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I came across a meme a while ago that said "Crossdressing is just the male version of Tomboys" It got me thinking, how true IS that comparison? When a young girl acts "masculine" she's called a tomboy, but not much else happens. When a young boy acts "feminine" -- whoa!
The Dictionary says a tomboy is "an energetic, sometimes boisterous girl whose behavior and pursuits, especially in games and sports, are considered more typical of boys than of girls". But since there is no equivalent word for boys, we can't compare them clinically.
Am I just taking a simplistic look at being a feminine male, or is there something to this "juliegirl" idea?
As you said Julie Tomboy was not really a derogatory term for a girl, but the male equivalent (where I grew up anyway) was a sissy. Now that definitely was a derogatory term. One of the many social ‘pressures’ that drove those of us who love our femininity to be fearful of expressing it, leading In sure to a lot of sadness, depression, anxiety, mental health problems.
😢Bianca
I been thinking about this for many years. I even heard the term "JillGirl" over the years.
I am at that point, where I just don't care about lables.
Call me a Sissy, or whatever. I just dont care.
I am Hippie and that's all that matters to me.
Hippie
The only terms I have heard are "ladyboy" and "sissy"; both with the presumption that the person so labeled is gay. It's not so much what we don't know which hurts us, it's what we do "know" that isn't true.
The age I grew up those terms of gender shaming were used as easily as Hello. Where I grew up if you exhibited any feminine gender other than what you were born as you were a target for the bullies. I was always careful to present as a guy when in school but I didn't join in the shaming of others. I was raised to understand how words can hurt others. And only one friend, a neighbor girl, knew I had worn a dress. It was hers and we would play dress up at her house. She never told anyone because she knew how I would be treated and we were too good of friends to hurt each other. Well her mother knew because she saw me many times in a dress while while we played. So call me a Juliegirl, cross dresser, Tom girl I don't care because I'm confident in me and that is all that matters.
Sandy
I refer to myself in sexual situations as a CD sissy. I hate the f***t word! Sissy, to me, implies, feminine, but soft, demure, submissive, in ladies clothing
Really? I know that, for many, the word "sissy" has a strong negative connotation. I personally have never appreciated the word as, for most who use it, it conveys a "man who is not really a man" and is an insult. Whereas Tomboy doesn't carry that same weight.
But that's why Baskin Robbins has 31 flavors! 🙂
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Bianca, you are spot on with your post. My mother and sister started me cross dressing at about 4 as a “little sister” to my sister. It was only allowed when my father and much older brother were not around. My sister and mother told me it was “our little secret” and not to be discussed with anyone else. I remember my sister saying, “ you don’t want to be called a sissy if they find out.” She then explained what a sissy was but I didn’t really understand it.
Thank you — Joan Marie
