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It was the 8th stop of my out dressed adventure that day. Wearing my new leggings with a decorated tank top, a cardigan, one of my favorite purses, a favorite watch, a necklace borrowed from my wife (without asking), painted toes in platform sandals, and usual guy face / haircut with no makeup, sunglasses on my head. I felt good, relaxed, just Lea out shopping. I felt pretty inside, and the store mirrors said I looked androgynous, maybe a younger version of me as a hip guy.
The 1st stop, a dept store return, stood in line a bit nervous, but calmed myself down. Who cares if anyone sees me. The cashier calls me up with a gentle voice, smiled at me, and was just so reassuring that I belonged without saying it. I complimented her necklace and saw her glow with happiness as she thanked me.
The 2nd stop, another dept store return. Again a friendly cashier who even asked me if I had a good weekend (it was Monday). Another normal interaction. Another pleasant experience.
The 7th stop, filling up gas. A guy at the pump across of me seemed to be watching me as he filled up. His look was curious. I went about my business. I didn't try to hide my feminine look with my car. I let everyone see my outfit and my shoes.
Heading home, I decided to make the 8th stop, a thrift store I frequent. Lots of customers, I held the door for two older women as one had some difficulty walking. Then one apologized for their slowness. I replied that it was completely okay, nothing to be apologetic for. It was then the other one turned to me and said "You're absolutely gorgeous".
The world around me became hazy. I ended up on cloud nine. I thanked the wonderful person for their compliment. Cloak of super powers activated. I bought a few items and left the store.
On my drive home, I thought about where to stop to put on my hoodie and change into guy shoes so the neighbors wouldn't notice my outfit when I parked in the driveway. I thought about just parking in the garage for a secret arrival home.
Still on cloud 9, empowered, feeling like Lea, I parked in the driveway, noticed the neighbor's garage door open, couldn't see them, shed any bit of nervousness, exited my car and walked straight to my front door looking like Lea.
I felt gorgeous.
@lea-jhene that must have been a very uplifting experience for you, just wish I had the confidence to leave the house en-femme, I close all my curtains when I cross-dress at home in case the neighbours see me.
@lizzy89 I was like you many years ago, curtains closed. Maybe it's age, experience, society changing, inspiration from all the ladies on here, something unexplainable, I realize I'm caring less and less about what most people think.
Heartwarming to read of your success and your bravery. I want to grow more as a woman, and I know it just takes time and practice. Thank you for your inspiration.
Dani
"You're absolutely gorgeous".
Those are words that I will never hear. 😂
I love reading experiences like this from other CDs, though. It gives me hope that, at some point, I can do better.
Well, it came close to this, today.
I waited until a new pink sweater came by courier, changed into it (looked good, of course), and went shopping for something that I need. I visited a Specsavers, to meet the British sales cleark named Emerald. When we met while buying new glasses, the first thing that I told her was that I crossdress. (Don't beat around the bush.) Not too many of them around, eh?
I mentioned an eye problem that I have been having lately, so she referred me to one of their other technicians. When introducing me, Emerald referred to me as "she". That's a first! I am letting that sink in.
Oh, and she loved my sweater and how I was dressed, too, for icing on the cake.
Today, I made another run to the same mall and got a chance to chat longer with Emerald again. She had spent a lot of time doing some fancy Hallowe'en make-up, so I complimented on her talent. Well done!
Emerald complimented me on my clothes again - and my "nice breasts. They are bigger than mine".
@harriette I never thought I would have heard those words. I'm glad it gives you hope.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I was lucky to meet a wonderful beholder.
Congrats on your encounters and compliments from Emerald. You go girl! You are beautiful!
That's lovely! I'm so glad you had that experience! 🙂
Every compliment you get should have this as a base reply: Smile and say thank you. If you're feeling creative, feel free to reverse the order.
No matter the compliment, that should always be the response (and in either mode, I should note). Don't reject it or deflect it, that does two wrongs: 1) tells the complimenter that their personal opinion is wrong, which is, of course, silly, and 2) reaffirms to yourself that you're not that nice thing they said and not worthy of complimenting.
No self-deprecating reply, don't think about why they're saying it, don't consider any potential ulterior motives - 🙂 Thank you! and you're done.
@melodeescarlet Yes, absolutely perfect advice. Thanks for saying this Melodee. Marg
@margprodue I'd also note that when you get good at it, it's fulfilling to return a compliment if possible. " 🙂 Thank you! And I just love your purse/shoes/top/etc."
Then they get the chance to feel the same! 🙂
I have to echo Mel's comment here. I've been guilty of self-deprecating responses plenty of times. I know that I'm attractive. But I've struggled to admit that. Blame it on decades of social conditioning. But the truth is we are all beautiful. Perceptive people see more than your appearance. They see a beautiful person. #transisbeautiful
/LK
@lizk Very well said. I totally agree about social conditioning. I struggle with it all the time.
@lizk Well said. We are beautiful. We just need to believe it, and hearing it helps us believe.
@melodeescarlet Great comments! Yes, just say thank you, smile, and maybe send a compliment back.
Wow, Lea what a wonderful moment that must have been! I love how it emboldened you to show your gorgeous side on your return home. I hope you get many more compliments like that 🙂
The only way is up Lea. Lovely day of empowerment.
Lea, it’s so nice to hear someone’s positive story about their adventure out. Isn’t it interesting that just a simple normal everyday outing can turn out to be one of the best times that we all remember. It is wonderful to get out and get noticed in a positive way like you did. I’m so happy for you.
@jennconn The everyday outing is what made it even more special. You're so right about how such things matter. Thank you!
Could we get at least a selfie in the Private Photos Lea? It would be interesting to see the outfit that generated all of the positivity?😊
