Archived Replies To: Does the desire to feminize diminish or intensify as we get older?

Wow-you could almost be describing my experience, Kendra! I turned 50 this year and like you I thought "as I got older and got married, the desire to crossdress would go away as I had a "real woman" in my life". But as the marriage went on the desire-or to be honest the NEED to express my feminine side grew more intense and once our marriage split up, the feelings intensified even more. I wear panties and trouser socks to work everyday under my male clothes and living on my own have seen my feminine wardrobe explode and spend at least several hours a day if not the entire evening or overnight dressed completely as a woman. And am questioning whether "just dressing" is enough or whether I am truly a woman who needs to begin transitioning even at my advanced age. The transgender/crossdressing feelings WILL likely get stronger as you get older so enjoy them!

Cynthia

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Cynthia. So far I am enjoying this re-awakening very much.

All the best

Kendra

Hi Kendra , yes it certainly does intensify. I'm now in my 60s and the urge is stronger than ever, dresses,skirts, i buy obsessively and panties i have far to many. If there was a chance i could dress as Zoe all the time i would take it. I love dressing as a gurl so i have welcomed this desire, i hope you gurls out there do to.X

Nice to hear I am not the only one to experience a reawakening

Thanks

I've seen it come and go over the years. For me it seems to intensify during times of high stress. I think it provides me an escape from the high stress working world where I can pretend that I'm NOT the sole bread winner for my family. This happened 4 years ago and from that time on my dressing ramped up to buying my own clothes which was a first. If others see this as an escape then I could see that correlating to getting older as work stress tends to increase with age as well.

though I can't really talk here since I only started 7 years ago, my need to dress has intensified SO much, I am now full time and very comfortable

I have tried to stop dressing with each relationship but the urge and desire to dress always comes back it is a part of everyone of us it's something you or I can't let go that is why I will not deny it anymore it is a part of me like breathing is everyone hugs Debra:))

Thanks so much for all the comments. I love Jennifer's description of the desire coming back with the fiery vengeance of an erupting volcano. That is what it has been like for me since I walked into that drugstore and bought myself a pair of pantyhose a couple of months ago. I am not sure exactly why I chose the moment I did, but I did not expect a volcano eruption. I was pretty calm when I bought them, a few butterflies but nothing major, but by the time I got home and walked in the door with the pantyhose in my hand, my heart was pounding as if it would explode through my chest. And then when I pulled them up my leg - OMG!! Bliss!!! So now I am wearing tights or pantyhose under my pants when I go to work.

And all this suddenly exploding after years of doing without

Amazing

It amazes me how many time I read something here on the site and feel like someone has been reading my mind. Jennifer's comments above ring very true for me as well(even the timing is similar as to when I first started dressing, to the approximate length of marriage to currently being fifty and having that same feeling and intensity of the desire-nay the need- to let the long repressed female part of my soul express herself. While I'm not sure exactly how far this journey will be, I'm frightened and excited at the same time to take it one small step at a time(in heels of course!).

Cynthia

Wow ! Jennifer, Kendra & Debra, we are truly sisters. I am not going to repeat you stories , words & experiences, because they are mine as well. The purging, the fear, the felling that you are told, live you different than you feel. I am the same way and my Feminine side is so strong. I tell my wife all the time that my " Girl side is kicking in", really it is both physical & mental. I am definitely a stronger girl or woman everyday 🙂 Luvs Kathie

Wow. Reading your posts is SO comforting. I am 60 and the feelings just get stronger every day. I, too, sit at work going over outfits in my mind. I love to shop and always find myself looking at what the women are wearing when I'm trapped in my male uniform. Thanks to all of you for sharing. It really does help!

I have similar feelings as well - the older I get the more I enjoy dressing en femme.

I would definitely agree with all of you - the older I get the more I want to dress. Part of it is just getting more comfortable with all of me, and realizing I have both masculine and feminine aspects to me my personality and that the female parts don't have to be repressed. The other part is realizing that most of the world really doesn't care how I dress and so it's all right for me to dress however I darn well please.

I am 55 and think my intensity has increased . As Kendra said about her children being grown ,mine as well at least my23 yr old son has graduated College and on his own,and my youngest is 15 and they both are accepting of my choice so that has freed me up a lot though not in a clubbing way
So i think the desire might lay dormantfor a while with somebut never truly leaves,because this is a part of who we are,at least that is my interpretation of this!