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I came out to a couple of male neighbours this afternoon and here is how it happened, with a short back-story; I was in drab at the time.
As some readers may know, I have a new car and the letters in the registration number read CDR (for cross-dresser). Due to UK number plates usually being two letters, two numbers, then three letters, anything outside this format is a DVLA approved number, usually from an old car. This means that people will know I have a personalised number plate (here in the UK, we can't just make them up, they have to fulfil current or past protocols). FYI. My plate has one letter, three number then three letters.
My neighbour and a friend are often in my neighbours shed, having an afternoon beer and I pop in when I'm passing (not for a beer though, not anymore). Today, one of them asked me about my number plate and I thought, "This is it, it's time". I prevaricated at first before mentioning that they may have noticed that I wore earrings, rings and often had my nails painted and one of them said, "So CDR, cross-dresser?" I replied that I was, indeed, a part-time cross-dresser and proceeeded to show them a picture of me.
The younger of the two said, "No judgement here." (Although I suspect he was judging me nine ways to Monday). The other guy didn't say much at all, but then he's really quite old and possibly didn't even know what I was talking about.
Anyway, for good or ill, it's out there now, I have crossed the Rubicon and there is no going back.
Becca
@rebeccabaxter Well done Becca! I hope that means you can now come and go from the house more freely en femme? It's so liberating when you tell people isn't it 🙂
Time will tell. I'm hoping they won't be able to keep their mouths shut about it, that'll save me [or cause me] some grief.
@rebeccabaxter Sounds like it went great. I like that your friends didn’t seem to pursue it, another example that people really don’t care what other people do in their spare time.
Of course when someone says “no judgement”, they are. It’s human nature to. Usually when I’m judging silently I tend to reach the conclusion of - good luck with all that!
And now that monkey’s off your back🥰
It is a fact that the friend who said that is also a very right-wing person and seems to hate everyone foreign or religious, some especially. However, I've known him for years as an close-ish acquaintance and so long as I don't try to force it with him, he'll probably be alright with it.
@rebeccabaxter Well, time will tell Becca. I’ve found that with most of the “haters” I’m aware of in my world, their bark is worse than their bite. Takes a lot of time and energy to hate stuff. Anyone with a modicum of common sense would eventually have to admit, ahh, what do I care? To each his own.
GP
*hey, you don’t like the Beatles but I still like you!🥰
*hey, you don’t like the Beatles but I still like you!🥰
And I, you. We'll have The Beatles 'talk' another time 🙂
@rebeccabaxter Really pleased for you, hope it means you can come and go as you please.
Hugs,
Anna xx
Up to a point Anna, up to a point. I do have a neighbour who will never accept me as a woman, a man, or even a cuddly puppy; we hate each other with a vengeance. The saving grace is that if she ever says anything, I can say "I'm a better-looking woman than you" and be 100% accurate. She walks like a bloke, looks like a bloke and sounds like one too—no, she is not FtM (but you'd be hard-pressed to tell) 🤣.
@rebeccabaxter There's always somebody like that who will disapprove of anything. That's her problem.
@rebeccabaxter What's done is done. Let us know how or if things change with your neighbours.
@rebeccabaxter Sounds like it went well. Time will tell if any changes in them towards you.
@rebeccabaxter Let us all know if the grass is really greener on the other side lol. I expect so. fantastic for you. Cheers RC
What's done is done and of course time will tell. The reaction of a friend to say Crossdresser was perhaps an indication he had an inkling so maybe was suspicious anyway.
I hope it does go well and things move forward for you.
@ab123 Angela, I've hardly been subtle. Earrings, rings, bracelets, nail polish. TBH, I've practically got it written on my forehead; I'm surprised it took so long for it to be mentioned (I was never going to bring it up directly first).
XX
@rebeccabaxter But you did. You wanted to be "outed". So do I. It would be such a relief, but the wife would feel humiliated.
@rebeccabaxter But you did. You wanted to be "outed". So do I. It would be such a relief, but the wife would feel humiliated.
Not in words, only actions. It's like a guideline in chess, let them take first, it improves your position. I let them bring it up, that way it wouldn't seem [too much] like I was forcing the issue.
However I did it, it worked, so while I'm not going to suddenly appear as Becca, if I'm seen, I'll not have to be too concerned about it.
I just have to wait for it to permeate through the village; I'm sure it will as one of my neighbours (so long as he wasn't too drunk to remember the subject being brought up) is a terrible gossip and knows everyone here.
We'll see.
It just goes to show nobody really notices much of anything. We think all oir signs are not subtle, but people just do not notice such things unless hot ovwr the head with them. Even when people do learn of our dressing, nobody cares.
If you secretly like to dress Goth, nobody would really care if they found out you dressed that way. Dressing en femme is not much different.
Even when people do learn of our dressing, nobody cares.
Of all of the coming-out stories related here, I only remember the ones involving wives as being of the most concern or consequence, maybe so other family members. Neighbours and friends? Not so much, and there are some laws involving the workplace or washrooms.
@harriette When en femme, I use the ladies' toilets, unless it's a school holiday and there are a lot of kids around. If that's the case, I'll be more careful and if I really feel I shouldn't use the ladies', then I'll look for a unisex or a disabled toilet and use that. If absolutely all else fails, I have a bottle in the car for emergencies—it has yet to be used and it's been there six months.
Workplace-wise, I'm retired, so no problem there.
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