she’d made favorable comments about my wardrobe choices.
On the visit after our official introduction, she waited on me again. As she served me, she commented on my nails, telling me they looked awesome. And then, she asked me where I worked. My knee jerk reaction was to be vague or to fib a little, but ultimately, I told her which I town I worked in. She then asked me what I did at work, and again, I wondered if I should be forthright with my answer. I decided to be honest and told her what I did for a living.
I always dress nicely when I’m out as Sally, and since my wardrobe choices are usually female business attire, her next question made perfect sense. She asked me if I was dressed for work. I think she was curious about whether or not I present as Sally at work. This time my response to her was purposely vague. I just wasn’t sure I was ready to divulge my true nature, so I told her that my work attire was somewhat more casual, rather than telling her it was my male alter ego that held the job.
It was obvious to me she was trying to discover my true trans nature. Was I transsexual, was I part-time, or something else. But, of course, she was being very polite and sought her answers in an unobtrusive way.
So, the question is, how much do I tell her going forward? Since I see her often, I can’t help but think our conversation will expand. Normally, when I’m out as Sally I don’t have to explain my true nature. It has always been my intent to let people assume what they want about me. But now that I’ve made a friend, and she is obviously curious about me, I may have to provide an explanation. The reality of this, however, is that my explanation will require a lot more time than we have as I pass through the coffee line at Starbucks. Ultimately, I’m prepared to tell her as much as she is willing to know, but we will just have to see if the right situation presents itself.
Hugs,
Sally
Sally, I have developed the small circle of friends I have from work or simply connecting with them unexpectedly. I think it is wise to be cautious with opening up too soon until you are comfortable with your new friend's motives, but if you don't open the door, you may not find out what those motives are. Could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship.
I agree with Gina and I would say also talk about other things as well and really get to know her. Starbuck Baristas are generally very accepting people, and they do go through sensitivity training. I bet you've really peaked her curiosity. Hugs - Terrisa
It seem like you are being friendly and courteous but are reluctant to expose too much. Maybe as time goes by and you get to know each other better her motives may become clearer.
She might just find you nice and likes your sense of style. Or maybe she suspects you are presenting fem. When I was in college and often dressed fully fem and usually quite sexy and even slutty, many girls really seemed to like it. If that's the case, she may be hitting on you.
Just my thoughts. I'm by no means an expert on this.
