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It's a need, not an urge, or a want for me. I need to go out dressed every so often. It seems I'm wired that way.
Even just wearing feminine shoes with a male outfit, or a feminine watch / bracelet, but it has to be something visible to declare to the world that I am different.
And sometimes, when I can't go out dressed, I underdress and smile that I am different.
And once in a while, I fulfill that by going out fully dressed from the neck down.
And everyday, I dress at home, even something simple.
And when I can't fall asleep, I think about how great it feels to be dressed. And I fall asleep.
And, there's a calm and serenity that doing this makes me feel.
What's your level of need to go out dressed vs just dressed?
Apart from a skirt that I wear in the evenings (because it's comfortable), the only time I get dressed now is to actually go out. I went out today—forms, makeup, skirt, boots, wig, the whole works really—to Truro in south west Cornwall UK, shopping with my wife; had a great time. I don't really have a need, I just like going out. It is hiding in plain sight, I suppose, just pretending to be someone else; it's just a fun thing to do.
I may do it again tomorrow, visiting somewhere else; or I may not, as the mood strikes me.
Becca
I always wear bra and knickers, I either tape my chest to try and fill an A cup or put B boobs in my bra. At home I always dress fem when going out I usually wear women's size 16 jeans and trainers. I always use eye makeup and style my hair. A few times I have gone out in a skirt and completely fem which I love as I feel complete and intend to do it more often as my confidence grows.
I feel a different person these days, I'm calmer, at ease and a whole person. I'm old and live on my own with my dog and really people can accept me or not - not my problem
I'm lucky that I can dress when I like, and venture out most days as Cerys.
Before I was out and open, and things were kept secret, I used to wear female underwear all the time. I haven't owned male underwear for ten years or more. Knowing that no-one else knew was quite special.
A couple of years ago, I got my ears pierced. I would wear small hoops or fancy studs to work. No one commented. It was great to have a snack part of my secret on display.
Surely after, after a serious illness, I came completely out as as crossdresser. No one cared. I showed them photos. I couldn't really dress for work due to the nature of the job, but I did attend a Christmas party as Cerys and all of the comments were positive, and a few tried to persuade me to go to work as Cerys. I never did.
I lost that job when the contract ended. This was back in August. I've usually lived as Cerys since then. I'm Cerys most days.
I've recently had my hair cut and now I have no make I mode option. Cerys is becoming an even bigger part if my life. I'm more comfortable and confident as Cerys, but I know I'm not trans. Cerys is my superhero alter ego.
Cerys
it was -17 this morning and it didn't get above 20 degrees today. been like that for a few days now and will be like that the rest of the week. i'm going nuts here. not being able to go out dressed is cramping my style. i'm like a caged animal waiting to get out dressed. summer hurry up and get here. i need to strut my stuff, show my style, be seen and get complements and hugs. sitting in the house isn't working for me, even tho i'm a little dressed. i need to be out there. my public is waiting. when you go out 4 or 5 times a week then have to stop because mother nature deals you a super cold spell. i need a pedicure bad. my toes look like sh*t. let's pray for warmer weather, short skirts, open toe sandals and everything this crossdresser needs.
I agree - there is a certain calmness and excitement I feel when going out dressed up. At home I’ll dress a little bit, but it just isn’t the same unless we have all the close and heels and makeup.
I tried to explain this to my wife-for me it’s like the difference between listening to music on my phone vs being at a concert. The phone is fun but just can never match the experience of being there live.
For me, going to the mall is kind of meh. But when I go to the mall female, it becomes much more exciting. Cafe .. sure I like it. But going to the cafe female just makes it much more exciting.
So yes I do indeed feel that need to go out. 🩷
I don't really feel the need to get dressed or have something feminine all the time. I am fine being in boy mode a fair bit of the time. I am wanting Natalie to make an appearance more than she has but I am also someone who has, and wants, two completely different sides. I am in boy mode a lot but I don't have a desire to cross the streams so to speak.
So, for me, I will dress as Natalie when I feel the time is right and up until now I will do it almost entirely to go out. I have had a couple of instances where I bring out Natalie just for a nice day in with my partner. These are fewer than I would actually like them. I do want Natalie to be present at home. But it is still an all or nothing thing for me.
Same here. I’ll go weeks or even months without dressing. Every time I’m don’t think it will happen but the need ALWAYS comes back.
I can't say that I have a need to crossdress. It's all want and, because of my style (not en femme), I can do this 100% of my time while abroad. No down time just feels right.
Lea -
Thank you for an interesting topic.
I dress pretty much everyday in the morning while my wife is still sleeping. It is simple outfits I wear - dresses, skirt/top combos, nighties, leggings and top -all depends on my mood when I wake up. My ears are pierced so I wear earrings 24/7, mostly studs and small hoops but at times dangling ones with the more femme ones reserved for in the house. I do underdress on occasion in panties and have gone out wearing knee high nylons and ankle boots. Just yesterday I wore in white cotton panties, black tights, pink tank top (under my sweater) and black suede ankle boots under my male stretch jeans and heavy sweater. When I dress it makes me feel serene and my wife notices. I think that is part of why she has become more accepting of my dressing. I don't have the time to wear make up and a wig often but do what I can when I can. It is exciting to be out and about underdressed knowing others don't know or realize it.
XOXO
Suzanne
I try to out every morning as a woman. In the summer I wear bralettes and in the colder weather A bra with forms is the norm. I have met people on the streets while dressed en femme and have never had any bad reactions.
The winter weather does allow me to be totally en femme as boots and jackets do not reveal a lot.
I have a need to go out fully dressed and made up as it is only then that I feel I am being my true femme self. On average, this now happens about once a month.
I dress at home when working from home alone, but I have to admit to it being a bit over the top as in High heels; Tight pencil skirts; Extremely long hair and bigger boobs. As fun as it is, I would never consider stepping out of the door with that kind of look.
When everything falls into place and I am off work with the day to myself, I will fully dress in a more subdued, but stylish and feminine way (at least I think it is) and feel content with my appearance and at ease with being outdoors. It is something that I feel the need to do in my own quiet way.
It used to be a 'want' which became a 'need' to go out, then a reality. I never wanted to go out anything other than fully dressed.
Great topic Lea. In your post you said they key word. Serenity. To quote a line from the Aussie movie The Castle. "Ah the serenity". This week was an example of just how big a difference that serenity of being out in public as Olivia makes.
Last week I got unexpected results in a blood test that they may not have got all the cancer in the operation. The doc said he wanted me to take the blood test again as he said the result didn't make sense to him. As you can expect that shook me up. I spent a few days moaping around a bit aimlessly then came the day when I usually dress up and go out as Olivia. From the moment I started to get dressed into female clothes that was the focus. I left behind all the doom and gloom and was just enjoying the moment. I went to the beach in what I thought was a gorgeous summer dress and strolled along the beach. It was 33 degrees (90 in Fahrenheit) so it was a bit hot but I had the sea breeze blowing (so much so I had to grab my dress once or twice to not do a Marilyn Monroe) and it was just a lovely place to be the female me. I then went to the shopping centre and picked up a few things I needed and enjoyed a lovely lunch at a cafe. Ah the serenity. It made me feel relaxed, grounded and helped me process what was going on.
Since that day I have been back to pretty much normal. While still worried I have been able to get on with life till today I got the wonderful news that my second blood test was all ok. It was the result he had expected the first test to show. We will keep monitoring it but it is looking like things are all good.
On the average about one day a week I will go through the hour long process to transform myself into Olivia. I need to be female. I need to be Olivia. Like you Lea I need to go out dressed. It grounds me. I could say it completes me.
Dress at home lots ! I really enjoy getting out for a stroll rather often fully dressed.l. Being close to Cape Cod is great . A wonderful place to go out in Fem mode 🙂 In fact will be going tomorrow for a day maybe 2. Will need winter cloths cause it is Cold here. I enjoy the winter look in addition to all the other seasons. Winter boots, jeans or yoga pants,short parka, cute hat with pom pom 🙂 . Pass pretty well and just Love it..Then cozy bamboo PJ's. for lounging at night. Nice to hear others adventures. 🙂