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So about a month ago my wife found 2 pair of panties in my drawer when cleaning them out. She didn't say anything but I knew she found them when they were laying on top of all my other underwear. I didn't say anything and since she had found them and didn't say anything I was going to wear them and see what she said. I put them in the dirty clothes like I would my regular underwear. I had left Thursday before the laundry had been done. While I was away she calls and asked "Did you know the new underwear you bought are woman's panties?" I said "Um no" I was completely caught off guard. I was hoping we would have the talk when I got home, not while I was out of town. She starts laughing and say You must have bought them by mistake, they have a gusset and all they are defiantly woman's panties." She laughed it off and we went on with the day. So when I get home I'm nervous as all can be about this talk. I've wanted to have the talk for a long time and I was sure she had suspected something, just because some of the comments she had made over the years. So were sitting outside having a drink and I got the nerve to ask, "Would you like to talk about the panties?" She did and went into the same about buy by mistake. I told her "No I bought them on purpose and I want to start wearing them." She looked at me for a minute and was like "Why" I went on to explain how they are more comfortable for me and I feel a certain way when wearing them that I enjoy. I told her "I'm not gay/bi or anything else I just like wearing panties." She was slow to say OK but then said " As long as your happy you can wear what you want." I did tell her I'm not into the thong or crazy color panties, I just wear them for comfort and personal reasons. It felt like the world had been lifted off my shoulders after we spoke. So for the last month or so I've been wearing my panties everyday. She is getting use to it and if anything it has spiced up our marriage.
The most important step has been passed and the ice has been broken... and she isn't calling lawyers... congratulations!
That’s wonderful, Michelle. I’m so happy for you. I tried something similar with my wife about 6 or 7 years ago and got a resounding “No. I’m not comfortable with that.” So, I’ve been in hiding ever since.
I have to say, though, she came across a pair I had stuck in a vanity drawer in the master bath of the condo we rented a few weeks ago while we were on vacation. It was as we were packing to go home.
She called out from the bathroom, “What’s this?”
I asked, “What?”
She replied, “Panties. I guess they’re yours?”
I sheepishly went in and retrieved them after she walked out into the bedroom.
BUSTED!
Nothing else has been mentioned of them since.
I suspect she has had an inkling of my CDing for a while, now. But it’s a DADT scenario.
She also commented/questioned why my legs were so smooth one day while we were on vacation. I blew it off as an extension of my manscaping, which I began performing a few years ago. Somehow she never noticed (which I doubt) or, again, just didn’t want to ask about.
I so wanted to just “have the talk”.
BTW, she went to the office today, a rare occurrence since the beginning of the pandemic, and I kept at the opportunity to have some Raquel time.
Great outcome. It is nice that she did not hold the initial denial against you like some wives might have.
Like I said she knew something. I think it was a relieve for both us now there's nothing to hide.
Sounds like you've done the hardest part, congrats! Assuming you don't just stick with panties, it will be harder to explain a bra as a comfort item but this is basically how I did it as well. I started my wife off slow to give myself and her time to acclimate to the new situation.
-- Abbie 🥰
That’s very cool for you. It’s a very difficult conversation to have, and could go either way.
Unfortunately for me it was the final straw that ended my marriage. But that turned out to be a blessing in disguise. She was already heading in that direction and this became an excuse for her. So in a way, the conversation was necessary in for a different reason.
My next step is Halloween. Were planning a trip to Vegas. I plan to ask her to get fully dressed as a woman. I'm hoping she will be ok with it.
She did mention it. I told her I was caught of guard and that I wanted to speak about it in person. At that point nothing left to hide.
Yes I was quite nervous. I'm glad it's out there now.
Honestly, that is my dream. I've always wanted to go out on Halloween dressed but I guess I always worried that someone would figure it out.
-- Abbie 🥰
That’s really awesome. I had the talk with my wife before I started underdressing. I was already wearing men’s thongs prior to that and women’s thongs are much cheaper so it was no big thing. I underdressed for ten years before I started fully crossdressing. That also helped get my wife a bit used to my femme side before I asked her if I could crossdress.
Hugs!
I'm glad that went so well for you. I actually have more pink panties than my wife. More flower panties too.
Alana
Great result!
Your biggest problem now will be resisting the urge to buy more each time you see a lingerie department.
JoJo XXX
My wife jealous. Has mentioned often my panties prettier than hers
