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So Ill admit I haven't dressed in about three weeks. For some of you this is a gasp moment I know. The last time I did something happened that I was unsure about. I had about an hour to dress to myself while I was watching my kid. He's 2 so he doesn't remember anything. Anyways I was in the bed room dressing and he was like "da da, da da". He walked in on me in hose a bra and slipping on a dress and stopped and started saying "mom. Mom". I don't want to be one of those dad's that scar their kids or confuse them. I don't want them to feel the same struggles that I have and if they chose to crossdress then so be it. But should I feel obligated to stop if my son starts calling me mom? It might just have been he saw the clothes and automatically associated it with my wife and I'm just over reacting. He's to young for me to sit him down and be like ok this is me but should I save dressing for when I'm home alone or lock the door or something. What do you lady's think and has anyone else had this happen. And should I count this as getting caught. He'll never rememer so I don't feel I've been caught.
Firstly, I'd like to say that I never had kids; however, this illustrates what is wrong with societal mores. From a very young age, children are taught that girls and boys act differently, and that they are expected to play a gender role according to what is between their legs. Regrettably, we have a long way to go before society views this in a more enlightened manner. I think it might be wise to wait until your son is old enough to have conversation about it so he has a chance to see both sides of the issue and come to terms with it.
Steph
I agree with steph's comments. PErhaps keep the dressing private until your son is maybe 4-5 years old(or maybe 3 depending in the child and level of development) when as you noted you can have a covnversation and explain on a simplified level about your crossdressing with him
Well Sarina, I never had that problem but don't count on a two year old's memory. Maybe right now he doesn't correlate but when he is older the memory could surface. I would keep the door locked or better yet, only dress when no one is home to catch you.
At the moment, he 'knows' that mom was getting dressed. I don't think his current visual will in any way predispose him to cross dress later in life. The various levels of crossdressing, as far as I know, are built in.
It is not something that can be conditioned out of you despite what various parts of society would have you believe. Just because YOU crossdress does not mean any of your children will. What you can do is teach respect and tolerance for differences. If your wife is supportive, talk about all this with her but save the talk to your children until they are old enough to handle the information. If you and your wife treat it properly, they won't see it is wrong or bad.
Good luck !!!
Remember, children learn best by the examples of their elders first, from parents on, and from their siblings and how the family unit treats everyone around them. They are most adaptable and impressionable at their early ages. This is why I said don't discount his memory.
