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Three months ago I decided to cross dress in public so went out to town and was given strange looks and gestures. I felt uncomfortable so I lost my confidence and one lady said I wasn't a real women.
Stories like this are mentioned all so often and many have had a fabulous time. I myself have never been out but waiting to do so when ready . I guess where a person go's has much to do with it too . How a person feels inside I'm sure is the most important thing , how one looks outside shouldnt be an issue and certainly not in someone's else's eyes . Theses are thoughts of mind and only mine. I understand feeling uncomfortable I likely would have too but don't be discouraged I'm sure many of theses ladies here have good things to say and are willing to share . I'm now starting to gain my confinance and I'm NOT going to let anyone take that away . Feel confinance in yourself and let no one tell you different. And by the way that woman and her comment, to me it sounds like she was just jealous Lol!!! . Smile be happy who you are. 🌹
Thanks with your advise
Some people just suck!
Enjoy who you are, everyday! Celebrate the many facets that make up the complicated person you are.....that we / people / all are!
Have fun, do what you want...when you want!
Don't stop being that beautiful person inside!!
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I congratulate you for going out in public dressed. That is a bold and scary thing. It's easy to lose confidence, especially when you are already self conscious and feel people are looking at you. I think our big deal as cross dressers is to be passable. But I think to us passable means really pretty. By our standards, many women are not passable.
When I go out I worry about my heels being too high making me 6'6'. Is my pantyhose too shiny? Is my often crotch short dress too short? I think I'm putting on a magnificent leg show but is it too much? Is my long blonde hair drawing attention too? If people are staring is it because they like how I look? Do they think I'm dressed too sexy? Do they realize I'm a guy trying to look like a girl? Am I pretty or at least passable? These thoughts and questions go through my mind constantly.
I hope if you go out again your experience will be fun and fulfilling,
Lilley; Thank you for sharing the story of your outing. It's unfortunate that you were so disrespected. Was this your first outing? Encounters like this are not uncommon. Since you were made to feel uncomfortable, did you end your trip early or did you complete it. Your confidence may have been shaken where other people are concerned by them. The main thing to remember, never lose your overall confidence in yourself. As long as you accept yourself for who you are, that's the most important part. Even though it's painful to think about; try to remember what caused each person to "read" or out you, then do your best to reduce that point for the next time. I hope since you posted this that you've tried to go out again and had more success. Sent with positive support.
