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This dress sucks!

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(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Here’s a new one…(for me anyway). In the midst of a dressing session today I changed into what I thought was going to be a sure-fire fave dress of mine. Lo and behold, it was terrible! First, it was too low cut and I own no strapless bras. Second, what I thought was a cute flowery spring-ish print, turns out to look like someone’s old fitted mattress sheet that they threw away in the junk pile. Just God-awful on every level. Nevertheless, I’m bound and determined to salvage a few pics out of the experience. Anyone relate to this? The good news is that I buy all my dresses pretty much from the GW so I’m only out $6. Still, it takes time and effort in trying to look pretty - so I’m pretty much irritated by the whole experience as I sit here in the soon to be discarded rag. Sipping tea and venting to my sympathetic sisters here on CDH🥰

It ain’t easy being a girl!

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1827

@gracepal Some you win, some you lose. I've had a couple of things that suited and fitted my wife better than me. Also items that didn't survive the washing machine.

My £12 charity shop ballgown will need a pretty expensive alteration (it's a beautiful dress so will do it)

Hugs, Anna xx 

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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@annaredhead I blame shop mannequins for a lot of these problems. Dresses look good on them but they are never the same shape as me

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1827

@gorgeousgwen This was on a hanger. It looked big enough, labelled my size, but is somewhat snug. I can just about get into it if I don't breathe. The gown is a great length, I've got the shoes to go with it too.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@annaredhead Ever start taking a dress off and find yourself wondering how you ever got it on in the first place? Recently had one of those too. Soon as I managed to free myself and not have to tear through it, off to the “returns” pile it landed😊

Good stretch routine though.

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@gracepal Yes, a few times. My right shoulder is pinned which makes some arm movements difficult so anything that has narrow sleeves or is very tight isn't easy to get off. I did tear a nice blouse recently trying to get back out of it.

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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@annaredhead I'm an UK size 16 but one retailer's 16 can be different from another. So infuriating

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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@gorgeousgwen I'm a UK size 18, I find most swing dresses or T-dresses I'm fine with, anything that's slimline I am better sizing up or I am really risking it. My wedding dress is a 20 and it fitted perfectly off the hanger.

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
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Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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@annaredhead almost New Year. Here's wishing you Happy shopping in 2025

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
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@gorgeousgwen Happy New Year!

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(@dovemtn2016)
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Honorable Member     Tucson, Arizona, United States of America
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@gracepal Been there, Grace. Yea, being a girl has its moments.

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(@davina56)
Joined: 4 months ago

Eminent Member     Grimsby, Lincolnshire, United Kingdom
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@gracepal Been there and done that love, I always got dress shopping with the wife then we can go in the changing room together and she gives me her opinion. Always best to be safe than sorry.❤️

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@davina56 I probably need to do that but I hate changing in and out of clothes, especially if I have a bunch to try on. And those thrift store dressing rooms can be a bit sketchy at times. Don’t like to be in them if I don’t have to. If a shopping haul is 75% successful then it’s a win for me. The dogs go back to the store next visit 🥰

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(@carlalayne)
Joined: 2 years ago

Trusted Member     Roseville, Minnesota, United States of America
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@gracepal Locally, our GW stores have removed fitting rooms so there is a bit of guess work - but as you say, not a big deal. For me, "fit" is the issue due to inconsistent sizing in women's wear. Hang in there!

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(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@carlalayne Regarding fitting rooms, they were  nonexistent where I lived in California. But here in the South where I reside now, there’s 6 of them in all the GW’s in my vicinity AND restrooms with mirrors that are kept clean, no graffiti, etc. I don’t know why it’s different, but it is and I like it much better. Makes my shopping much more fun and something to look forward to regularly now.👩‍🦳

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Lady
(@donnagurl6768)
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Eminent Member     chicago, Illinois, United States of America
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@gracepal What is GW?

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(@gracepal)
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(@rozalyne)
Famed Member     Shrewsbury, Shropshire, United Kingdom
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Hi Grace, 

I think we all have episodes like that now and again we buy a dress and think it looks nice until we try it on and then it knocks us back because it looks awful, you know what they say try before you buy, good luck with your next purchase i hope you get a really stunning dress, 

Hugs Roz X Smile Thumbs Up  

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@rozalyne I got a few good ones for sure Roz 😊

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(@rozalyne)
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@gracepal 

I got a few good ones too Grace, if you look at my pictures the blue dress 👗 I'm wearing i bought from a charity/thrift shop for a few pounds around 10 to 15 dollars 💸 it must have been quite expensive when it was new, a girl has to look around for the bargains,,

Hugs Roz X Smile Thumbs Up  

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(@gracepal)
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@rozalyne I just re-looked Roz and you are completely gorgeous in it. Worth every penny 😍

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(@rozalyne)
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Famed Member     Shrewsbury, Shropshire, United Kingdom
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@gracepal 

I know Grace it was worth every penny and more, i would have paid twice what i paid for it, Hugs Roz X 

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(@debbiedd)
Noble Member     los angeles, California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

We have all been there Grace. I buy a lot of things on the net but no longer dresses. I learned early on dresses have to be tried on before purchase. The good news is that it got me into the women's dressing rooms now and have grown accustom to it

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(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@debbiedd My wife always says to join her in the GW dressing rooms but I’m too lazy to. Probably should to avoid future disasters. The women’s sizes are all over the map too. I wear S, M and L’s, which is always interesting when browsing them.😊

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(@kimberlyannvictoria)
Honorable Member     milwaukee, Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Sorry about your dress, On the bright side you get to go shopping for another dress!!!

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@kimberlyannvictoria Well there is that…🥰

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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A girl can visit a dozen shops to try and find the dress she wants and then go back to the first shop and the first dress she saw 🤣 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@gorgeousgwen That was part of the process here, tossing dresses willy-nilly into the cart. I had about a dozen and I usually guess right but not with that horrific one😊

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
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Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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@gracepal you can't win them all but you can win most of them (is that a new proverb?🤣)

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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@gorgeousgwen Good one Gwen😊

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(@gracepal)
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@gorgeousgwen See, my problem Gwen is wanting ALL the cute dresses 😊. That Grace is a very greedy girl 👩‍🦳

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(@annaredhead)
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(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
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Where possible, I try stuff on in the shops. Most of Cerys' clothes come from charity shops, and not all charity shops have changing rooms. I've brought home a few "This is stunning" dresses, only to find that look awful. With charity shop purchases, I tend to donate them back, so it's all for a good cause 🙂

My wife and I hit the sales yesterday. There was a dress that I saw before christmas that I loved. It was £75. In the sale yesterday it as £30. Less than half price. There was only one in my size. My wife agreed that I would be daft not to buy it. I went to try it on, but there was a queue for the changing rooms. £30 is a lot of money for me, but it was a stunning dress. I decided to buy it without trying it. When we got home I tried it on..... Monday morning, I'm on the bus back into town to take it back..... It looks horrendous on me. It's baggy, in some places and tight in others. The arms are awful. Long arms, but bat winged.... I see now why it was less than half price!!!!!. Thankfully the shop we bought it from has a "changed your mind" returns policy, even on sales items, so I can get my money back.... the down side is..... I'll be back in  town. A town full of shops with sales on!!!!!! 🙂

Cerys

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@dazzler I dunno Cerys, 30 pounds is a lot of money for this girl as well when it comes to dresses. Call it 30 bucks here in the states but regardless, for that amount I’m bringing home 5 dresses minimum.😊 Still pretty cheap for a ‘hobby’ though 😊. And I’m stubborn so I’ll probably post private pics of the ‘sucky dress’ anyway -since no one ever sees them🤪

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Lady
(@gorgeousgwen)
Joined: 2 months ago

Estimable Member     Northamptonshire, United Kingdom
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@dazzler at least Cardiff is a nice shopping centre. I've loved visiting it.

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(@annaredhead)
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@gorgeousgwen Cardiff is great for shopping.

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(@mkat3874)
Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
Joined: 4 months ago

Kind of an opposite thing happened to me earlier this year.  My wife came home with three different dresses for me that she found on the clearance rack at Walmart of all places.  She paid $1 each.  I first thought they were hideous and certainly didn't see what she saw in them for me.  But she asked me to trust her and whe she was through putting them together with all the accessories I was amazed at the final product and I actually felt really pretty in them. I've actually worn all three of them out at different times this year and may change up the accessories and give them a second wearing next year. 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@mkat3874 $3 for 3 dresses at WM? I gotta get over there more often, wow!

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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And Michelle let’s face it - you’re looking good in all your pics🥰

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(@chrisfp99)
Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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Grace, during the last of my ridiculously rare dressing weeks in June 2023 I ordered two dresses. One was lovely but the other was hideous. Horrible rough material, and the colour and floral pattern looked nothing like what I thought I ordered. Didn't even try it on. Got straight on the Internet and ordered another from the same supplier as the first one. You win some, you lose some xx. 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 Chrissie I’m tempted to start shipping you all my discards when I’m done with them girl! Think your wife would get suspicious? 🤣

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
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Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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@gracepal That would be lovely Grace. I get the impression you're a mere slip of a girl compared to me though. The wife would raise more than an eyebrow. Possibly an axe xx.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@chrisfp99 A mere slip of a girl…that’s funny stuff right there Chrissie, LOL! (BTW, I’m much stronger than I look😊) 

Yeah, I don’t need to be hearing about any axe murders from over there across the pond, that’s for sure.

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Lady
(@joannajoy)
Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
Joined: 2 months ago

I ordered a cute skirt off the internet, I don’t know how they made it look that cute on the model, because a potatoe sack is cuter and more feminine then the skirt I received… it was horrible… oh well live and learn!!

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(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@joannajoy That’s happened to me enough to where I’m over buying dresses off the internet. I like used as I try and imagine the lady who had it before me. Some items have traces of perfume left in them. For whatever reason they seem more authentic than brand new stuff. It makes no sense really. I just like them better.😊

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(@joannajoy)
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Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
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@gracepal that makes sense totally!!

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hey Grace,

You’re right, it ain’t easy being a girl!

Alice Smile  

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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@aliceunderwire Which is why I only work part time at it AW🤣

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(@rayna)
Estimable Member     Leominster, Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

I'm fairly confident about my size and what styles I like, so I do pretty well buying off the rack or ordering online..But I do have a few misfires in my stash. Just part of the process, I figure. A lot of my best (and worst) picks come from Savers, which is kind of like GW. So I'm only out a few bucks on my "duds". 

I don't get too worked up about it. I just go back to the stuff I like that seems to like me. And if I do get down in the dumps, I know the solution:

GO SHOPPING!

Rayna 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@rayna Always🥰

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(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

I just put 4 pics of “This dress sucks!” in Private Photos and on my wall. For points of reference ladies. That’s my take on a “what was she thinking?” moment…🤣

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1325

@gracepal I think you look ok and nowhere near as bad as you seem to think you look, I've seen a lot worse on GGs. It's not my style, far too short for me; oh, and it's a dress, I don't do dresses anymore.

I also can't do low-cut, my shoulders are far too manly and hairy—I can't shave back there and although my wife has offered, I couldn't possibly bring myself to inflict that on her. No, showing flesh is just not an option, I am my clothes and with something like in your pictures, I'd feel far too exposed (even in private).

My skin is also far too old to display in public.

Becca

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@rebeccabaxter “Honey, can you shave my back hair?” I would not put my wife through that either Becca😜

 

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
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Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
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@gracepal Grace, look I'm a sucker for a floral dress but it's nice. I mean I wouldn't wear anything that short but that's just me xx.

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(@cherylt)
Prominent Member     Honesdale, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

I have a few dresses like that. I bought them thinking they were lovely, wore them a few times and now just don't like the look on me. I really need to spend a day going through all my clothes and just get rid of what I no longer love. 

This is one reason I stopped shopping in drab. I would find something I loved in the store either on the rack or the mannequin only to bring it home, hate it and have to return it. 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@cherylt Makes sense to me😊

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(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
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definitely not easy myself has experience many times that I so wanted a dress and when i received I was so disappointed bad part about ordering off line learned the hard way what petite means lol 😂

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(@gracepal)
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Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
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@erinb I know. Sometimes I’m a petite and then sometimes an X-L! And yes, I do know the difference between women’s and juniors ladies so stop typing🥰

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(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

I had that phase in my formulative years when buying dresses where it was more about what I thought would look good and buying without trying led to some horrors, my charity shop re gifting was at another level. Now knowing my style I can look at a dress and know it is for me, returns zero, wardrobe collapsing. Oh and who doesn't love a bargain as clearout/sale rails are all year round.

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