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Sometimes when I have dressed fully and look in the mirror I feel like two people in one. I am still me of course, but I am also the woman in the mirror as well. If I have done what I think is a particularly good job, I feel like I have in part created my own "dream woman" and she is me. I know there is an element of narcissism here in the sense that I almost "love" the alter image of myself as a woman. It is almost as if I am both the admirer as well as the admired. A very unusual and erotic combination in the sense of creating my own girlfriend from myself.
Unlike drab me, Cerys has to be perfect. I look in the mirror, and if it's not right, I change. She has to be perfect. When I see the finished article, it makes me proud. I have achieved something. I see Cerys as a creation, maybe not quite a work of art, but a creation. Every morning I create Cerys. I have a different outfit every day. Every day is a new creation.
Whilst, it's not an erotic experience for me (it used to be decades ago), I do try to emulate the look of attractive people I have seen. When I see an attractive lady pass by, I first see her as an attractive lady, then I look at what she is wearing. If it's a particularly nice outfit, I will try to emulate it. When I look in the mirror. I see this attractive woman (in my minds eye) looking back at me, and I get a great sense of achievement at what I have created.
I see Cerys as the other me. She's my superhero. Cerys is strong, confident, and sure of herself. Male me hasn't felt like that for many years.
Cerys
Natalie is definitely based on a woman I would be fiercely attracted to as a man. Always loved long legged women with dark hair. Most of my style choices I would be thrilled to see a girlfriend wear
-Nat
My former male self would be very attracted to Fiona. When you spend a lot of time and effort to look like an attractive woman, it's not surprising that sometimes there can be an attraction to who emerges.
In order to get the necessary degree of confidence to live comfortably as a woman, you almost have to love yourself to some degree. If we can't love ourselves then how can we expect others to love us.
Maureen, I’ve certainly looked in the mirror and been completely attracted to the girl there. But as I look, I keep thinking that that girl looks too good to want me, so I’ll just have to move on. What an ego boost to my female self!
Maureen -
Another interesting topic.
I look at Suzanne as my alter ego. I am able to dress for he mood I'm in. It can be sultry or casual or dressy. Depending on the amount fo time I have depends on what I'm able to do. Most days my make up consists of lipstick as I don't have the time to apply my face and remove it, other days I am able to glam up. As Suzanne I am more bold in my colors and patterns than my drab self (although I'm starting to expand my drab wardrobe a bit). I'm also taking better care of myself as far as my skin, nails and hair is concerned.
I do feel a difference in my attitude when dressed. It helps me deal with stress and acts as an escape. I am noticing that as my drab self I am becoming gentler and softer, guess you could read that as more femme. Even some of my mannerisms are changing a bit. I feel so much better.
XOXO
Suzanne
So, taking the step in taking selfies for examination and reflection could be a giant step forward psychologically?
I totally get this as Lizzy everything has to be perfect make up, hair etc.. and is certainly more stylish and glam than male me so makes me feel very empowered and feminine. I also tend to wear lighter colours as Lizzy (reds, blues and greens) whereas in drab its always black T-shirts and hoodies and blue jeans.
The more she stares back at me the less I see of him and the less I want to see of him. It's getting very difficult to do the change.
Love looking in the mirror at the lady looking back checking my curves out and hair leads to a lot of pics tho lol then you all have to see them 🤗 definitely a fun moment tho
The first time i saw a woman looking back at me in the mirror, was a day i felt like i found myself. I will never forget the feeling that it gave me.
During one of my earliest experiences dressing when I was a teenager, I looked in the mirror ...I looked and thought ..
Am I a girl who had just been dressing a boy, or a boy who is dressing as a girl ?
I looked into the mirror as deeply as I could and tried to figure out the answer. Logically I was a boy dressing as girl, but I felt I was also a girl.
Fifty years on from that experience, I think I have a better more rounded answer to the question - I see myself as a person, whose ground of being is genderless; I am physically male but my gender expression includes both male and female aspects - in some ways I am both. When I dress the outward form of my female aspect is realised and I can see a woman in the mirror.