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I have a drug problem due to the shame of this side of me. I’m trying to be sober and part of that is accepting this side of myself. I didn’t tell anyone other than a best friend about my secret until this week because I did something stupid just to dress up. I went with another cd to their friends house. As soon as I stepped in I knew they were using. I was immediately uncomfortable cuz I've been sober for months and wanted it to stay that way. His friend was cool, but they invited another person over who treated me very nicely. After he left I was talking to the others, and that's when I realized I was being used by him cuz I was the new pretty girl and he was interested in that. I felt disgusting and hated every choice I made that day. A few days later I just couldn’t get rid of those feelings so I decided to tell my mom everything and I actually felt better after.
@britneyjolts So sorry for your experience, Britney. Finding a therapist is a good suggestion and/or an organization like AA . I have no experience with that but I hear it is a good way to go. The suggestion of finding a positive LGBTQ group can be good too.
Also we are all here to listen and offer support.
Cassie
@loneleycd thank you. As long as I got the support of you girls I know I’ll be good 🙂
Yikes! You should really think about getting yourself to a LGBTQ support group in you area.
I’m looking into it. I’m still trying to get comfortable with being open about this side of myself
Britney, Please read this carefully and as often as you feel you need to: There is NOTHING WRONG with your desire to cross dress or transition if that’s who you are. Don’t let other people’s problems with those issue become your issues. You may want to set an appointment with a therapist to talk through your fears, concerns, as well as your hopes for a happier and healthier future. You’re good enough.
Hugs from a happy cross dresser and fellow sister, Jill
@jillannquinn thank you so much Jill those words mean so much to me, I don’t know why I saw this so late but thank you so much I’ll read this whenever I’m feeling down 🙂
@britneyjolts please don’t worry about being late with your response. Please just focus on your mental, emotional and physical health.
I don’t know if this will help, but my wife watches a lot of shows/videos about pedophiles and she has noticed that when the narrator or whomever is explaining the background of those vile people, so far not one of them has been a cross dresser, transgender person, or a drag queen.
I don’t care what color a person is, what religion, political affiliation, or any of that stuff. I only care if a person harms other people, especially children. So hold your head up high because you’re not a bad person because you need to dress in women’s clothing. None of us are. Have a wonderful weekend and be beautiful if you want to!
Hugs, Jill
Congratulations on staying sober, it is a real challenge. Do not let your dressing be a source of anxiety, which can lead to a desire or need to use. Just accept that you enjoy dressing and that in and of itself is fine. Having people who support you know about this can also be helpful as this is just who you are. If others can't accept that, it is their problem, not yours. Avoid contact, or at least discuss this with non-supportive people right now as you work through all of this.
As for the guy who hit on you, just accept it as a compliment that you have done a good job with your presentation, and leave it at that. I have been hit on a couple. of times which I turn down any indication as I am happily married, but it is nice to think I am presentable enough to be of interest to others.
@jjandme Thank you JJ, I’ve learning to go out to be more confident so I won’t need to use anymore. It was nice being hit on, it was just a weird situation in general that kinda made it bad
@jjandme going out definitely helps me to get more used to this be being confident with it. I didn’t mind that he hit in me. I actually started it but it was the other 2 people there they had
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