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Underdressing

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(@karynn)
Estimable Member     Omaha, Nebraska, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

I never spent much time underdressing until about 2 weeks ago.  I was not getting many days as Karynn so I started underdressing at times.  It did relieve some stress of not being me as I am in a DADT marriage.  I have worn bra and panties mostly but since I am wearing a coat now, the forms are in.  It isn't as good as Karynn but it sure feels good.  Hopefully one day it will be more Karynn.

 
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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1188

@karynn I never did it much in the past but now that I have realized that I am probably trans, I do it on a daily basis.   It just allows me to stay connected to my authentic self regardless of how I am presenting outwardly on a given day.  Of course, I now need lots more panties and bras!

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Lady
(@karynn)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Omaha, Nebraska, United States of America
Posts: 90

@lauren114 hopefully you will be doing more regular dressing since you are Trans and not need to underdress.  I hope all things work in your favor for a great transition.

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1188

@karynn Thank you so much Karynn.  I know I have a tough road ahead of me but I'm happy to be transitioning and optimistic for the future.  I hope you are able to navigate your situation also and find the peace and happiness in your femineity that you deserve so much!

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Lady
(@sharkbyte)
Joined: 3 weeks ago

Active Member     Springfield, Massachusetts, United States of America
Posts: 5

@lauren114   "I now need lots more panties and bras!"

 

This is not a bad thing!!!  🙂

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(@cdashley)
Joined: 4 years ago

Noble Member     Oshawa, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 1486

@karynn I find underdressing helps and I’ve been doing it for so long now it’s just a part of my routine. Panties and a bralette everyday and now that it’s cooler pantyhose and a camisole.  Wife has mentioned many times that she hopes I never get hurt at work.  Oh well.

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Lady
(@ria)
Joined: 5 years ago

Reputable Member     Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 329

@karynn 

I have been underdressing for 60 years on a nearly daily basis. It has helped me cope with being two spirited.  I have been in many places and at various events underdressed. I prefer en femme but that is not always possible.

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3964

@karynn "I was not getting many days as Karynn so I started underdressing at times." Karynn

Have you considered wearing androgynous looking  women's clothes?

I wasn't wearing much women's outer wear, either, at the beginning, so I started acquiring clothes that disguised what I was doing. Doing so was slow because I needed to find clothes that blended in rather than stood out. No Big Bird yellow midi-dresses, for example, at least for wearing out of our house. Even my wife hasn't seen that one yet.

Now, with the colder weather, I wear my largest breast forms and other clothes that I wouldn't necessarily wear without a coat masking them.

Give yourself some time to learn deceptive dressing. Be a magician. If someone sees through your "tricks", who are they going to tell? Or will they ask themselves, "What did I just see?" Keep'em guessing. 🥰

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(@bridgettjon)
Joined: 3 years ago

Eminent Member     Dallas, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 17

@harriette It usually takes one to spot unless you are not on your game

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(@katie71)
Joined: 5 years ago

Honorable Member     Livermore, California, United States of America
Posts: 562

@karynn I must say that intentional underdressing is not something that I do. That being said, I do were femme underwear everyday. I wear stuff that's pretty but made for a male "package" to be contained. When I feel like dressing, I dress, I'm lucky enough to be able to dress in front of my Mrs.

Best of luck to you Karynn.

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(@Anonymous 76954)
Joined: 3 years ago

Reputable Member
Posts: 450

@karynn I have been wearing panties daily unless I absolutely need to wear boy underwear.  Often times will also wear a bra underneath.  Always when out in my shop working and when I cant fully dress.  Fully dress in the morning for coffee time with my wife when I get ready for the day I usually leave the panties and al ow profile bra under my mens clothes.  Love the reminder that stephanie is always present.

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Lady
(@jameie)
Joined: 1 year ago

Trusted Member     Terre Haute, Indiana, United States of America
Posts: 37

@karynn seems we'll have to start somewhere and the  world is evolving in attitude

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Lady
(@vfcami)
Joined: 3 months ago

New Member     Richmond, Virginia, United States of America
Posts: 1

@karynn Hi! I am new here and I have been underdressing for years. But I am also in the closet as well even to my spouse. So, with very few exceptions, underdressing is all I can do. I must say that it always feels good to wear two pairs of silky nylon briefs with a full sized pad. 

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Lady
(@rockcdfan)
Joined: 2 months ago

Trusted Member     Salt Lake City, Utah, United States of America
Posts: 25

@karynn I've never heard the term "UnderDressing" but that makes total sense. I started doing it when I committed more to Crossdressing about 3 years ago. Only womens underwear. I wear underwear daily. Agreed that it feels good and keeps that connection when I cant dress. Thanks for your post!

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Lady
(@astridt)
Joined: 1 month ago

Estimable Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 70

@karynn although the idea of frequent underdressing attracts me very much, I've only limited private access to the washing machine, so I save my garments for the days where I can have the full experience 😊

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Baroness
(@ryanpaul)
Famed Member     Outer Eastern Suburbs Melbourne, Victoria, Australia
Joined: 7 years ago

Except on very hot Australian summer days I underdress 24/7, even then I will have panties on instead of "jocks". Warmer months, panties and cami, some days a bralette. eg right now.Cooler, same again and depending on the temperature, panty hose or heavy duty tights.

Nightime's, as above and when I can, ("it's complicated"), femme pj's in winter, silky full length nighties in summer. Plus a bra and breast forms.

I do not feel "complete" without some form of female apparel on my poor old "bod"

Caty.

 

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(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Karynn -

I try to underdress as often as I can, which isn't very often. When I do it is usually panties although I have worn a bra or pantyhose in the very early morning when I take the dog for a walk (less opportunity to bump into someone). There have been a couple times I have been lounging at home wearing panties under my sweatpants and my wife has wanted to go tothe store and said I am fine going as I am (so far as I know she didn't know I was wearing panties). The main reason I don't do it more often or all the time is that when I first came out to her I agreed to keep my dressing in the house. I asked about underdressing once and she is concerned if something happens to me and I wind up in the ER. I understand her concern. It has been quite awhile since that conversation and she has become more accepting, it may be time to visit that topic again.

Have fun underdressing, the feeling of feminity when doing so is so delightful.

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@karynn)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Omaha, Nebraska, United States of America
Posts: 90

@cdsue I understand SO not into my Karynn side but hopefully in time I will be in feminine attire more often.  Hopefully you too will find more time in your girly side!

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3964

@cdsue "she is concerned if something happens to me and I wind up in the ER." Suzanne

I am curious. How often do you end up in ER while in drab? I have been to hospital ERs often, recently, but I was always able to tone things down before going. It's not as if I fell over on the street. ER staff are more concerned with your health than how you are dressed, believe me. They have seen everything.

While at my latest check up, the assistant noticed my new shoes, from Torrid, with low block heels. We discussed it without incident. She didn't notice / mention that all of my other clothes were women's clothes.

You can do this, too.

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(@splitdecision)
Honorable Member     Doylestown, Pennsylvania, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Karynn

underdressing is my main cross dressing outlet. I’ve been doing it for almost 50 yrs. 
its mostly panties and a bra or bralette in the cooler months. It’s obviously not complete cding but it goes a long way in relieving the desires to let Natalie breath. 
I will sometimes wear pantyhose and I’ve even worn stockings with garter belt underneath my work clothes. Camisoles are also a very nice way to underdress. Some years back I began stealth dressing, it’s a wonderful way to express your girlie side. Especially for us closeted ladies. 

Natalie💋

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(@billyboygirl)
Eminent Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Had not been an underdresser for many decades but have gradually begun to enjoy it.

After a full dress up session, it's hard to take return to mens clothes so why not leave on the panties?

Always more fun to be wearing panties, of course...

 

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(@lucyb112)
Noble Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

I underdress whenever I can.

It’s mainly knickers, but does sometimes include a bralette.

Tomorrow is my day in the office, so it will just be knickers.

As my wife knows nothing of Lucy, I change back into boy pants for the trip home in case I forget that I’m wearing them.

Whenever I’m out alone and can’t be full on Lucy, I wear a 50:50 outfit, which is femme gear that’s not too obviously femme.

That has become a very regular thing nowadays.

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(@smoothbill)
Estimable Member     Connecticut, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

I have been underdressing for many years and love every day of it!! Panties,bra,hosiery of some sort. I do wear womens jeans every day too. Occasional full enfem but not to often:( 

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(@leah63)
Noble Member     Minneapolis, Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

I have been under dressing for the past 10 years or so.  As the years have gone, I have added more to my dressing which feels great and more"normal" now.

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(@cece)
Reputable Member     New York City, New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Since I dress fully en femme only when home alone, I enjoy underdressing on outside excursions, but do it in brief spurts. Once it starts to feel routine, I stop for a while and return to drab for a few weeks. This helps my relationship with my SO, when we both see my underdressing days in femmewear as special, not a full-time lifestyle.

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(@rachelatshop)
Trusted Member     Midcoast, Maine,, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Thank you Karynn for your story, because I so identify with so many of the girls replying. I also underdress several days a week. It was wearing pantyhose under my work pants 9 yrs ago during a cold winter having not dressing for many yrs after getting married that got me back into cross dressing, and now I do it to give my female half and little bit of girlyness. I usually wear a garterbelt, stockings, panties and a full slip under my outer clothes. I find the garterbelt and stocking easier to deal with when I need to use the bathroom.

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(@joanarbour)
Reputable Member     Missoula, Montana, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

I wear my panties every day, and in the winter I also wear tights (see, there is an advantage in living in the frozen north). 
When I wore boxers I had many colors and patterns but if you asked me I could never tell you what color or pattern, now I always remember. 

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Underdressing is my main form of dressing en femme and have been doing it for over 30 years, full-time for at least 20. I always panties (that is all I wear) and often bras. Outerwear came slowly and still only occasionally as the mood strikes me.

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(@nhvtguy08)
Trusted Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I am mostly an underdresser except when home. Well actually at home there is no under. I just wear lingerie only when I can. But when going out for day to day things I underdress almost every day.

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(@bluefin)
Reputable Member     Brodhead, Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

I have under dressed for years and now with the cooler weather I have been wearing woman's jeans when I go out, I have been getting some bodysuits so I can dress completely just need to get some bra's with the adjusters in front so there are no bumps on my back. I love the way my jeans fit...........

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(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3964

@bluefin The adjusters can show on the front, too, if the shirt is tight enough. 🫣

And I agree. Women's tight jeans are amazing! If only I knew that years ago.

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Lady
(@bluefin)
Joined: 3 years ago

Reputable Member     Brodhead, Wisconsin, United States of America
Posts: 286

@harriette I wear a hoodie most of the time but I would give a look to see what might be showing. LOL

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(@bridgettjon)
Joined: 3 years ago

Eminent Member     Dallas, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 17

@bluefin yes dear the cooler weather is our best friend because it’s to hide these annoyed strap adjusters. You know it’s something about those things is about the only thing can shake up confidence in warmer weather. 
there isn’t a single one of us that hasn’t wondered out in public “ how bad are showing through our tops and blouses. 
 If I’m wearing a bra with adjusters in the back; it’s only one two thing, I’m at home or I’m at some place where it really doesn’t matter.

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Lady
(@jjandme)
Famed Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

I just wear a loose-fitting and printed shirt to hide my bra. My wife has never complained so it must work well. It also allows me to wear small to modest-sized forms out and about all day. I nearly always wear shorts (got to show off my waxed legs), but if I do wear pants I mostly wear Levi women's jeans so I am mostly dressed en femme, but nobody is none the wiser.

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